Hey guys,
I'm 32 now. I've been red-pilled for about 9 years (or at least I consider myself to be). When I was younger, I had my fair share of cold approaches, but what has stuck with me to this day are mostly the insights and mindset.
Nowadays, I'm hardcore focused on building my business 24/7, but I'm thinking of allocating some time to dating without going straight into battle mode and cold approaching random chicks.
I'm looking for sweet and intelligent girls, as funny as it might sound in a red-pilled context. I'm not interested in party girls.
One idea that came to mind was dancing - e.g. Salsa. What do you think? Have any of you found a way that has proven to yield good results over time?
enfier 4mo ago
I've been dancing in the Latin scene off and on for 16 years now, but was married for most of it. It's good for a lot of things with women, but I'd advise you to see it as a lot more than a place to pick up chicks. If all you are doing is trying to get laid, it's going to be a lot of effort for a payout that's a bit down the line. Also, social partner dancing is nothing like club dancing. Two totally different crowds that work totally different ways.
The learning curve is pretty brutal for leads at first and most don't have the confidence to suck for long enough to get good at it. You'll be there trying not to fuck up your moves while the hot girl who started at the same time as you will be getting pulled out to dance by advanced dancers. You'll have to put in time to practice in between lessons, best if you can find a girl there to practice with you. At the same time, once you get good at leading you won't have much competition for getting dances.
It's a small social scene, even in a big city. Don't run in and shoot your shot at all the hot girls, they've seen it a million times. I'd just chill out for at least 3 months and get better at dancing and meet people.and get integrated into the scene before you start picking up women (unless one drops herself in your lap). There are always more good follows than leads so the scene really caters to men actually, which is an interesting dynamic. That being said, every city is different so take it with a grain of salt. You can also try a few different styles of dancing and a few different studios for each. There are big differences between the crowds.
The newbies are fair game once you are decent, just don't hit on every newbie that walks into a class. Lots of women decide they are going to go social dancing to meet hot latin guys and they usually last a few lessons to a few months before dropping out. There's a constant rotation of attractive women through the scene. You say you like sweet and intelligent girls... but you are going to get a lot of Sex and the City types. Also the permanent fixture girls really struggle to land and maintain a boyfriend. Most guys are either jealous or wary of a girl who is out dancing 5 nights a week in a bikini top and it's too much fun to quit. If you've been around for a while and aren't trying to make her quit, it might be worth trying.
On the plus side, you are going to get to know a lot of attractive women and you are going to get really used to touching scantily clad women. You'll get a bunch of good dance moves that work at a normal club too and women will assume you are good in bed. Some women will screen you out for LTRs because they feel like they can't compete or you won't be faithful.
Joining a performance team is probably the most guaranteed way to get good results. I joined a performance team with 4 women, 1 married and 1 dating the instructor. The other two both took a swipe at me (one while I was married lol). It's just a lot of practice and time spent together touching and relationships tend to build. You can probably get into a performance team once you've hit a solid intermediate level, you do not need to be an advanced dancer. Also, Rueda Casino if there's a group is a great way to get integrated into the community fast.
financehardo420 4mo ago
Verm is super into that.
I still have to test this out but yoga. Morning yoga classes on the weekend is where you’ll probably find those types.
whytehorse2021 4mo ago
You can only have 2 of these qualities:
Sweet + Ugly
Intelligent + insufferable
Boosted_Arrow 4mo ago
I suggest you watch some of Nuclear Claudillos stuff on YT. He's also a Rule Zero member now.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4mo ago
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MrSupreme 4mo ago
I'm guessing learning to dance and go clubbing is great if you like it. Supersluts have taken cosplaying as a hobby,Wich used to be for geeks and now everyone does it, so finding an anime group of friends will get you into meeting said supersluts. But changing your whole lifestyle just to find a hobby based on just meeting girls sounds like crap mate
whytehorse2021 4mo ago
I sure do miss those goth sluts back in the 90s...
MrSupreme 4mo ago
There's still some young gothies around,but they now listen to different stuff instead of hard techno and they watch anime instead of horror movies. Just gotta find em edit:they're also doing onlyfans
whytehorse2021 4mo ago
Yeah I'll pass on the anime and emo crap...
Impressive-Cricket-8 4mo ago
Back when I took dancing lessons, the serious dancers were into... Dancing. That's it. You could maybe meet someone, but it wasn't a place for trying your luck. I'd suggest learning a new language; women compose usually 50% (maybe a bit more) of the classes, you already have something in common, and not many dumb people try to learn a new language.
MyBoyJob 4mo ago
If you have the looks for it just use Tinder. Have a few pics that make you look fun and exciting (foreign travel, drinks on a boat). Come up with a witty and subtly sexual bio. Maximize the age range. Don’t communicate every geeky thing you do. I’m 34 and this has worked for me.