Saw a girl who was into me four years ago that I met through a close friend. She recently just broke up with her ex.
I was running late and didn't put my contacts in and she had a completely different hairstyle literally didn't recognize her and reintroduced myself like a dumbass and it took me a sec to register that I knew her.
We briefly "talked" 4 yrs ago and last message I have is a dm of us scheduling drinks and her giving me her number but I can't remember what happened after that and why it didnt work out.
She seemed super horny and like she was looking for dick. I only talked to her briefly during the night but she never seemed super interested, but I kept catching her looking over and she was standing around me the whole night, especially when I was talking to other girls and when we were dancing.
Her closest girl friend at the party was really excited and thinks I should go for it, I kinda don't want to embarrass myself in front of my friends, she's close friends with him. How do I reengage?
Musicgoon78 1 5d ago
Sack up and fucking take her to do something. Being a pussy is fucking embarrassing. Going after you want is what a true Chad would do.
Why is this such a big deal?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5d ago
I have been trying to figure this out in guys on AskTRP forever. Closest thing is the old but gold buffers by Rollo.
Imo dudes:
1) don't know what really works with women
2) don't realize it won't work on everyone
3) don't understand Right guy. Right time. Right place. at all.
4) some other combination of game and skill and vibe
Instead of just fucking going for it and then evaluating what went wrong (or that nothing was wrong at all) these guys just sit there and masturbate about rejection-proofing themselves.
Most these guys aren't even struggling from lack of RP their thought process is just abysmal and counterproductive
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 5d ago
1) The best time to make something like that happen is in the moment, not a day or two later. If such a situation arises again, fucking go for it at the party within the first few
minutesseconds of meeting back up and you sense interest.2) even though the best moment has come and gone, just do something. Anything is better than nothing. Escalate until you either get sex or get rejected. This is the only way to find out if she wants you. There is no magical, foolproof way to make it happen.
3) what, you're still hoping for a magical set of words that'll guarantee a positive outcome? Fine, here you go, but don't forget the onion.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4d ago
You guys don't seem to realize the only way to get better at this is to shoot your shot, learn what went wrong with your set or close, try it again in the next girl, and the next one, and the next one, till you don't care it and just clicks what you're doing right or wrong.
You stop taking the rejections personally because you realize it works on some and not others. You guys are choking on the dick of emotional investmentment here before you even fuck.
You know what a guy who has just done trial and error scientific method about this would do? He'd remember what she was like, small talk it, and find the earliest hook he can to tease or mention plans or both of whatever. And if she turned him down he'd move on
You guys really need to just do the basic shoot your shot thing, i seriously don't understand all these repeat questions on AskTRP from a lot of the same users. JUST DO IT
You guys should not be this invested in women you haven't fucked