Hey guys,
Still currently in my early 20's, and most of my time is spent on seeing women and spending my time on Instagram chatting to girls.
I have no issue with pulling girls.
I have sat down with myself, and self analyzed my life situation. As of lately, I have noticed I have become so dependent on Female Validation, I use it as dopamine hits. Sitting there messaging multiple girls, meeting up with them, trying to prove my self worth through females. I honestly feel like I've lost myself in this whole thing, its surprised me.
I've gone 4 days without speaking to girls or ones I like, I feel afraid and alone, I feel like Im forgotten.
I have just been focusing on work and self development to get my mind off it but it stings in the quiet times.
Will this feeling pass through? Has anyone been in this position? I appreciate any replies. thank you
mattyanon Admin 3d ago
Yeah, this is a trap for sure.
You are insecure.
That's ok.
Build the rest of your life.
EurasianChad 1 3d ago
You end it when you realize that you're THEIR source of validation & dopamine. Realize: your attention is their drug. Treat yourself as the prize & believe that their ultimate hit of dopamine is acquiring your genetics, meaning, they gotta work for that shit.
Most young women on social media are addicted to validation. Their given that in truckloads from simps & orbiters, meaning they've been trained to value male attention less (abundance).
benzino 4d ago
Are you trying to be a monk or something?
AbusiveFather1 4d ago
And
Bro, pick one.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4d ago
You guys need to stop being so extreme
They're women. Just talk to them when you want to
MrSupreme 4d ago
If you feel women are taking too much time and space in your life then get a hobby, learn a skill,learn a language,read a book. Theres literally a million different things you can do with your time.
Also,dont stop talking to girls in some monk mode thing, that will solve nothing
Musicgoon78 1 4d ago
Yeah. You gotta make some guy friends bro. In my 30's my entire social life consisted of women I was fucking.
First-light 4d ago
There is a coldness in a world with no female warmth or validation. Its like winter -you will pull on a ticker coat and acclimatise. Its a bit bleak but there are far less bugs in your life. Of course a man must be self sufficient but its much nicer when there is a little warm companionship too.
It will get better if you stay away from females but it will always be a bit colder. Probably you have been living in a greenhouse and getting used to normal climate conditions is a good idea, then gradually re-introduce normal levels of female interaction. The all or nothing approach can be quite harsh in the long run. It takes a special kind of guy to be a happy monk. Some are blissfully happy but most of us do better with a little warmth and validation. Its just about sensible levels and not becoming dependent.