One of the main things I learned with girls is that while sex is good, other things doesn't matter so much at all. She will always come back to you and you are always welcome even after you split up - it's important to know how to make the bitch moan.
Guys here talk about dominance in social settings and it's great, but it's just a foreplay for what she really expects and wants - making her tap out.
Meek, vanilla sex will destroy every tingle you created with your game / looks whatever. Trust me, beyond certain point the way you fuck her is only thing important to her. She just knows how Alpha fucks, either you do it or you don't.
Sex she is happy with is pre requsition for any good relationship to exist. Either you want to plate her or to have an LTR, without good sex that's not going to be possible. Lot of guys are hiding behind game and muscles, but when they are down in bed they show their true beta face, and women HATE that. I am sorry for all the guys doing nice things for her in hope of getting meaningful relationship with women..but if you want anything meaningul from women you need to fuck her Alpha style first.
AWALT. Regardless of how naive and innocent she is, give me some time and she will be happy to be on her knees every now and then. Every women in existence dreams of being manhandled in bed - only difference is how much of it she wants - usually more then we expect. Just FORGET that there is women which is too innocent for it - if she doesn't want to let you do it you're not Alpha enough for her. Deal with it - introspect, improve, try again.
This pill is sometimes really bitter - because man-bitches are hardly accepting that the same chick that doesn't answer his messages enjoys blindfolding, or that his sweet, innocent, church going family oriented unicorn is getting DESTROYED by men tenfolds worse then he is.
Just don't fall for the vanilla sex trap - I would even go so far and said that if you can't do to her things I am about to write, then she is fucking you - and not you her. She is probably giving you vanilla sex just to keep her around.
But fuck it mate, pill is swallow, the faster you get over it, the better.
Things you should be doing. Start from the beginning, and progress slowly - you don't want to do something she doesn't like, eg you can't just slap her out of the blue. The key is do to each step and see how she reacts. They will be pretty suggestive about should you move on or not - anyway forget stupid mentality of just doing whatever you want to do to her because that could end badly. If you can do this to her, she considers you Alpha. If you can't, she considers you Beta. That's my ONLY merit about how she sees you.
Once hierarchy is established you can do whatever you like - anyway before that restrain yourself, and stay out of trouble. Recognize signals. You can also talk to it about her before trying. Best time is after sex, when you're together in bed next to each other. Simply ask her what she thinks about this or that.
So few advices how to imprint yourself in her brain.
Missionary pose:
-you're having regular sex in this pose - you're thrusting and your hands are behind her head, carresing her cheeks from time to time. Good job so far, you're getting laid. But..
-instead of carresing her or doing nothing with her hands - grab her for wrists and lock her hands down. Follow up with few very strong thrusts. If she moans..you're doing it right way.
-next step, grab her both hands with your hand and lock them behind her head. Use your other hand to cover her mouth while you're thrusting. Bonus if she is trying to moan but she can't.
-after that, you can progress to also covering her nose with your hand - so she can't breathe - anyway be careful here, do it just for a short time and not often.
-use your other hand to slightly press her neck. Learn how to press it so that she can breathe.
-from time to time, press her body with yours so that she can't move - anyway do it in the way that she can breathe - it will take some time to practice. If you're following TRP advice, you're quite muscular while she is small and thin so be careful. If you're laying whales these things are probably hard to do.
Doggy style:
Women simply LOVE this degrading pose. They love it like they love air. So you're screwing her this way, and all you do is resting your hands on her butt? Well you can do better. -squezze her ass STRONG. -grab her thin hips and everytime you are about to thrust pull her towards you -grab and pull her hair while you are thrusting -my favourite, if you're able to: grab her hair with one hand and cover her mouth with other hand. Thrust like there is no tomorrow. Moans guaranteed. -Lock her both arms on her back in so called "police" lock while you're hitting it -Butt slaps: they enjoy it. Anyway, start slowly and easy. If she likes it like that it's very likely she will like when you spank her full power. -combine last two: lock her hands in police lock, burry her head in the sheets, and slap her ass.
- don't be gentle here, women like doggy style particularly because she want to be fucked HARD. Save your good deeds for another time (invest in charity if you need to let your good soul out - just don't let it out with women) and kill it - it's never clear to me how thin small bitch can take so much pounding from adult strong men - but anyway she can. Don't worry about hurting her.
Blowjobs:
-DON'T ask her to do it. Take her head and place it on your dick. She'll get the message -If she doesn't give you good blowjobs it's because she doesn't know how - teach her. She'll like it. -If she can do deepthroat, take her head and force it all the way down. When she starts coughing hold it for few seconds, flip her and go doggy style, from last point (police lock..) -get up, throw pillow on the floor, order her to kneel on it and fuck her - cum in her face / mouth. Women love it because in a way you are marking your territory. Other thing they like is cuming on their back.
