Why was the RPW sub created, and what is it all about?

This post was written to explain, clarify, and introduce the purpose of the RPW sub. For the lazy, I will include part of redpillschool’s writing:

We had a radical idea- what if men and women learned about their natures and took proactive control of them, came up with a compromise that made both parties happier in the long run?

We're a cooperative species, and great things can be achieved when we do. Women, you have the ability to find happiness when you embrace the reality of your biological urges and impulses. You have the ability and the requirement to become the optimal mate for your optimal mate. Do not believe the hype that you are good enough how you are, and realize that in life, the only things worth having take work. That's for men and women.

RedPillWomen is self-improvement and long-term goal setting to maximize your personal happiness.

What are Red Pill Women?

Short answer: Self-aware women that work to identify their weaknesses, stifle their inner Bitch, and increase their female sexual value as much as possible in order to attract (or keep) a good RP man.

Long answer: Red Pill Women recognize that as women, we have a lot of advantages when it comes to dating, attracting and keeping a mate. We understand and sympathize with the hoops men have to jump through, and the fact that masculinity is often discouraged and attacked in today’s world. We seek to understand how and why men and women are different, so that we can approach out SO’s (or dating in general) with open eyes. We work to minimize our negative characteristics (shit testing, hypergamy, sexual manipulation etc), and improve our physical and emotional appeal. We believe that casual, FWBs, and no-strings dynamics are harmful to women. Accumulating a mountain of one-night-stands and random hook-ups lowers a woman’s value and appeal, so we encourage women to be cautious, careful, and patient when it comes to dating. Jumping into the sack with a guy in the hopes that he will commit is a toxic and nonsensical approach.

We emphasize femininity (knowing how to cook, dress well, be pleasant) in combination with the advancement of educational and professional pursuits. You don’t have to be a home-maker with three kids in order to be a Red Pill woman. Some of the ladies here choose to stay at home, yes, but it’s by no means a requirement. Many RPW are still in school or have satisfying and demanding careers.

For more on this (and other topics) please read [this]( http://redpillwifery.wordpress.com/2013/02/10/the-red-pill-for-women/) blog entry posted by redpillwifey.

What are the differences between TRP and RPW?

This is a post created by TempestTcup that very succinctly highlights one of the biggest differences between TRP and RPW subs. I will provide the quote here as well for the lazy:

The way /r/RedPillWomen differs from /r/TheRedPill is that women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment, so RPW works toward keeping women from squandering sex while working towards obtaining commitment, and TRP works toward keeping men from squandering commitment while working towards obtaining sex.

This also plays into another important aspect of the RPW sub:

Why does a woman’s sexual partner count matter at all?

TRP and RPW both believe that women should keep their sexual partner counts low, because having a lot of partners decreases a woman’s ability to fully bond and lessens her overall value as potential Long-Term Relationship material with good RP men. On top of that, having a lot of male (or ‘experimenting’ with female) sexual partners shows that a woman has poor impulse control.

Which brings us to:

Aren’t men that have a lot of sexual partners hypocrites for wanting a woman with a low number of sexual partners? And what’s wrong with FWBs and no-strings dynamics

Well, aren’t overweight women that want men with 12-pack abs hypocrites? What about women that want men to be gentleman and exercise chivalry while also treating them as completely equal? TRP and RPW believe that what makes men attractive is different from what makes women attractive. Men that can attract women are desirable, and his value is not affected negatively when he sleeps around. Women however are not afforded that same luxury. Women retain value by limiting the number of men that get them into bed. This shows that she has standards, as well as the wherewithal and backbone to guard one of her most precious commodities. Fairness has nothing to do with it because both TRP and RPW believe that men and women are fundamentally different on personal, physical, and biological levels.

So is RPW the same as fPUA?

No. We don’t strive to pick up random men for the sake of obtaining sex. We don’t utilize “game” adapted for females to spin plates. That sounds exhausting and gross. Don’t do it.

Doesn't being a RPW mean you have to have kids and stay in the kitchen? Am I still a RPW if I want to pursue a career/education?

You don’t have to be a home-maker. Some women choose that lifestyle, other women pursue careers and getting an education. Some women here have successful careers and a family. Be a good woman, support your SO (if you have one) and don’t overthink it too much.

Doesn’t TRP demean and attack women constantly?

Here’s the thing: TRP is a space for men. Becoming a RP man is not an easy process, and it takes a great deal of time and effort. Some of the men are young and angry, there’s nothing wrong with that. TRP is a safe space for them to talk to other men, rant, share ideas, and drop all normal social pretenses. They are talking to other men without filters and reservations. Will you agree with everything that gets said there? Probably not, but why does that matter? Most of the angry members will calm down and gain perspective as time passes. Some will tire of spinning plates and start looking for a LTR. Some of the men on TRP are already married or in dedicated relationships. Women have a lot of leeway when it comes to complaining, and that’s an advantage men are not afforded nearly as often. Unless you want to censor ever single sub on reddit and the internet in general, just cool your jets and relax. I’m sure there are more productive ways you could be spending your time.

EDIT: Bad-mouthing TRP, or any RP sub will result in an immediate ban. Furthermore, any terms and insults stated for no reason other than to offend and demean another user will be grounds for banning as well. Finally, do not concern troll or tone police.

I want an equal relationship

(1) No, you really don’t. Most women will not understand how well a Captain/First Mate dynamic works until they start dating a good RP man that is higher value.

(2) If however, you are certain beyond ALL POSSIBLE DOUBT, that you want an equality based relationship, or that you want to be the leader in your relationship then I have only one question for you: why are you here?

