I have decided to enter monk mode legitimately starting in January. This is different to New Year's resolutions, that often fail to endure. I don't think this period of monk mode will last beyond June/July, where I plan to hopefully have developed effective habits that are a part of the new me.

The Goals of this monk mode process is to improve myself and my SMV.

I will not actively pursue women: For as long as I can remember, women have in some ways dictated my happiness. I know this is not how it should be but I feel actively choosing not to think about women will allow me to focus on myself. On top of this, it will assist me in stopping my pedestalising ways.

I will continue to lift: I have been going to gym for the last month, 3 days per week. I am not too sure if I will increase my days at gym for the moment but I will continue to meet 3 days a week and any additional day is encouraged.

Reading: I must always be reading something. It doesn't have to be self-improvement related or even a challenging book but just reading something to keep my mind active.

Cooking: I cannot cook for shit. I will learn to cook over the monk mode period not just for the additional skills but also so that I can better my diet.

Work on body language/communication: Each week I will pick a component of communication and read about it, then put it into practice at work (I work in retail so I have to speak to customers constantly).

I will address approach anxiety: This may seem to contradict the first point, but I'll be viewing the construct of AA separately from focusing on women to focusing on myself, I hope to lessen my irrational fear of talking to random people.

I will eliminate "masturbatory" behaviours: I spend too much time wasting time (i.e. refreshing facebook, TRP) and not actually doing productive things. Addressing this aspect of my lifestyle will help achieve some of the other goals.

Any resources/advice/experiences with monk mode or how to ensure the success of this period is appreciated fellas.