Other advice
-DON'T cuddle after sex. We all (probably) have this impulse. Anyway deny it. When you're finished with sex get up and go eat some bacon or tell her to bring it. -don't worry about dick size - most women can't tell the difference between big and small. Also it's big lie that they all like it big - usually it hurts them too much and sex is not so comfortable. If you're average it's enough to give her everything she needs.
Using helpful tools
-OK, if you can do some of the above with her, she's definitely into domination - time for real fun. Get some rope, blindfold, and a belt.
I won't write about this because I don't want for this post to get deleted. But I will just gurantee you that most innocent girl you know dreams about being "belted" in doggy position or receiving fellation while she's blindolfed and tied to bed.
Not one, but more girls, told me that all they need to know about a men is found out in the way he fucks her. That's the time when she separated beta from alpha. As we all know here, modern women have everything - only thing she needs is someone to satisfy her in primal way. That's harsh reality - if you're too much of a pussy to do it.
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1v1crown 9y ago
No one has written the absolute number one thing to do in bed to make a girl instantly realize she is yours. A leash.
I always put a leash on a girl when I fuck them at some point EARLY on in my relationship. The first time, you will see them back away from it, even when you are buckling it on their neck, then when it is tight and you are fucking them from behind while pulling the leash back hard so they are choking a bit, something changes in them, they just let go and submit to you, both in bed AND in regular life.
Trust me, put her on a leash.
PantsonFire1234 9y ago
Everything boils down to her surrendering herself to you and trusting you but still feeling excitement.
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I use a belt. Just tie it around her neck during doggy style.
1v1crown 9y ago
But I buy the leash at a pet store she is literally wearing a dog collar. 100% obedience obtained.
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Ok, let's rephrase it. I am average in size and slept with more then 30 women. Most of them thin, aged between 17 and 35. Majority of them was coming back from more and really enjoyed it. With few of them I could not fit it in due to her pussy size and last one complained that I go too deep and it's hurting her.
So we can say that big is not must have to satisfy her.
dongpal 9y ago
care. if you have a long and big dick like me you can easily hurt her more than you thought. my LTR always complains about her hurting vagina the next day. dont do it too long.
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I like short (up to 20min) and intensive sessions. And average dick.
Regularguygamebrah 9y ago
That's where babies come from hoss. As a guy w a thick wick, she can take it. It's up to you to stretch that fucker out so the next guy gets Saint Bernard pussy instead of the puddle that it had been when it came to you.
KermitTheeFrog777 9y ago
Could use some editing, but overall very important topic. I think you are the only one in a long time that has explicitly stated the logical conclusion of TRP: sexing her good is by far the most important tool in your belt, and being lackluster here will make everything else harder.
That said, if you know you have shortcomings (heh) in that area, please don't let it get you down (heh). Seriously, seek help if necessary, and remember attitude and relaxation are the most important thing. Don't stress yourself out, or show anything but pride in your abilities and physique.
Also agree with the point that if you haven't explored these things in depth, they probably have dirtier fantasies than you want to admit. I'm not new to playing rough, but this still bothers me to some extent.
Another tip: use context and judgement to gauge how far to go with a girl if it's your first time together. My default is 50%: firm but not kinky.
mechanizedmischief 9y ago
If you fuck her good enough she won't notice that you have the personality of a wet rug. This is key.
Or fucking ask her, you maniac.
PantsonFire1234 9y ago
I've had girls I fucked lackluster because their body/appearance was lackluster. It's equally important we find a girl that we're actually attracted to- this releases the inner beast.
Care to elaborate?
yaysmr 9y ago
I've been kinky for years now, but it always felt like a part I was playing and not who I was until I integrated TRP teachings to actually become dominant.
Now that I am inhabiting the role (or trying to) and really getting into the psychology of submission, its a far more intriguing, complex world than it might seem. Basic rules still apply to be sure, but negotiating actual behavior is a sensitive dance.
You can get into some complex shit when you're pushing a girl to her limits and beyond. They want you to do certain things but they feel unable to articulate them, and YOU, as the dominant, have to figure it out and take them there... while also avoiding their actual hard limits and not going too far or too fast. You scare off newbies if you don't feather the throttle a little.
Good default, I usually aim for 75% when with a girl where it's established that we're both kinky... and yet that has turned out to be too slow for some of them.
The ridiculous, ironic truth seems to be: the more innocent, introverted, and demure she appears/acts elsewhere, the the harder she'll let you go to town on her body in the bedroom (or outside it!!). But they're the least able to articulate how far and bad they want it so I'm constantly paranoid about crossing the line.
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aptway 9y ago
What you want is generic Tadalfil (Cialis). Shit will get you rock-hard and lasts about 36 hours, with none of the shitty side-effects of Viagra.
When I go au naturale, I am unable to get it up again within 5-10m. With tadalfil, I am ready to go almost immediately after. Great for sex marathons, if your girl is into those.
