Lift, lift, and lift again then put a shirtless picture up on tinder once you have abs. I've been on Tinder for about a year now and have never really had success. Put my new profile picture as a shirtless picture after the gym which I know is recommended but have never done because I always thought it was the douchiest thing I could do, 2 hours later I've got a HB7 coming over to my house. If you guys are struggling to get any dates or meet ups from tinder, put that picture up, it works.
Edit: Dam I didn't think this would blow up as much as it would
trpftw 9y ago
Yep.
As you can see, all women want from you is to touch your body and take photos to show off to their friends.
They're such pigs! ;)
awalt_cupcake 9y ago
up-vote for winky face
Braaaaaapp 9y ago
This fuckin' bitch. I tell her to text me when she's here. She say's "here". I say, I don't see you, where are you? She say's "at home"... I'm like "what happened?" she tells me she feels like she was going to be raped... I was like are you serious why didn't you tell me earlier? She starts apologizing and I just tell her goodnight. The audacity... I didn't blow up on her at all because at this point it's just a game and I'd rather keep frame but what in the actual fuck... I'm going back to the anger phase...
teeelo 9y ago
So you kinda jumped the gun didn't yah?
I have pretty decent abs and got more matches (nothing conclusive yet) taking the shirtless selfie pic down.
I think it depends where you live and the feminine culture there, where the photo was taken, how it was taken, if you took it, etc etc....too many variables.
It's hit or miss if you put that pic up. Some girls dig it, some won't.
And always meet somewhere public first man, don't just invite some random stranger over...Jesus...
throwaway-aa2 9y ago
you shouldn't have replied "what happened" to this. something simple that makes her think "why the fuck is he cool with this". a simple "ok." would have sufficed, or you play on the rape angle, e.g. "only if you want me to. I will smack you on your ass though, does that count as rape?". Someone needs to come out with a diffusal post... whenever girls say shit like this, do NOT engage them logically. No "what happened"... EVER! Oh she did this? ok whatever. This is your fear? I'm going to make fun of you for it which makes you question yourself for being silly especially seeing as how your making light of a fear of you but since when is a rapist funny?". A simple "ok." speaks VOLUMES.
Girls are flaky as fuck, they always will be and then just start crying and be the victim to excuse it. You learn to deal with it with multiple plates... it becomes more of a "silly little sister" sort of attitude where you expect it and you just laugh to yourself because you know shy little women are going to constantly pull it.
Get mad for now, but then pull yourself back. In the future, stop giving bitches validation by asking questions prodding them for more information when they should have given more info in the first place. You don't have time, fuck em. But not an ANGRY fuck em... but an "eh w/e fuck her... she's another silly girl!" and laugh it off. It's logical and it's the main way you'll stay sane.
mr_nate_ 9y ago
Good point, this is something I need to get better at. Women aren't talking to you for a logical interaction, they're looking for someone to disrupt the everyday malaise of their boring life. An emotional disruption (we all know women cater to emotions rather than logic) excites her and surprises her. Saying "Okay" to her shit rather than inquiring separates you from every other beta orbiter.
I agree, we do need an extensive and accurate post on this on the main sub.
Gawernator 9y ago
Hard to do until you get used to it... Basically have to retrain some of your social framework
Sementeries 9y ago
A wise man learns from others mistakes.
Gawernator 9y ago
I sure am trying to
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AmlanceJockey 9y ago
Fuck that. she pulled the rape card as an excuse for flakiness. to many non capital crime fish in the sea bruh
NiftyDolphin 9y ago
She pulled the rape card to create drama. She wanted some juicy, angry-entitled-bro rant to screenshot and post next to his shirtless pic on her tumblr page.
OP foiled that when he just told her goodnight.
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GourmetCoffee 9y ago
I tried the abs pick on various dating sites and all I got was fat chicks and gay dudes hitting on me.
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RPAlternate42 9y ago
Seconded. I always look better in the morning than at night, except after a heavy lift session.
OmLaLa 9y ago
I'm... sniff I'm so proud. My boys... my boys're growing up. sniff sniff
tino125 9y ago
Let me disagree... selfies appear douchey and self-absorbed. Take pictures with friends, by the pool, at the beach. I'm shirtless all the fucking time (legit a running joke among my friends), but not once have I ever put up a selfie. Don't do it!
