I asked her about her sexual history once and she basically said that the first time she had sex she thought all men just wanted sex and she wanted to know what it felt like so she fucked a guy with a really nice physique.
A while later I asked her if he was as muscular as a picture of some random guy and I think she exaggerated because it’s extremely unlikely, but at the same time I’m bothered because during the first conversation she said “I thought I might as well have sex with this really hot guy instead of this short guy who had been trying for years.”
I was trying to be confident and not let it get to me but now I’m bothered because that guy had hurt her even just two months before this conversation, and she was telling me how hot he was. It bothers me because I wonder if she would’ve ever called me “really hot”, especially after if I had hurt her.
My attempt at an answer to this question is that she may have been exaggerating how hot he was to make me mad, since I had hurt her by saying I didn’t want a relationship. By the time we had this conversation she was thinking there was a chance for one. I just feel traumatized hearing about that. I didn’t ask her to tell me about that. I would’ve never told her I thought another girl was so hot if I had had sex with her. I don’t think she was really gushing over the guy when explaining the story; it was more about the word choice than how she was saying it. One part that bothers me though is that she said she didn’t even care if it was a one night stand. Except when he tried to fuck her on the first night she left and didn’t fuck him until the second night. I feel like she may have been exaggerating but I’m not sure why she would say this stuff. It seems cunty and I don’t know how to feel better.
I think my issue with this is not that he may have been hotter than me (although that is unfortunate), but the fact that she would describe him like that out loud. What a privilege this guy has to be able to use a girl multiple times and make her cry multiple times and she still describes him that way. That’s what bothers me. It wouldn’t even be as bad if he treated her right and she said that.
ObliviousDuck 1w ago
WTF is this.
18 sentences, 33 she/her. But wait, there is also 13 mention of he/the guy.
We don't need a fucking novel about your ex and this random guy she fucked.
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
I was asking about how to process this. Also, you counted so it sounds like you’re just as invested.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 5d ago
Here, watch this: https://www.youtube.com/live/-HwH7VlQ0MU?si=JWDF2DAYiKrkC_Up
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 5d ago
I am going to bed and that’s like 2 hours and I have some red pill reading scheduled. What I got from skimming through it is not to think “she”? So I shouldn’t think “she said this, she did this, she was this”? Why? Sorry bro but it’s 2 hours and I will watch it another time… I just wanted to respond to you first. Thanks for sharing.
ObliviousDuck 1w ago
Yes. I was invested in helping you realise something important about your current state of mind. But don't worry about me, I used a word counter.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Really dude?
Do not disrespect users for your own issues. AskTRP is a privilege. I'm not giving you any more warnings for disrespecting commenters here or for getting testy hearing truths you ought to have learned the day you cracked open the sidebar
Especially considering your question is TRP 101. This should have been something you understood from Michael's story and other readings. Why are you surprised
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
Michael’s story is about a guy who witnessed girls having fun before settling down. He didn’t even say they were exceptionally attractive. In fact, he said some were unattractive. So that story is not about them having sex with extremely hot guys or anything like that.
So Michael’s story doesn’t really relate to my question. It sounds like you don’t really understand the moral of Michael’s story.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
If you don't think a lot of the girls in his story fucked hot guys you are naive. He was making a point that some of them definitely weren't to point out that it defied some his expectations.
You also ignored the rest of my comment entirely and chose to only look at micheal's story. You need to stop disrespecting users here this is a final warning
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
Yeah but he also said that they said their husbands won’t know so my question still stands about what the point of her telling me details like that were.
I’m not denying a past I’m just wondering why the f she would give unnecessary details like that.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Because she's a woman. Have you even read the full sidebar yet?
Jackmoter 1w ago
What on earth bro. Your ex said? How long has this shit been playing on your mind.
Your ex girlfriend had sex with a muscular dude. YOU ASKED HER IF HE WAS MUSCULAR
Sounds like you're insecure about your own body. Wow, what can you do about that?
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
I didn’t ask if he was muscular initially. Initially she said he had a really nice physique out of nowhere.
Also I lift now.
Jackmoter 5d ago
Why don't you have better things to think about?
Shouldn't you be planning your next hike? Your next mesocycle at the gym? Planning new dates with new women? Planning your route to a promotion?
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 5d ago
I am doing all those things except the hike because I don’t have trails near me and just don’t hike.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
You need to accept these insecurities man you are not always going to be the top person for XYZ. Yeah, women like to fuck hot guys. It sucks. They aren't Disney princesses.
