you cant force attraction. if they arent attracted to you, nothing you do will create the addiction...
if, however, there is attraction/chemistry... then, being as non-needy/clingy will be your best bet... dont rush into trying to lock her down. dont over pursue and over communicate via text... go out, have fun, hook up... the addiction builds with time, if you remain non-attached.
This is very interesting, so, attraction happens, you remain to be “that guy” and keep your cool. This actually might explain why at the beginning girls seem to think I am some sort of demi-god(I am 6’3, “smart”, well spoken, not strong but I have 5 months lifting hehe)and later I might even come as “lame”!
You hit the nail when you say do not try to lock them down, this is my main sin, I over pursue specially through text.
According to a post I read recently I also need to be careful of not to reject the girl to her advances. And according to Mark Manson(Models) She always need to be more invested that me.
The thing I cannot mesh together is that the simple fact of approaching and saying “Hi, this is kinda random, but I think you’re cute and decided to say hi” or something similar is already an investment. Isn’t?
Also, I have read in many sites that women feel aroused when they are desired, so I guess instead of saying how sexy she is today, I guess I should do it through kino.
well, yes, you need to pursue a BIT in the beginning. obviously you cant not chase if you want to get the girl. you must do so for the first week or so (but not overdoing it). you say hi. you get the number. you ask her out on a date that YOU plan. you DONT text her all morning and night. you ask again a week later. then as she learns about you and becomes invested, she will start reaching out more (chasing you - if her interest level is high).
she wont ask you on dates (some might, dont expect them to), but figure this, if she texts you to talk to you, assume its because she wants to hang out with you, you plan another date (she opens doors for you by initiating, you just walk through)... and so on. as the attraction builds, they will be thinking about you, want to see how you are doing through out the day, wondering if you are thinking about them, etc.. keep the small talk to a minimum on text, then get em out on more dates. occasional phone calls are good, when you are free. but dont drop everything in your busy life to contact them. it will take weeks for her to be extremely into you, and if you do this right, she will initiate and pursue 80% of the time. thats what we mean by chasing. its a feminine trait.
so basically, if you start getting rejected, or they become flakey after a date or two, you DONT keep reaching out and trying to make shit work. women are like cats, you have to let them roam, and when they come back, you just make the next date happen. (non needy). this is why everyone is going to tell you to date multiple women.. because when one isnt interested, or stops responding to your advances, you could care less because you have others ready to go out with you.
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[deleted] 8y ago
you cant force attraction. if they arent attracted to you, nothing you do will create the addiction...
if, however, there is attraction/chemistry... then, being as non-needy/clingy will be your best bet... dont rush into trying to lock her down. dont over pursue and over communicate via text... go out, have fun, hook up... the addiction builds with time, if you remain non-attached.
Elfclan30 8y ago
This is very interesting, so, attraction happens, you remain to be “that guy” and keep your cool. This actually might explain why at the beginning girls seem to think I am some sort of demi-god(I am 6’3, “smart”, well spoken, not strong but I have 5 months lifting hehe)and later I might even come as “lame”!
You hit the nail when you say do not try to lock them down, this is my main sin, I over pursue specially through text.
According to a post I read recently I also need to be careful of not to reject the girl to her advances. And according to Mark Manson(Models) She always need to be more invested that me.
The thing I cannot mesh together is that the simple fact of approaching and saying “Hi, this is kinda random, but I think you’re cute and decided to say hi” or something similar is already an investment. Isn’t?
Also, I have read in many sites that women feel aroused when they are desired, so I guess instead of saying how sexy she is today, I guess I should do it through kino.
Help?!
[deleted] 8y ago
well, yes, you need to pursue a BIT in the beginning. obviously you cant not chase if you want to get the girl. you must do so for the first week or so (but not overdoing it). you say hi. you get the number. you ask her out on a date that YOU plan. you DONT text her all morning and night. you ask again a week later. then as she learns about you and becomes invested, she will start reaching out more (chasing you - if her interest level is high).
she wont ask you on dates (some might, dont expect them to), but figure this, if she texts you to talk to you, assume its because she wants to hang out with you, you plan another date (she opens doors for you by initiating, you just walk through)... and so on. as the attraction builds, they will be thinking about you, want to see how you are doing through out the day, wondering if you are thinking about them, etc.. keep the small talk to a minimum on text, then get em out on more dates. occasional phone calls are good, when you are free. but dont drop everything in your busy life to contact them. it will take weeks for her to be extremely into you, and if you do this right, she will initiate and pursue 80% of the time. thats what we mean by chasing. its a feminine trait.
so basically, if you start getting rejected, or they become flakey after a date or two, you DONT keep reaching out and trying to make shit work. women are like cats, you have to let them roam, and when they come back, you just make the next date happen. (non needy). this is why everyone is going to tell you to date multiple women.. because when one isnt interested, or stops responding to your advances, you could care less because you have others ready to go out with you.
arrayay 8y ago
You need to work on your approach, that is not a good opener.
mrpoopistan 8y ago
If you're trying to "make" a woman do anything, you're really not getting the point of TRP at all.
Being invested to the point you want her to be emotionally invested means you've already failed.
ProfessorSlapaho 8y ago
you can't make someone do anything.
but in your case, I'd probably refrain from talking to her, like at all.
sampsonstar698 8y ago
what do you mean by emotional investment exactly?