I'll keep it short because it's late AF and I'll like to sleep for gym tomorrow.

I started taking photos of the local motorcycle clubs as a hobby, not getting paid for it not doing anything, just photos for people for free. My low key hope was that this way, I'll get a lot of social proof and connections plus friends. It worked, really well!

While many girls were within the motorcycle groups, not many were single (or appear to be single), needless to say, I just did not bother to approach within these circles, I just focused on my photos and getting more acquaintances.

Three days ago I was doing my thing with a few other guys, and some 18 year old girl comes to visit us (mainly the other guys that were older and more known within the city and groups). She did talk with me a bit but nothing out of the ordinary, just motorcycle stuff. I couldn't care less about her because she's not exactly my type, she's young and probably taken already anyway.

I sent her the pics with her, then proceeded to basically banter with her via text for a day or two, then she somehow gets comfortable enough to start talking to me about her life and stuff, nothing special. Somehow, I manage to turn this talk into her sex life, which was lacking badly after her last breakup. And this talk turns into serious sexting to the point that she's now sending me pics and videos of herself. Telling me how she wants me to do her etc. Yada yada she wants to ride with me so I say yes.

Today we meet and we ride together around the city, playing and goofing around when we'd stop around, nothing fancy. Stopped a few times to talk with other people, teased her a bit but also treated her like a brat.

Yada yada we ride yada yada we tease etc. So at the end of the day I decide to follow her home, basically, the equivalent of walking her home. Which she enjoyed. On the entrance to her building i tease her a lot and then go for the kiss to which she returns many times.

I couldn't fking believe it, not only that but apparently she noticed me a few weeks ago but she was assuming that I was taken or fucking multiple women because "men like you are never really single". Bruh!

So what did I do to get here? Here's breakdown as I understand it.

1. Push pull a lot, and I did it without realizing it, I'd tease her and kino her a lot, especially pull her leather jacket towards me. Then i'd ignore her and talk with the guys in the group about other things. And I'd do this many times while treating her like a brat.

2. Do not ever assume three things: A. That a girl is taken. B. That she is not attracted. C. That your SMV is low, or lower than her's.

   • A. You cannot know this for sure, especially with girls you haven't talked to, unless you see the guy or something 100% tangible, you never assume this.
   • B. This girl said that she was drooling over my looks for at least a week, I swear that I never saw her doing that and every single time I noticed her, she had this indifferent look on her face.
   • C. Just because you hate yourself or your looks, that does not mean everyone else (girls especially) hate it too.

3. IDGAF attitude is a must, I just stopped caring as I'm dealing with anxiety and a mild depression from other things, so the last thing on my mind was approaching on all women I encounter. I am fairly confident that this added some attraction to this girl or other girls because I just didn't care.

4. She is 18 years old and she started to shit test me instantly, calling me "old man", multiple times saying that she's not fking with me etc etc. Every single time she'd do that I'd reply with basically calling her a little girl or a brat, but playing with her.

5. Make her feel good and you're half way through the door. Thanks to my anxiety and mild depression I'm operating on a full on standup comedy routine to keep myself not completely depressed 24/7. This means that everything has to be funny and many times, everything is funny.

What this situation gave me?

1. Age gaps do not matter, only mentality gaps matter, if you're vibing with a younger or older girl, then it's good. (as long as it's LEGAL!).
2. Do not lose frame even in the worst case, like her talking about some other guy, or doing something to trigger you.
3. Live a little, nothing matters, let go and see what happens. If it happens then it happens if it doesn't then you try again with a different girl/situation.
4. Social proof matters in getting the ick out of the way initially, she's basically already knowing that I'm not a deranged serial killer given that everyone is liking me in the group/city.

Ok it wasn't that short, my bad.

Take care!