I'll keep it short because it's late AF and I'll like to sleep for gym tomorrow.
I started taking photos of the local motorcycle clubs as a hobby, not getting paid for it not doing anything, just photos for people for free. My low key hope was that this way, I'll get a lot of social proof and connections plus friends. It worked, really well!
While many girls were within the motorcycle groups, not many were single (or appear to be single), needless to say, I just did not bother to approach within these circles, I just focused on my photos and getting more acquaintances.
Three days ago I was doing my thing with a few other guys, and some 18 year old girl comes to visit us (mainly the other guys that were older and more known within the city and groups). She did talk with me a bit but nothing out of the ordinary, just motorcycle stuff. I couldn't care less about her because she's not exactly my type, she's young and probably taken already anyway.
I sent her the pics with her, then proceeded to basically banter with her via text for a day or two, then she somehow gets comfortable enough to start talking to me about her life and stuff, nothing special. Somehow, I manage to turn this talk into her sex life, which was lacking badly after her last breakup. And this talk turns into serious sexting to the point that she's now sending me pics and videos of herself. Telling me how she wants me to do her etc. Yada yada she wants to ride with me so I say yes.
Today we meet and we ride together around the city, playing and goofing around when we'd stop around, nothing fancy. Stopped a few times to talk with other people, teased her a bit but also treated her like a brat.
Yada yada we ride yada yada we tease etc. So at the end of the day I decide to follow her home, basically, the equivalent of walking her home. Which she enjoyed. On the entrance to her building i tease her a lot and then go for the kiss to which she returns many times.
I couldn't fking believe it, not only that but apparently she noticed me a few weeks ago but she was assuming that I was taken or fucking multiple women because "men like you are never really single". Bruh!
So what did I do to get here? Here's breakdown as I understand it.
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Push pull a lot, and I did it without realizing it, I'd tease her and kino her a lot, especially pull her leather jacket towards me. Then i'd ignore her and talk with the guys in the group about other things. And I'd do this many times while treating her like a brat.
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Do not ever assume three things: A. That a girl is taken. B. That she is not attracted. C. That your SMV is low, or lower than her's.
- A. You cannot know this for sure, especially with girls you haven't talked to, unless you see the guy or something 100% tangible, you never assume this.
- B. This girl said that she was drooling over my looks for at least a week, I swear that I never saw her doing that and every single time I noticed her, she had this indifferent look on her face.
- C. Just because you hate yourself or your looks, that does not mean everyone else (girls especially) hate it too.
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IDGAF attitude is a must, I just stopped caring as I'm dealing with anxiety and a mild depression from other things, so the last thing on my mind was approaching on all women I encounter. I am fairly confident that this added some attraction to this girl or other girls because I just didn't care.
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She is 18 years old and she started to shit test me instantly, calling me "old man", multiple times saying that she's not fking with me etc etc. Every single time she'd do that I'd reply with basically calling her a little girl or a brat, but playing with her.
- Make her feel good and you're half way through the door. Thanks to my anxiety and mild depression I'm operating on a full on standup comedy routine to keep myself not completely depressed 24/7. This means that everything has to be funny and many times, everything is funny.
What this situation gave me?
- Age gaps do not matter, only mentality gaps matter, if you're vibing with a younger or older girl, then it's good. (as long as it's LEGAL!).
- Do not lose frame even in the worst case, like her talking about some other guy, or doing something to trigger you.
- Live a little, nothing matters, let go and see what happens. If it happens then it happens if it doesn't then you try again with a different girl/situation.
- Social proof matters in getting the ick out of the way initially, she's basically already knowing that I'm not a deranged serial killer given that everyone is liking me in the group/city.
Ok it wasn't that short, my bad.
Take care!
joyboy 5mo ago
Dude you sound like a depressed chad. If she was "drooling over your looks" you're attractive. Obviously if the girl is super into you she's going to make it easy for you.
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
Not sure how you reached that conclusion but alright. Just because one girl liked my looks that does not make me a Chad. Long ways to go until there.
joyboy 5mo ago
If one women thinks you’re very attractive then others do as well. It has to do with the whole women wanting guys other women want idea
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
I don't know man, we shall see. I still need to drop some of my body fat percentage, but my biggest mountain right now is develop inner game.
joyboy 5mo ago
Damn dude idk what to tell you idk how you struggle with inner game if your being treated like a chad by even one girl. I feel like that would give me such a big confidence boost and solve all of my inner game problems
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
Sorry for the late reply man!
The thing is over with this girl, even though she might crawl back. It was a good practice for me and a good progress going forward, especially for my confidence.
One girl cannot solve my inner game problems, I'll need more for those to get fixed. And more success in both social and romantic areas of my life.
joyboy 5mo ago
Lol no worries no need to apologise for something like that
yeah hopefully dude I hope you get it figured out
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
I guess, the only place to go is up, right?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
2/10 FR, did not include ghosting any HB10's, you need to buy @Lone_Ranger's and my course.
Jk. Good shit
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
A course you say?!
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
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Typo-MAGAshiv 2 5mo ago
You two fuckbags stole my content! Scumbag thieves of RL!
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
Your course was free, therefore it was worthless
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 5mo ago
Not as worthless as your mama!
Lone_Ranger 2 5mo ago
Your course did not result in me having a Lambo within 3 weeks, therefore it was a total con and I want my money back (even though your course was free).
My course will detail exactly how to
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Just $4999.00 in 8 easy installments and you will be living the dream life. What's stopping you? are you gay? Is that it?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
Serious comment, men need to get out of their heads and have fun like this. Girls just wanna have fun
pancakesforbreakfast 5mo ago
Legend in the making
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
Thanks! I still can't believe I pulled it off, even though perhaps she was attracted to me first, I still had to pull it, it's not like she came to me and kissed me.
wswZtyqNGQ 5mo ago
MAD respect!
Durek_The_Bald 5mo ago
Well pleased for ya!
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 5mo ago
That's so similar to my first lay.
The self-doubt creeping back in, but ZFG coming through and making it easy.
Playful teasing.
Kino.
Escalating.
Push-pull.
I never did comment on your previous FR, but well done to both, especially this one.
Maybe less "yadda yadda"; the details might help another man who is where you were.
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
Sorry for the late reply, somehow I missed these comments!
I agree, I will keep or remove the "yada yada" in the next FR.
The self doubt creeping back in is a serious thing, I got it many times. For example when I decided to "walk her home", on the way I kept thinking of ways to excuse myself and leave, but I just kept following her and kept going and soon enough I was at the building entrance and the rest is history.
Kloi 5mo ago
Going to second this.
I treat women like one of the guys; talk shit, tease, challenge their train of thought. Majority of guys put girls on a pedestal. They let shit slide because they have a vagina, that they'd never let a person equipped with a dick do.
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
I just saw the comment now, my bad!
I agree, treat them like a guy and banter with them. I try to make it funny and just tease them about something that they have. Usually i comment on their motorcycle gear or even the motorcycle, if it's dirty if it's not etc. Just pretend that she's one of the boys and she's looking for banter.
Also, kino is getting easier and easier. My "kino practice" is basically going for the hug immediately as a "hello", however, I do this with the girls that I've talked before in person, otherwise it's just a fist pump. Other kino practice is messing with their jackets, she'll talk with me and i'll playfully pull on her jacket at random times, that gets a giggle out of her and even annoy her slightly. But it always gets the giggle and breaks any ice that is in between us.