TheVictor333 9y ago
Forget that Viagra. That shit has some fucked up side effects. I had the SAME EXACT problem you had. Read what I did to cure myself of porn induced ED here
J_AsapGem 9y ago
same problem here.. or i would have to get really comfortable with the girl with it to stay hard and that takes some time..well force myself to do this bro, thanks for the info
truthyego 9y ago
How's your diet? You lifting regularly? Sleeping well?
You could try Vitamin D3, and Zinc, especially if you dont get much sunlight. Correcting Vit D deficiency helped me personally quite a bit.
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yaysmr 9y ago
Viagra.
Get really good at eating pussy.
NoFap.
An_All-Beef_Engineer 9y ago
Not good for someone as young as he
She will want the d at some point.
Probably the only good answer
daddymonsterpoodle 9y ago
I like dominant sex. Being dominant means being comfortable with your own shit. Saying I am too dominant to cuddle is retarded. 'Gee, I won't cuddle you after great sex because it might make me seem less dominant.' IIT just makes you seem insecure. Its about the feels. When she comes to you and just wants to snuggle up it is because she wants to feel safe and secure with you. Part of dominance is your sub being able to trust you. If you can't even meet a basic emotional need why should she? Fucks sake, if you like cuddling, cuddle. Yeah, awesome dominant sex is great, but for a bunch of women and some men that emotional connection during post-coital cuddling is pretty important. It also stops the woman from feeling like a cum dumpster.
I do agree that dominant sex starts with a dominant relationship. It needs to be clear from the start what sort of man you are.
Marsupian 9y ago
I think the best apprach is to just lay on your back and let her initiate the cuddling if she wants to. It doesn't give off a needy vibe but still allows for pair bonding and let's her feel safe and protected in your arms. Probably also helps make her feel less used and less of a slut.
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VasiliyZaitzev 9y ago
Three words: Tie.Her.Up.
You're welcome.
Uncle Vasya
Johnny_Cocaine 9y ago
I'd been thinking of using a bunch of my ties, but the mattress handles thing is genius!!
You da real mvp for linking that.
VasiliyZaitzev 9y ago
Glad you found it useful. It is just one more tool in the tool box, although personally I like the box tie the best, or the simple cross-wrist tie. Puts her tits out front on display and right there for fun.
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Agreed. Bondage isn't really my thing, but it seems surprisingly common amongst women, so I'm willing to oblige. Good sources are to search for 'Two Knotty Boys' on Youtube. For a gently introduction (I think I picked this up from Daniel Rose, can't remember), you have her bring you one of her silk or satin headscarves. Have her hold up one hand, put one end of the scarf into it and tell her to hold it. Then she hold up the other hand alongside, and you do a couple of figure-of-eights around the wrists, followed by a couple of around-the-outside, and get her to hold the other end of the scarf in her other hand. Tell her she will be spanked if she lets go of the scarf without permission (optional). So, she is tied, but actually she isn't, and she could let go if she wanted to, which gives more confidence to overcome nervousness.
VasiliyZaitzev 9y ago
You can do it that way, of course, with a noob chick, but I find they really get off on actual helplessness.
Archwinger Endorsed Contributor 9y ago
The biggest take-away from this post isn't the examples of how to be more manly in bed. The specific things you might do with a girl can vary based on your style and hers, and the context of your relationship.
It's that if you try anything along those lines and your woman stops you, it's because she doesn't think of you in that way. You are not a man to her. Getting laid is all fine and good, but if she's not receptive to your suggestions and trusting/submissive enough to let you move her around and do things to her, you are not her man. You're just the guy she's using this minute.
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Yes, that's the main point. But it requires a man to be really honest with himself - I am pretty sure even the strongest among us are not so comfortable with the fact that that particular women simply doesn't see you as THAT man.
Introspect, improve, try again - is only way to move forward.
I am not blessed among the sinners - as others I had some girls which just didn't want to get dirty with me. It was more like "watch out, don't put your hand there" thing. If I can't change it I will move on.
Because it's better to have sex with "YES FUCK ME" girls then with "I am ok with it" girls.
But I think it's more then about sex - her willingness in bed resembles everything she feels about you. Good, polarized sex is basis of any relationship.
Another point would be...just FORGET about her innocence. Nice guys really need to see recordings of their unicorns asking guys "can you rope me" or "would you slap me during sex".
UrsusG 9y ago
It also bears reminding that starting an LTR, especialy a live-in or semi-live-in LTR will erode your position and image as ''that man".
The more familiar you become to her through mundane day to day interactions, the less likely it is she will accept your domination in bed in the evening.
This is a natural psychological process and it's nobody's fault.
The best way to avoid it is to avoid LTRs and, as a minimum, avoid living in together.
Just to be clear, I define LTR as a relationship that's exclusive and continuous for at least 18 months.
tl,dr: don't live together
edit: word choice
[deleted] 9y ago
What do you think about intentionally breaking the rapport / familiarity in order to keep the attraction?