_whistler 9y ago
So...Alpha then?
Let's be clear: there's nothing wrong with being douchey and self-absorbed. Douchey self-absorbed guys get a metric fuckton of tail.
Here's the thought process of your Natural Alpha Gym-Bro when he posts a shirtless selfie: My abs look sick! Check this shit out!
Here's the thought process of a Beta trying to figure out what pictures to post: Will a shirtless pic come across as douchey? Will this shirt complement my skin? Will this picture of me with my hot female friend make it seem like I'm trying too hard?
Just post a fucking picture you think you look good in, and don't fucking care about it so much.
tino125 9y ago
I'd rather come off as someone who has a fun, interesting life, while looking ripped as fuck at the beach... than someone who has no friends and can only get a shirtless photo if they're the one taking it themselves. Just my opinion. I've had a ton of success with shirtless photos, they're just not ones I take of myself.
throwaway-aa2 9y ago
Isn't that conceptually sort of silly though? We know girls respond to more muscles but it's only ok to have pictures that are not intentionally taken to capture them? I get what you're saying but that logic doesn't hold water because you could easily post up other photos showing you have a fun interesting life. The problem is this silly perception that the only time it's ok to post shirtless pics is if it's by a friend and it's natural. Why do we care so much about putting on such a front for people? Women CLEARLY respond to pics of muscles.... who cares if the pic is intentional or not then?
I feel like this logic carries over into seduction... where you're a creep if you're a pickup artist... the idea that you expended any effort to make yourself more valuable is creepy... the actuality is we all invest effort, especially women with all their bullshit makeup, clothes, shaven eyebrows and waxed bodies and done hair and high heels. We all invest effort but at the same time want to make it look like zero effort.
The funniest thing about it... is it's fucking TINDER! It's literally the app where you swipe left and right on if people are pretty or not, and the main goal of the app is to fuck (as much as people want it to be some dating service)... and you know people search through their BEST possible pictures and put them there (and also take pictures solely for dating services but again act like that was no effort). The idea that you swipe left / right on looks but a guy with a shirtless selfie pic is a douchebag... but some fucking cunt at a club taking a picture with all her friends while she has pounds of makeup on and a dress.... no that's alright though!!!! You're not going out of your way to try hard at impressing anyone!
How about those girls who post those club pics of themselves take NATURAL pics without slim cut dresses and low cut tops, with big sexy smiles even though they have resting bitch face 99% of the time in life... what a bunch of douchebags!
It's silly. It's all a stupid fucking game, a way to grab power in a social standing. 48 laws of power shit really... try your ass off but just deny you put effort into it. And it's like, fuck it. I'd much rather post a shirtless pic and get the bitches that are definitely down to fuck, because if they swipe right on my body, they're probably willing to do a lot more. Again I get what you're saying.. it looks better when it's shirtless and an action shot because bitches are dumb and need it to be natural (aka you're not trying) even if it's obvious if you think about it for a fucking second that you purposely put that up knowing that people would think the same thing....
But this is the reason I don't fuck with dating services. I'm 100% cool with posting selfies... but as I think about it I see your point. It's just fucking so stupid though.
_whistler 9y ago
And that's cool, it works for you, so if it ain't broke don't fix it.
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rpisnotpua 9y ago
That's one of the rules. You have to be awesome, but you get more points for making it look effortless.
HellhoundsOnMyTrail 9y ago
Good to know. That last 10 pounds can't go away quick enough
thenarrrowpath 9y ago
How do you get it on facebook? Can access photos on tinder even if they're set to private? Or did you just not gaf and put it up?
TheRedLadle 9y ago
My tinder profile uses pictures that I've set to only be viewable by me.
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suchhound 9y ago
Yeah, and they also say that they're not looking for hook ups Then they'll be slurping your cock an hour later
Gawernator 9y ago
Yeah that's true huh. Ignore their BS statements
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If shirtless make it one of the pictures you've got a female in.
My golden standard is 1. Shirtless at beach next to hb8. 2. Another more casual photo with hb7-8. Photo with a dog.
Like fish in a barrel.
Gawernator 9y ago
Nice.