I hung out with this girl from tinder on tuesday, and we made plans for her to come over friday to fuck. I've also been talking to this other girl whos hotter that i met on bumble, she asked me to add her snapchat and then the next morning asked me to hang out, which was yesterday.
I didnt play it cool and immediately asked her to meet me at a bar during the day at a specific time and place, she said she couldnt, but she said I love the planning and she was free later. Later last night she hit me up but honestly i started to put her on a pedestal in my mind because of her looks and I was definitely not giving off a good vibe over text and almost fumbled it but she said lets reschedule because she could tell I was acting weird. I was overthinking the shit out of it. She asked me to take her out too, she was making it really easy and I fucked up.
Today I said "ill pick you up we'll go to to x restaurant for a drink at 730 tonight" she said she had to work, and then later texted me at like 9 and said "i just got off"
I asked her if she could do saturday then and she said she has to work.
I'm already coming off too eager to see her and trying to hard to make it work and i really dont want to cancel this other girl tomorrow, even though shes not as hot, and i dont want her anywhere near as bad shes still cute and has a nice body and shes a freak and I want to fuck her for the first time. I need to do it too it would help me to get over the oneitis bullshit i have for this other girl.
The thing is , I think she still wants to meet me even though I have been overthinking it, she was really eager too at first and I may be slightly exaggerating in my head how bad of a vibe it gave off last night when I was trying to meet up with her. I dont know what to say at this point though, if anything, I havent responded to her saying I gotta work.
I feel like this is my chance to let it ride and fuck another girl to help get my mind off the oneitis and show I'm not needy
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
That's the answer to your post man.
This girl was down and you over-thought making forced specific time plans because probably alpha or some trope. She was also flexible and eager. You fucked up by thinking..dude make normal plans. Act normal.
I regret that this community focused so hard on "alpha". Probably only 1/10,000 guys are actually alpha .01% of men if not less. The alpha trope was the worst fucking thing to happen to manopshere
Act like a normal person dude
Horn 1mo ago
yeah that is what happened, you are correct. I am not sure how to play it now, I feel like i fucked it up but she's still showing interest... can I just let it go for a while to be casual about it and then attempt to make normal plans in a couple days? or is it cooked
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
Bro literally just make some normal fucking plans and if she says no for whatever reason just go no contact or respond slow as shit etc till she snaps out of it
Only send her back fun positive shit when you do breadcrumb her if she still stays in touch. No anxious negative weirdness
First-light 1mo ago
Yeah she still wants you. So if you just try to make plans that fit together, sooner or later they will.
MrSupreme 1mo ago
She seems to be eager,she even made some time for you after work to see you and you ignored that. You dont have to fuck them both the same day,you already got girl #1 to fuck and #2 is basically sending you the message for a same night lay (maybe a ONS).
Youre definitely overthinking, fuck em both,spin those plates
Braden 1mo ago
My anxiety is ripping right now. I asked girl #2 to hang out tonight again and she said she has to work
You’re right she wanted to meet up last night after work and I didn’t open her snap for a while because I thought i came off way too eager the first night.
I want this one so bad. I’m having a fucking panic attack honestly I don’t know how to deal with it. I’m fuckin freaking out because I keep feeling like no matter what I’m saying I’m blowing it and every time she has she has to work I feel like I just blew my chance because she wanted to see me last night and I was tweaking about it so hard that I didn’t go get it
Braden 1mo ago
Should I say lets hang out tonight after you get off