The issue isn’t your texting. At least, not directly.
You haven’t spoken to enough girls in person and learned how to attract them. The technology involved in texting, specifically the time to (over)think a message, makes your brain go into autist hyperdrive and you have flashbacks to playing GTA V as a kid, spawning a helicopter with the right controller combinations and think the same applies to people.
If you’re unsure about what to text a girl, say whatever you want to say because you’re going to fuck it up anyways. After all, fucking up and learning from the experience is what you should actually be interested in.
If you still don’t know what to do, have no no experience and no clue where to start, here is a very straight forward road map.
1st text after you get her number —> “Hi (name), this is the cute guy you met (your name)”
Any other text —> “Haha just got back from (activity). So spent. Come do this (date activity) with me at (location) at (time)”
Last text after she says yes or no —> “Sounds good ;)”
If it isn’t in that process flow, don’t respond.
Talk to as many girls as you can in person, learn how to attract them in person, and the thoughts of what to text a girl will fade into the void permanently as you get your shaft licked in person.
OPStolen 8mo ago
I love this post. I’ve been autistmaxxing and fake talking like I’ve got a life going on and bitches. I found that silence over text is the best way to get stuff going. I used to send “hope you got back safe, let me know if you’re up to a second date” texts. Never got me a second date. But, I have problems with anxiety and I’d always be afraid to just leave it hanging because “what if she’s just nervous or something or what if she’s waiting for me to text first?”.
Second I read all the posts here about “if she’s really into you, she’ll arrange the next meetup” it finally started. If nothing happened at the end of the date or I got no notion from her that she wanted a kiss or a hug, I’d just say “hit me up when you feel like it”. No follow up text, no “hope you got back safe”, no “good morning” the next day.
Finally, after that, even if it took a week, THEY would hit me up and say “oh you just forgot about me” or “Hey, wyd I’ve been thinking about you”.
But I’d still lose out because then I’d get all lovey dovey. So I started just responding “been busy, lemme pick you up later and we’ll catch up” and it’s been solid ever since.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 8mo ago
Post too complicated, sent oneitis a novel and got blocked
Problematic_Browser 1 8mo ago
Texting is a losing game unless she's already attracted to you
Lone_Ranger 2 8mo ago
Texting is a losing game unless if she is already attracted to you.
It's also a losing game if she isn't already attracted to you.
Texting is always a losing game. ALWAYS
The guys on here asking why their text messages are not working? It's because you are texting, and some other guy is talking to her. The guy that is talking to her is winning. You are losing.
Young women give out their number like a waiter gives out canapes at a wedding. They want as many orbiters. They want orbiters to text them, and chads to rail them.
Everyone has their role in life. If you are texting, you role is to be the beta texter.
Problematic_Browser 1 8mo ago
I'm gonna disagree with you here.
Imagine someone you really don't like texting you. Now imagine them calling you. Did them calling you change how you felt about them? No. It only added a sense of urgency on top of the pre-existing dislike.
If a woman likes you, she'll be happy to hear from you in any way you choose. Send the bitch a telegram. Leave her notes on her car. Hire a skywriter. She'll think it's romantic because she wants it to be romantic.
If a woman doesn't like you, there's no method of communicating with her that she will appreciate and the more labor intensive it is on your end, the greater the "ick" she will get from it.
Your actions and intentions are irrelevant. Everything you do will be perceived through the lens of her feelings.
Lone_Ranger 2 8mo ago
I didn't mean calling her when I said talking to her. I meant talking to her IRL.
The reason I mention this is because 99% of the spergs on this forum basically have anxiety issues when talking to chics (righly so, because they have zero game) and that is why they are what I call 'number hunters'. They method is to approach, and then pivot to digital as quickly as possible. They lay on some cheesy lines and then 'go for the digits'.
The do this because they almost anxiety to the point where it is almost pain. They are desperate to get the number and then go away - so that they can pivot to textSimping. The girl sees this and puts them in the folder marked "Orbiter - do no smash"
When I say you are losing if you are texting, its because she already probably has at least 5 other textsimpers to orbit her. But...when a chad hits her up, he doesn't number hunt. He goes for same day smash. He turns the interaction into an adventure. He then doesn't call her in the morning, and she starts with the texting.
Guys get this wrong all the time - they wonder if texting is beta. It's worse than that, its actually feminine. Girls spend their lives texting. have a look at a group of them in starbucks. What are they doing? they are texting. So when you text her, you're just one of the girls / simps / obiters. You're just noise. What they are hoping is that some chad will come by and say 'Hellooooooooo Laydeez......How YOU doing?? mind if I sit here??'
Then they will put away their phones. Now you are just a memory. She is talking to chad. Later on she will be on her knees at his apartment, swallowing.
While you text.
BecomingABetterMan1 8mo ago
I got the first part. Now what do?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 8mo ago
Follow up with "want sum fuk" no punctuation.
Regardless of response hold frame. She will fuck 11/10 times
Lone_Ranger 2 8mo ago
This is a decent post - amazed it didn't get more traction.
I should probably write a separate but related post about this very topic. Because I see so many number hunters asking questions about why its not working.
No-Stress-Cat 8mo ago
+1 for the post, and another +1 for the cool fucking username and avatar.