It dawned on me I fumbled last night with my girl.
Made the comment my nails needed to be cut and filed, she told me to grab the stuff and she'd do it. I just laughed.
Later she said my eyebrows needed to be cleaned up. Told me to go grab tweezers and she'd happily do it for me. At this one I was a little offended.
It wasn't until this morning I realized I dropped the ball and have had an aversion to offers like these in the past. Something about my ego tells me no I shouldn't allow me to do these small little tasks. An aversion to being pampered but why not let her?
She would feel happiness in serving me in these small little ways and I must confess this is the first woman I've let style my hair for an event and it felt quite nice, sitting there, having her comb it out, put in product and style it.
It brought her joy and me comfort and I can't for the life of my e understand why I've always turned down offers of such nature in the past.
adam-l Moderator 3w ago
It's quite obvious, isn't it?
Now, the way I see it, once you've got the know-how of getting women, there is only one thing you have to fear: baby-trap. All other things are manageable.
Kloi 3w ago
Jokes on you. Already had one woman attempt to baby trap me. I bailed for a few years and now have him a few days a week and haven't had contact with her in over year.
She sees her multiple kids one or twice a year.
adam-l Moderator 3w ago
I bet he loves having you in his life.
SwarmShawarma 1mo ago
I have/had it the same.
In my head I didn't want to become metrosexually pampered. It felt gay.
I can relax now but have decided either: to keep a tight control over what is happening, even if for a show; or the animal noises of unindentified meaning. Her brain expects it anyway IMO.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HOliNVMJnPg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-iHiwsho4ow
cundardunfinished 1mo ago
Your ego isn't entirely wrong. There is a limit to this and it becomes a kind of a shit test. Your examples are kind of innocuous but letting a woman choose your hairstyle is an edge case - like if Fabio let some woman shave his head.
No-Stress-Cat 1mo ago
It's quite simple: It's called Mate Grooming.
When a woman starts to groom you, it means she's in a relationship with you.
It means she really likes you, and wants you to look as good as she does.
MrSupreme 1mo ago
There is an old popular salsa song called "Dejate querer", which means "let yourself be loved".
Yeah sometimes women WANT to do stuff for you,like trimming your nails,making you dinner or paying for gas.
It is common for some guys to become independent enough that they just do everything by themselves, so they don't be needing help doing small things like laundry,cleaning the room,doing the dishes,cooking lunch or whatever.
I think it is wonderful when girls do that stuff lovingly out of kindness for a man they love.
Lone_Ranger 2 3w ago
upvoted.
It requires confidence to 'let yourself be loved'. If you're not used to it, it can be a bit of a surprise.
Relax, enjoy her attentions. smile and pet her and say 'good girl'.
Lone_Ranger 2 1mo ago
yeah, sounds like you fucked up.
A woman that wants to cut your nails and tweexer your eyebrows? she is 100% interested, in a grooming sort of way. its what animals do.
just relax a bit. I admit that it might be a bit of a surprise if a woman said that to me, but here;s what I would do;
just respond with amused mastery. tell her - great - go get the scissors. then sit in the chair and get her to kneel and cut your nails.
next I would say - right, its my turn - I'm going to shave your pussy.
Always maintain the upper hand. let them do their thing, but you push the agenda. let them know you are in charge.
adam-l Moderator 3w ago
Man,
And
don't compute :)
"In charge" is to be applied at other times, throughout the relationship.
Let her pamper you, let her spoil you, let her call you baby... It's the little things that make relationships worthwhile in the first place. A chance for a little guilt-free regression, playtime.
First-light 1mo ago
Grooming is fun for all primates. She probably likes it in return too. Enjoy.
But note, when the rush of being in love has gone, you may need to set boundaries. She is a neat and tidy woman I think from other things you have said. You can enjoy bending to let her put you in order but there may be a point when she has to compromise, she can't be just always expecting you to clean your eyebrows up yourself just because she wants it, at least not unless she is also doing stuff for you she doesn't think is important but you do. (I have just come back form the barber's. I didn't go the first 3 times it was suggested. I went to the cheap one not the expensive one that was suggested. There must be balance)