Short theory here, but one that I think rings true.

tl;dr When a woman says she hates you, it often means the opposite. And if it is true hate, that's still better than apathy.

Body When a female you're sexually interested in says "I hate you," what she often means is: "I hate (that I really like) you."

This is close to the heartiste theory that a text/email/IM from a girl that says, "Hey you!" can often mean: ""Hey (I want to fuck) you."

Remember, gents, truly hating you is not the worst thing a woman can feel for you. Most of the time the word "hate" is a substitute for "frustrated by," "attracted to," "worked up because of," "nervous sexual tension," etc. As I've said in the past, the worst emotion a woman can have is not hate as hate can be switched to desire easily, the worst emotion a woman can feel towards a man is complete and total apathy.

It's rarely true hate for you, and if it is true hate, hate is still a strong feeling, and a strong feeling is still in the ball park of where you want to be. Why? Because strong feelings are what women love and crave, and every time a strong feeling like that comes up she will think of you, and the more she does that the more you will be on her mind, and regardless of what she says, strong feelings are what motivates her to get out of bed in the morning much like competition, money, and a fat ass motivates us to get out of bed.

Lesson Learned/Theory Formulated When women say they hate you, hate is substituting for a word closer to passionate frustration/desire and she hates that she is attracted to you for it. And if it is true hate for you, that is still better than the worst feeling a woman can have for a man: apathy.

Edit - update: Just had a visit from the "I Hate You" girl that inspired this post. IHYG said "I hate you" approx 25 times in the 35 or 40 mins she was here. Slightly intoxicated, she proceeded to make sure she told me about how she was just having drinks with guy friends, said guy friends were waiting for her to get back there, she was not talking to me Tomo, I get on here nerves, etc. I told her to be careful drinking and driving, and did not respond to anything else she said. She wanted to wrestle a little bit and tried to play tough with me (to take out some frustrations I guess). Then said she had to get back to her friends. I said be careful. Stated she hated me again. Then I get the following text:

Her: Check your door I don't think I shut it all of the way (10 secs after she walks out door)

Me: silence as I'm working on side business

Her: You know we fucked the other day and I'm starting to realize you're weird, I don't want that in my life. I think we're done hanging out.

Me: 100% silence.

Her: (10 mins later) my friends left me, can I come back over?

Lulz....the hamster is strong in this one.