Someone in her past is always going to be more attractive, or richer, or last longer in bed, or be kinkier or something. That doesn't mean you don't check off more boxes but it's completely unreasonable to think you are 10/10 on her #1 on every single trait she's ever come across on any ex.
If it bothers you that much than aspire to grind all those traits to max. Bitching your insecurities and trying to hamster that maybe I was hotter afterall and she was just xyz is dumb cope.
If you want to actually cope go get hotter instead of wish casting or being insecure.
Further, wtf. Is she treating you well? Do you enjoy what she's offering you? If the answer is no leave. No one is holding a gun to your head forcing you to stay with a woman who you don't feel good around because of shit she said.
Your entire issue is one giant cope to avoid feeling potentially uncomfortable and disappointed. The way women thinks sucks some times. Welcome to TheRedPill. Either swallow it and deal with the bitter taste or go live out your fantasy cope some other way.
TheRedPill isn't for everyone. If it's sucks too badly to accept basic RP then stop trying to be or think about RP and go plug yourself back into the matrix or find some Amish farm girl who's never seen a dick before.
You SHOULD have already swallowed this shit if you ever read Michael's Story when you first found TRP. I'm seriously doubting you've ever read it, much less even looked at it.
Part of being red pill and unplugging is swallowing the red pill and getting sick to your stomach and when the taste of vomit is done feeling putrid in your mouth going about living your life and getting xp and making sure you don't have to be or feel like Michael anymore because you have developed realistic expectations or worked hard enough that you can exceed your disappointing expectations as much as realistically possible because women will always have some problem with any guy for any vapid reason
Further, this is insane cope. I've personally and other men on this forum have personally witnessed women being irrationally fixated on men who "aren't hot" because those men give them the masculine experience they're dying for. There or more than enough "hot" men out there who suck in bed or can't keep frame or turn on a woman outside of their looks.
You are unable to see the forest for the trees and mentally masturbating your ass off. I do not think you are cut out for the red pill. You should probably look elsewhere for direction for a couple years if you can't stomach any of this or look past your narrow fixations if isolated characteristics disturb you this strongly.
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
I don’t really care if her ex was hotter. I’ve just literally never heard of a woman telling her new guy that her ex was really hot, unless it’s a very very cunty woman.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
You are inexperienced then. You're in for a very rude awakening in the future
Musicgoon78 2 1w ago
Notice how you mentioned she's your ex? Who gives a fuck what she's doing now or did back then? Move on.
If he was that great or she was, the would be together. They aren't.
You obviously don't understand women if you think their attraction is based on physical features.women don't think like men.
There's going to be guys out there that have certain things you don't and vice versa.
The chicks you fuck will have fucked other guys. This is something every guy has to deal with. If she doesn't work out there are billions of women out there.
I'm not going to roast you. You definitely need to move on and work on your confidence.
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
Thanks but like who says shit like that when they’re trying to get a relationship
Musicgoon78 2 1w ago
Chicks say stupid and thoughtless shit all the time. Get used to it.
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
Does what she said mean she didn’t think I was “really hot”? That’s how I took it because she almost never complimented my looks
Musicgoon78 2 1w ago
If that what you want it to mean, sure.
I don't know, you don't know and it's not worth the time or effort to find out.
You've already wasted your time and now everyone else who reads this is wasting time.
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
So if it can’t be known then I’ll just assume she did think I was really hot. Is that acceptable or no?
Yes I have wasted time but I’m focused on my goals more now.
Musicgoon78 2 1w ago
Alright Sherlock, let's deduct this: She sounds like someone with options. It sounds like she fucked a super hot guy. So she knows she can get a super hot guy. And it sounds like she stuck around and tried to lock you down. So out of a few billion people and a plethora of options, she chose you? Does that sound like she found you hot or at least more attractive than anyone else at the time?
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
Yeah what you’re saying makes sense but she never said it. I’ll accept what you’re saying
Musicgoon78 2 1w ago
Don't listen to her words, watch her actions. You know this bro. Now go out and slay....
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 6d ago
Thanks bro!
No-Stress-Cat 1w ago
Had a girlfriend who told me she fucked a Black guy once. Like I give a shit. Now it's my turn.
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
But seriously, what’s crazy is that when I first met her I thought she’d have possibly had fucked a Chad in the past (not saying the guy was a Chad necessarily), but I didn’t feel insecure because she was very affectionate towards me so I felt like she was extremely into me. Idk why I started caring.
Wintergreen Didn't Read Sidebar (confirmed) 1w ago
So you fucked the black guy too :O
No-Stress-Cat 6d ago
LMAO