I don't have so much problems connecting with them, rather I'm not always sure how to act when I want to keep just certain level of familiarity. Because closer we get, less we are attracted, that's true.
Usually I cut the contact, act dismissive and use slightly offending / teasing words - most of the times it works however sometimes I lose it.
I think that's where real game is.
PantsonFire1234 9y ago
Women like to compartmentalize shit. If you're her boyfriend she will push you in the BB/AB box. When you're her fuckboy she will push you in that box. Trying to jump from one ladder to the other is equally disastrous like the Fucking/Friendzone ladder.
It can be a mindfuck though. I once tried to LTR one of my first plates pre-TRP. Before this she was gushing wet and constantly getting off on me. But I had significant trouble finding her attractive. She wasn't the type I usually fucked (bit chubby/thick).
scissor_me_timbers00 9y ago
I disagree. It certainly can have the effect you described, but that's mostly because the vast majority of guys, in their core of being, still retain some boyishness/betaness, which she will sniff out from being around you.
I have a close buddy who is the most alpha dude I know, top 1-2% SMV. 6'4", jacked, dark and bearded, nuclear PhD student. He lived with his girlfriend for a while before proposing to her. She was ultra excited about the whole thing, it was clear to me he still held the power. Now they're married and she's locking him down further with kids, showing she still sees him as her man. She's pretty hot too, hb 8.
The reason for all this is my buddy is manly and alpha pretty deep into his core, so living w his girl didn't reveal anything to turn her off.
mechanizedmischief 9y ago
What happens once you get married, or do only betas get married?
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Gabe51 9y ago
Pardon me but what is the meaning of ltr
reigorius 9y ago
Everlasting happiness coupled with satisfying sense of safety and foreverness.
Duh
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Redpill_Hannibal 9y ago
then what is your take on so called "man caves", where a man spends the majority of his time self improving and devoting himself to hobbies, getting out just to drink, eat and fuck?
mrrooftops 9y ago
A 'man cave' is where BBs get exiled to within the house they paid for.
Redpill_Hannibal 9y ago
no, a "man cave" is place where AF runs to, if he has a whiny ass wife, so she would compete for his attention with his hobbies
mrrooftops 9y ago
AF... running away... in his own home? I think you need to rethink your interpretations.
Redpill_Hannibal 9y ago
still in anger phase, aren't we? your posts are giving me a vibe that you want to fight with a woman for whatever reason, in your interpretation a man cave is a prison, a place for losers, in mine it is an asylum, a sanctuary, a treehouse with sign "no girls allowed"
sensitiveduck 9y ago
man caves are for betas. Your whole house should be under your total control.
Redpill_Hannibal 9y ago
your house, your set of rules, a woman have permission to live there, but have no permission to enter certain rooms so she can "miss you", and get hungry for your attention, and whatever she do when you are on your mission
that's not hard to understand is it?
mrrooftops 9y ago
He's crying for help. Pay him no mind. Only he can help himself when he is ready.
Redpill_Hannibal 9y ago
so you came here to win approval of the TRP echo chamber by cultivating this man-victim-complex, you didn't want to have constructive discussion in the first place
made me respond/10
RedEyesBlueShades 9y ago
You have no idea what you're talking about.
A man cave is, for me, a place she's not allowed in. The equivalent of a monk's retreat. A place for "me time". Not "a place for betas".
I've never slept on the sofa, ever!, yet I wanted my man cave.
(Btw, happily single now...)
sensitiveduck 9y ago
the word man cave is mostly used by betas. If you have a man cave but still total control of your house then of course it's not beta. Just talking in general here.
Sir_Distic 9y ago
I've found many, many women love it when you are riding them doggy style, with one hand wrap her hair in your fist. Grab her hair and turn your hand. She's not going anywhere. Also slap her ass. The combination of pulling her towards you with her hair and slapping her ass will get her flowing like Niagra falls.
For the hair pulling. You want to pull firmly but not hard. Don't hurt her or rip out her hair but have her head face forward or slightly back. Now this can't be done for a long time as the strain on the neck is hard.
PantsonFire1234 9y ago
Depends on the hair type to. Girls with straight hair respond better than some curly chick. Dry hair hurts when grabbed to firmly. Also grab enough of it. Preferably most of her upper scalp and hold at the base. Then slowly work to the pony tail with the other hand.
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Ripsteve 9y ago
How refreshing is this post? with all these wannabe alphas writing dissertations on the science of alpha...quit that shit...read the ops post and apply.
let me add:
one handed double breast grab (doggy or missionary)...works better with natural tits but mentally they are triggered into thinking "this guy just took both my tits into one hand for his pleasure...not mine"...and that takes them into the erotic zone. I've literally had a girl ask me "did you just grab both my tits with one hand?"...good stuff man.
a key to observe from that...(if this isn't obvious you are beta)...do these things for your pleasure standards...if they don't work to satisfy her...sorry homie...youre beta.
mechanizedmischief 9y ago
That's a great observation, that women are only concerned with men's pleasure while they're in bed. Great job, Steve.
reigorius 9y ago
What about taking in everybody's idea's, statements & bro-science and try out these things for yourself and keep what works.
