There you go man:

DO NOT REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR!

The one thing women want more than anything else in a relationship is your attention. Therefore, the best way to lead a relationship is to give and withhold your attention (much the way some women do with sex). Praise your girlfriend and give her lots of attention when she does things that make you happy: cuddle with her after sex, kiss her when she says something nice about you and touch her whenever she is being sweet. You get the idea. Psychologically, this anchors positive emotions to her good behavior.

On the flip side, ignore her when she is being a brat. Withdraw yourself completely from pointless fights and drama. The worst thing you can do is to get drawn into a fight with a girl over something unimportant. In a girls mind, it translates to, “If I want his attention, all I have to do is start a fight over something stupid.” It encourages her to create needless drama. If a girl starts a fight with you, then do anything to remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible. This is the best way to punish and correct bad behavior in relationships.

THE SOFT NEXT

The punishment should fit the crime. If a girl does something blatantly disrespectful or totally unacceptable, then you should initiate a “soft next”. A soft next is where you completely cut contact with a girl for a couple days immediately after she displays any really bad behavior (may be longer, depending on how often you see her). You don’t reply to e-mails, texts, or answer her phone calls.. no matter what. Just be too busy for a couple days. Then, when you initiate contact again, you act as if nothing happened. You do not need to verbally acknowledge that you are purposely ignoring her to punish her. If she asks, then just tell her you were busy (no need to go into details). If she gets dramatic again, then leave and repeat the process. This is incredibly effective and probably your single greatest tool for dealing with drama in a relationship.

The soft next works because it anchors negative consequences / emotions to bad behavior. On some level, she’ll realize that if she acts out again, then she will be deprived of your attention. It also shows her, through trial and error, what kinds of behavior are considered unacceptable to you.

Real life examples of behavior I’ve encountered that resulted in a soft next:

• Any kind of blatant disrespect (ex: flaking on me without calling).
• Getting emotional and starting fights over really stupid things (Ex: gets pissed because I didn’t want to go shopping with her).
• Saying “We need to have a TALK”.. I hate having “Talks” and avoid them like the plague
• Any kind of ultimatum (i.e. “promise me monogamy.. or else!”)
• Any kind of physical assault

If you want to lead a relationship effectively, then these skills are essential. This is how a confident man deals with relationship problems. Beta-males and/or AFC’s will not have the balls to go through with this course of action because they will be too afraid to lose the relationship. Don’t be that guy.