Warning, long read.

I'm a 34-year-old guy who recently became single after a 15-year marriage to my high school sweetheart. Now, I'm reshaping everything.

Since re-entering the single world, I've realized I have zero game and am lightyears behind. What have I been doing about it? I practice whenever possible, chatting up with as many people as i can. I'm also making more eye contact. I'm not there yet, but I'm improving! Next, I need to start implementing some Kino!

Being introverted and on the autism spectrum doesn't make this easier. However, I have a lot of knowledge about random subjects, which I can leverage as a PUA. I'm determined to turn my current weaknesses into opportunities. No excuses, no hiding behind my shortcoming. I can and will fix this.

Meanwhile, my attempts at online dating (OLD) haven’t panned out. Initially, I was clingy and insecure, overthinking everything—a total beta. Then, I realized I was becoming a beta orbiter in another situation. As soon as I recognized this, I cut ties. It was time to stop seeking validation, respect myself, and accept that my own shortcomings were to blame. Nobody to blame but myself. Later, I matched with a woman who was spinning plates hard and wanted me on her menu. Beta trap 101. I'm not on the menu. Instead, she should be on my menu. I respectfully wished her well and passed on the opportunity without being a little beta about it. I'm learning, and that’s a good thing.

Lately, I tried something new: I hit the club solo. After a few beers, I genuinely enjoyed the moment, dancing to some techno. Then two women introduced themselves to me and showed IOIs. That's when it hit me... i was a CHAD at that moment, i was having fun, wasnt trying. trying is for betas. I did not pursue, I was there for my own pleasure, I am in monk mode. Nonetheless, a very valuable lesson presented itself to me...

I lift weights four times a week and have made my own routine, pushing hard towards my goals. I'm not just building muscle; I'm crafting a new ethos for myself. I've made significant progress, and luckily, I have decent genetics. I've gained about 15 pounds of muscle in the last four months while losing heaps of fat. Actually in decent shape now! I have a strict but balanced routine. In another two months, I'll be in very good shape. But it's whatever, if I suck at other shit it doesnt matter how chiseled i look anyway.

For now, I’m keeping things low-key. Focus on friends, family and being a parent. But I’m learning, practicing, observing, like a Shaolin Monk, ready to strike when the time is right Like a goddamn wolf, and I am about to become a master of enjoying life as I shape it, while straight-up slaying like the Alpha I am.

For context, my ex and I have a kid. We interact in a mature and professional manner. The main reason I decided to work out, by the way, is that I wanted to be a healthy parent. I've also quit smoking for eight months now.

TL;DR Beta orbiter working his way up to Alpha, leveraging valuable TRP Sidebar insights, lifting plates, and setting the stage to dominate.