If you experiment, you'll eventually find out that dominance is a huge pleasure multiplier for the ladies and great attraction builder.
thop89 9y ago
Cuddling releases Oxytocin in her. Why deny it?
aherne18 9y ago
Because it's an anti-climax. You have just proven to be an alpha male, remember?
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gonorealover 9y ago
How the hell do you guys come up with these bullshit non sense ? She will act out for her revenge regardless of what you do. Society ENCOURAGES women to act out of revenge : they dont get punished for their acts.
always-be-closing 9y ago
The same reason you have to deny anything that pleases her unless it's your decision to reward her and she knows you're controlling whether or not it happens.
aherne18 9y ago
-7 points??? Probably some omegas had their feelings crushed.
Words of wisdom anyway...
mechanizedmischief 9y ago
Like a dog, women can definitely be trained.
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It can be done, but she must initiate it. Person which is initiating cuddling after sex is holding less power in relationship. That's what I meant. If she asks you why oyu never cuddle or can you lay behind her / hug her are great signs..but if you are initiating it and if YOU are the one chasing it, then DON'T.
It's men's job to go after sex, and hers to go after feels / commitment / cuddling whatever.
reigorius 9y ago
They usually curl up in my armpit.
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Given the fact that I am into all the domination shit and I understand your point. I need to point out that after you have degraded, fucked her senseless you must give some affection. I had people wake up confused or a bit lost let's say the following day when I was too tired and fell asleep straight after.
I always cuddle her afterwards. The cuddle is her crawled up to me and me stroking her until she is back. It creates a good mixture of intimidation, submission and an utter sense of safety in your arms. It's the sense that you are dominating/dangerous and she is only safe in your arms if you were to allow it.
PaulAJK 9y ago
Yeah, but only if she initiates it. Some subbie/maso girls don't want it, although they're a minority. Reading redwurst's comment brought another one of those penny dropping, "shit that's why she left me" TRP moments of realisation, because I had a decent FBW who was into all that, and I insisted on cuddling afterwards. Which in retrospect left me looking like a pathetic beta, despite her reddenned arse, so obviously she walked.
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Absolutely if she wants it. I normally lie back to catch a breather. They normally crawl into your arms on their own.
reigorius 9y ago
Don't put it on you. If you enjoy cuddling, fuck it. If that's your spiel, enjoy it. If the girl doesn't like it, she simply is not your girl. We make the mistake that, once they are in our sphere of influence, every girl can be coaxed into certain behavior we want & enjoy. Some girls just don't match with you and you force that what you want. That shit doesn't work. Identify does girls with whom you clash on a subconscious level, next her and move on.
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That killed me more then a few times. Last example wasn't so much different then previous examples: sex is finished, we are in bed each on it's own side. And I come and ASK HER can we get closer?
But these are the moments which make you great - when you feel your beta behavior, you are observing it, and later you get rid of it. I always say to guys - feel it. Feel your inner Beta and get rid of it.
Although I don't even think it's Beta - but many of today sluts are completely new-level of game. Sometimes sign of humanity is enough to ditch you.
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PantsonFire1234 9y ago
My last plate constantly complained about me stretching her out. However she couldn't shut up about my size. Trust me women love big dicks just like they love tall men. But this doesn't disqualify an average size.
I'd say average sized guys have the advantage that they can pound furiously while bigger sized guys need to warm up the oven a bit.
Fly_Swim 9y ago
im 6 x 5.3 and im the smallest guy most chicks have been w, i asked most of my lays this past year.
Every pussy is looser to me bc of guys like u hitting it before me :/ i get less value from sex, less friction/less sensation, its really demoralizing
sex is still overall positive for me obv so i cant let it hold me back but it def is,,, do i need to hamster my way out of this for my fragile psychology or can a girl truly desire my sized dick? thing is, i have extremely high smv (earned in the last few months mostly) after years of groundwork
but my D size man, its soul crushing, can you offer any advice or thoughts on this?
PantsonFire1234 9y ago
Hows your overall T levels? Do you masturbate often? Got thin leg muscles? Really how dominant and horny do you get.
Also try a cock ring, oil up the head if it's grown insensitive.
Two positive points, as far as I'm aware 5-6 in width is actually pretty thick. Anyone that wants to correct me on that go right ahead. Second point- you're actually having sex man. That's fucking great.
Read up on the post about dominating a girl in the sack. It's been posted 1-2 weeks ago. Your dick might not be XXL but your hands can make up for it.