What about the LGBT communities? How does this apply to them?

We focus on heterosexual dynamics. Some members of the LGBT communities find ways to apply aspects of TRP and RPW to their personal relationships. That said, TRP and RPW doesn’t factor in the LGBT communities when talking about situations or philosophies.

I have these red flags (many partners, dyed hair, etc) Why don’t guys want to date me?

Actions have consequences, and the way you look affects the way people see you. Having many alternative visual signals sends a very specific message that many men see as “sexually open/slutty,” “liberal feminist,” “party girl,” “poor impulse control.” If you dye your hair a bright, unnatural color – try something more toned down. If you have a lot of tattoos, cover more of them up. If your face looks like a Christmas tree, take some of the piercings out (tongue, nose, cheek beauty mark and eyebrow piercings send a message that you are rebellious, and many men just don’t like their potential wives and girlfriends to have a lot of metal). If you have a lot of notches on your bedpost, be honest about it and stop sleeping around immediately. Work to become a more attractive woman and increase your value.

How can women improve their value?

• Go to the gym and start working out if you don’t already

• Eat healthy

• Learn to cook

• Grow out your hair, dress nicely, make an effort to look good

• Have a positive attitude. If you don’t enjoy your life and you aren’t fun to be around, then no man is going to want to invest time and effort on you.

• Know your limits and establish boundaries: this applies to everything from drinking, to what your deal-breakers are when it comes to dating (ie: I cannot be in an open relationship, I cannot date a smoker, I will not tolerate cheating)

• Understand what you bring to the table. You can have a great job and a fabulous education, that’s great, but men want more. They want a woman that knows how to be feminine, doesn’t get offended easily, knows how to joke around, has a good head on her shoulders, isn’t thirsty for constant outside attention, isn’t wrapped up with her social media life etc

• Identify your weaknesses: Are you quick to anger? Do you have a negative attitude? Do you hold grudges? Figure out where you fall short, and look for ways to improve

• If you are in a committed relationship/married: pay attention to his physical and emotional needs, stop struggling to be in charge, listen to what he says, don’t ‘mother hen’ him, don’t make a mountain out of a mole-hill, be calm and make logical arguments when you are unhappy, and show him that you appreciate his presence and leadership

What is solipsism?

Solipsism is the idea that only your own mind and experiences can be known for sure. It is a filter used to process how a certain thing relates to one’s self.

“Women’s solipsism and emotional wiring is generally the primary conduit through which problem solving and opinion formulation occurs. That’s not to say that women lack the capacity to be just as rational as men, but it is to say that this solipsistic logic is the innate filter that must be cognitively repressed when arriving at a rational solution to a problem.” –Rollo Tomassi

It has to do with self-centeredness. In every problem or situation, the person inserts themselves into the equation. Both men and women are capable of solipsism, and it’s not always a bad thing. The example that always sticks out in my mind is this:

When faced with a problem in a group, a woman will ask “how can I help?” She will have qualifiers that explain where her limitations are, and how they may hinder her ability to help implement the solution. Men, on the other hand will ask: “what needs to be done?”

To learn more please refer to the following links:

(1) http://alphagameplan.blogspot.com/2013/11/a-portrait-in-female-solipsism.html

(2) http://redpillpushers.wordpress.com/tag/solipsism/

(3) http://mattforney.com/2013/09/24/the-eternal-solipsism-of-the-female-mind/

(4) http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/09/the-tangled-chains-on-swing-set-of.html

(5) http://dalrock.wordpress.com/2012/09/18/female-solipsism/

What is hypergamy?

TRP and RPW believe that women are more naturally inclined to be influenced by a “partner upgrade” impulse. The idea is that if she has a wonderful provider that makes her happy in every way, but an even richer or more handsome male comes along- she will abandon her current relationship and pursue the more appealing male. Now, that does not mean women are incapable of controlling and moving past this inclination. Biologically, men are more naturally inclined to be aggressive, but that doesn’t mean they are incapable of controlling their temper.

What’s a unicorn?

A “unicorn” is a highly desirable and extraordinarily rare woman. She surpasses all other women in personality, looks, and behavior. Some men on TRP don’t believe that unicorns exist. There’s also a lot of debate over what exactly makes a woman a “unicorn.” Some of the evidence is contradictory and ambiguous.

What is a shit test?

When a woman behaves or talks in a way to manipulate, undermine, or coerce a man into reacting in a specific way. Some women will perform shit tests without even realizing it. If a married woman suddenly decides that she wants to go to a party alone to meet an old flame – that’s a shit test. She is testing the waters, possibly vying for control, and trying to elicit a strong reaction from her SO.

What is the wall?

When a woman starts to lose her attractiveness. This can happen at 20, 30, or older - it varies from woman to woman. Make no mistake though, the wall happens to every woman.

Is the RPW lifestyle like a Dom/Sub relationship?

No. Being a Red Pill woman is not a sexual fetish, or a kink lifestyle. This isn't a game, or fetish.

Are RPW doormats?

No. A Red Pill woman defers to one man, and she can only do this because she trusts and respects that man completely. She does not defer to every man, and she is not a doormat. She knows that her SO has her best interests at heart.

Are Feminists welcome on the RPW sub?

It doesn't matter how you identify yourself, as long as you understand that this is an anti-feminist space. We aren't interested in locking horns over why feminism is good, bad, or what relevance it has in today's world. This is an oasis away from feminism. If you follow the rules, conduct yourself respectfully, and leave the "F" word at the door - you shouldn't have any problems.