Fly_Swim 9y ago
Ive masturbated 5x a day for decades with a few 3 month breaks being 100% asexual i guess...
I will measure T levels soon
I have huge legs as im a 30ish and very fit.
6 in girth IS thick, but im 5.3
ya but i only get 50% of the enjoyment most guys do, its crushing to be paying the same outlay but only be getting 50% of the reward
thanks i will try the cock ring, and my shit is insensitive so i will do oil more
dominant and horny is brilliant man, ill think about these alot
PantsonFire1234 9y ago
Try rubbing it off 1x not 5x. Also wait 2-3 days to refill before you stroke the dragon again. This builds libido. Also don't jack off compulsively or quickly, make a workout out of it and stretch it out. This is mostly important to prevent any fucked up erectile dysfunction. Really this part ain't scientific but I found my libido in much healthier shape. That's just me though.
Measure your T levels and read up on how to boost it/maximize it.
Big leg muscles are usually an indication to some masculinity between the legs. Something could be up. Take it serious and do some research, contact your doctor if need be. Check those swimmers and if you've had unsafe sex, always check up.
I'm not sure but 5.3 and 6 sound like close measurements. I've never never bothered measuring this because it varries allot and I've actually had complaints to be to thick. (You know the kind of complains women make when they actually tingle like mad).
I get that, wish I could help you more but part of this will end with acceptance. There's some you can do but not everything.
This can help you greatly, forget enlargement pills and such. Remember that the dragon consists of blood vessels. Head insensitivity could hamper your ability to cap size.
Learn how to properly handle a woman in a dom fassion. Restraining, handcuffs, hair pulling, choking, spanking, slapping or dirty talk. Female sexuality is a mental process more so than a bodily function like with us. This means that you can make them forget all about your smaller size because you'll appear huge.
Women can't trick you into being slim if their fat or having a hot ass if they are flat. That's because men enjoy their sex mostly through the physical. Dominance aside.
Hope this helps you man, one more man winning it out there always puts a smile on my face.
truthyego 9y ago
Length is advantageous with women who can have vaginal orgasms. I know feminist media stats say that only 1 out of 3 women can have vag orgasms, but I think that's a fucking lie (literally).
I think more has to do with fat women who have weak pelvic floor and pussy muscles, or their fat prevents full penetration, or inexperienced women who don't masturbate solo to learn their body. And probably beta men who don't turn them on in the first place.
I think most all women can vaginal orgasm, in the right conditions.
PantsonFire1234 9y ago
From my experience every girl who was sexually "unlocked" had the ability to come when getting fucked. That's just my small pool of women I've had sex with/talked to but there's truth to what you're stating.
Besides that Girth is even more important. They love that stretching feeling. Women want to be filled after all.
truthyego 9y ago
Ah the length vs girth debate.
Length gets you to the anterior and posterior fornix, which is a pretty intense experience for most women, full body orgasms. Comes with more responsibility tho, it's easy to carelessly punch a cervix or cause pain with a bad angle.
Girth, like you said, stretches. Probably helps hit that g-spot with more pressure. Requires more lube and pre-penetration warm up.
Counterarguments for each:
With length, you can simulate more girth by using extreme angle-pressure. Or a bath mate session + cock ring can get you some temporary expansion for more stretchin.
With enough girth, you can actually shorten the vagina some by widening it. And in terms of volume, an inch in circumference adds way more volume than inch in length.
The debate rages (hard)on
PantsonFire1234 9y ago
Interesting. I never thought about it like that. Being blessed down there in both areas can be great fun. There's always someone "bigger" or "better" though. So don't expect allot of these sluts to stay locked down.
alwaysblastin 9y ago
There's much truth to sluts enjoying a rough pounding but vanilla sex, the slow sensual kind, does have a time and place especially in LTRs. My 4 year ltr generally loves taking it rough but every now and then she wants to make love and I do too.
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scissor_me_timbers00 9y ago
I just see it as something a skilled and experienced guy who loves sex would do. that's not beta.
truthyego 9y ago
Totally agree. If you actually enjoy it, then do what makes you happy. But don't believe the feminist media trope that tries to make it out to be the main event.
They're always saying shit like "real men do cunnilingus," and "PIV is just a small part of sex," and they pretend like there's a dozen ways to suck her taint to 'satisfy your girl.' Yeah, women are really satisfied by submissive men who are more worried about giving her just the right combo of counterclockwise figure-8 tounge twist clit cycles, than being a dominant man and doing what biology has programmed us to do, which is stick that dick in vagina.
The whole thing is just another society level shit test.
Or put another way, how many beta men are being told every day, "no I don't like PIV, you can only do just a little, and only after you have sucked my crotch out." Meanwhile some Chad was railing her raw dog last weekend while BB was out of town.
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Just eat it like caveman would it hot steak. Going meek and timid IS beta. Lock her legs, slap her ass, and DIVE in, also grunt while you're doing it. When she starts moaning thrust your dick inside - if it's beta I am Bill Gates mate.
Man_Jose 9y ago
If you lick the pussy like a wild animal, and she moans, you're in. Just lick a few times wild and quick, if it gives her a rush, she'll reciprocate by sucking your dick wildly.
If she doesn't like it, fuck that shit. Don't lick her anymore, but make her lick you.
Sample size: 2 women
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nuferasgurd 9y ago
Everything in life is about sex except sex. Sex is about power. Oscar Wilde
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I tried doggystyle once and just couldn't get it in. It was really embarrassing for me and the LTR at the time never wanted me to try again.
She said "we tried before, it didn't work remember?"
This got me thinking i am too small for doggystyle. I'm 5.5 inches, apparently average, but this shook my confidence so much I never tried doggy again.
Anyone who is a similar size to mine have any advice?
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DreamsOnReplay 9y ago
As Elliott Hulse would say, she needs to extend her lumbar spine and support her thoracic spine.
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Man_Jose 9y ago
Great image.
To add to it, the girl's legs have to be wide apart for the pussy to show. Stretch her legs apart.
Also, depending on your height, you might literally have to stand behind her instead of kneeling. Just stand like a crouching soldier and pierce through her 90 degress.
Joseph_the_Carpenter 9y ago
If you mean just to see then yea, but the best doggy for me is when their legs are underneath them, knees up near their stomach. It spreads their legs out but gives me easier access too.
DanG3 9y ago
Tell her, "Keep your ass up and tits on the bed." They sometimes arch up if they feel you hitting the end of the cervix. You should be fine at your size. My wife's first impression was, "That's aweful." After becoming more commanding and instructive with her, it's now, "It feels amazing."
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Thats good advice, even the dumbest women should be able to follow that. What exactly did your wife think was awful?
DanG3 9y ago
I was not about to give credibility to her comment by discussing it. Women will test your confidence and frame in all kinds of ways - including being (playing) prudish ... with a copy of 50 Shades under the bed. What they really want, and will ultimately respect, is the Man who has the confidence and demeanor such that they can TRUST you with their Inner Slut. Unfortunately, most guys don't "get" this until they discover the "aweful" things their SO's are capable of blissfully doing with an affair partner. Your goal is to Be That Man.
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lnTheRearWithTheGear 9y ago
Just did anal with a girl who said she didn't like it before. I worked my thumb into her asshole, just to get her used to it. Then I slowly, slowly, slowly worked my dick in there. She had already cum multiple times, was relaxed, etc. I whispered in her ear to make sure she was okay, and she was. I didn't pound her ass or anything, just some gentle thrusting for a few minutes to get her used to it. Apparently she came twice just from that.
I have had women put fingers and prostate toys in my ass before. It's not bad, just takes some getting used to. The key is lube and being gentle. You want them to have good experiences with you, and if you can show a woman that you're the guy who makes everything good, where all the other guys couldn't... she'll keep coming back.
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Cyralea 9y ago
You can usually make a second go for it after warming her up. Play with her butthole while fucking her doggystyle. Insert the tip of your index finger while fucking her in other positions. If she's receptive to that you can try your dick after she's sufficiently turned on.
Some girls will outright reject all attempts though. Not all of them are into it.
truthyego 9y ago
I like to start in missionary. Grinding deep and hard, she should be moaning. One arm around her neck, the other hand grab her ass, hard. Move your hand around until there's a couple fingers next to, or over her asshole. You can even reach around far enough to feel your dick Spend a few moments using her pussy juice to make sure everything is nice and lubricated, and then slowly, apply pressure.
You almost want it to seem like you were just grabbing/squeezing, having fun, and then a finger slid in almost by accident. If she's near orgasm, she should love it.
If she is, you can do more fingers. Take it slow of course, and make sure there's enough lube! I suppose this is a great lead in to full anal but I haven't been able to convince myself to go full stink. Not sure if I want to be a shitdick.
reigorius 9y ago
The stink is the biggest anti boner to me. But when a girl says she doesn't like anal, challenge accepted
apackofwankers 9y ago
then leave it alone. Not every chick will try anal, and if they do, very few will like it.
Order yourself a dildo about the size of your cock - try and work it up your ass
pretentiously 9y ago
I'm a girl. I'm with a guy who likes to force his dick in my ass and fuck me really hard. It hurts like hell but I let him do it because he likes it.
apackofwankers 9y ago
I've slept with 50 women in my life, asked maybe 10 to try it, 4 did, and only 1 loved it, but was into it before she met me. Like 1 out of 50, but I never forced it.
pretentiously 9y ago
I actually do like anal and have asked for it with past partners. The way he likes it is (in his words) less about the sensation it gives him and more about escalating the pain it causes me.
apackofwankers 9y ago
Yeah, the women and pain thing i have a hard time understanding, maybe you can explain it to me.
There was a quote from TRP that keeps floating around my head "Women dont want to feel good, they just want to feel something"
I spanked a girlfriend for the first time last year. Hard. She wanted massive cuddles after. Weird.
Met a chick who wanted to be choked last year. Strange.
Im middle aged now, and still banging 20-somethings. Coming across a lot more freaks these days/
pretentiously 9y ago
Well I guess I'm probably a bit younger than the girls you are banging, I can't even legally drink yet. I bang middle aged guys though. I like to be choked, hit, degraded, all that. I think it's part of being submissive. Our pleasure doesn't matter, all that matters is pleasing our partner and getting him off.
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Johnny_Cocaine 9y ago
I'd say small anal beads. My finger was even uncomfortable with my ex. But she kept wanting to try penetration, but it never happened. All I ended up doing was licking her ass and rubbing it with my finger. I should have tried other anal toys that were much smaller.
EscortSportage 9y ago
Lot of guys are hiding behind game and muscles, but when they are down in bed they show their true beta face,
This is so true, i enjoy listening to other men/friends/who ever tell stories and im like wtf. It reminds me of 40 year old virgin, the movie when hes like i "nailed" a lot of women and then blows his cover by saying "bags of sand"
its true men want to fantasize and act like sex gods when they are around other men, and tell their stories, its unnecessary pea cocking, work to improve in bed with her not telling your friends bullshit.
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Let's say that I showed my Beta in the sack and turned a girl off so hard it sucked the life out of the room. Hypothetically, of course. Is it even possible to "get her back" after such a crash landing? I used the quotes because it seems like a beta thing to do, winning back a woman, and I guess it is. That doesn't mean I don't want another girl I can have sex with though.
Meat-on-the-table 9y ago
Don't forget the most important thing: fuck her mind.
There is a reason why make-up sex is so hot: the prospect of losing someone and the rush of chemicals fuels a great sexual experience.
Keep her mind enthralled by you through your dominance outside the bedroom, and let that naturally translate into your sex life.
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Exactly - that's why I said that bed sex can destroy all the tingles you've created. Foreplay starts waaaay before bedroom.
mechanizedmischief 9y ago
exACTLY. This is what I've been saying all along - some people call it abuse or being an absolute asshole, but really fucking with their head is just an alpha trait.
RP_Vergil 9y ago
Nice stuff. I have an issue with DE (Delayed Ejaculation) so many times I had to go more kinky, natural vanila sex doesn't cut it at all now and I'm looking at other methods before turning to ropes and tools.
ShepherdTheRed 9y ago
I never have the problem of wanting to cuddle and then shaming myself and not doing it. If I feel like doing something then I do it.
bittr_n_swt 9y ago
got a semi reading this damn great post. I'll try and implement this next time
TWYW 9y ago
Ctrl + f, "dirty talk", no results. What the fuck? That's like 60% of a good dominant fuck.
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naMlliPdeR 9y ago
Here are my observations and comments based on life experiences.
I've tried in the past to avoid cuddling, thinking it will appear less needy and alpha. I've come to realize that being cold right after sex can lead to the girl flaking in the future. Every time I cuddle properly, she always gets attached and begs for more. So this is the only point I strongly disagree with.
As to sexual attitudes. If it's not congruent with who you are outside of the bedroom, trying to take control right away can seem forced and fake, and that's a huge turn off. So before taking this advice, be sure that you already have your inner game and outter game spot on during the first dates so that she can know what to expect, and that it seems natural once you fucker her brains out.
ScholarInRed 9y ago
Agreed on both points. Only the worst women are invulnerable to the oxytocin high and cuddling. It's like saving the progress you just made.
Johnny_Cocaine 9y ago
**UPDATE: Felt the need to update this as I read up via someone linking and thru searching something called "breath play," which I've never heard about. I must add, that every time (but once) that I did choking, it was brief and firm, not hard. I'd say no more than 20 secs as I honestly was scared to test it more. The one time in parenthesis was brief, but not soft nor firm, it was hard. But I did it for like 10 seconds, and while she didn't mind it, I personally didn't like doing it.
So I googled breath play and came upon this article regarding choking if any are interested. Its about halfway down. http://dominantguide.com/176/take-your-breath-away-basics-of-breath-play/ **
add CHOKING to the list. EVERY single girl, whether the act wild, are wild, act innocent, or are innocent has loved me choking them. Okay,my first couple of encounters I never even tried.
Some like very soft chocking, some like soft but firm choking, and some like hard choking. As op said, start slow. Don't go to full choke obviously.
Just grab their neck softly for a few seconds. Then go elsewhere, but come back. Then progress to more firm, and then progress. I had one girl after removing my hand from her neck, grab my hand, and put it back on her neck. But honest to god, all the girls liked or loved it. Although, of course, there will be girls out there that don't.
Some may not say anything, but may ride you harder, or kiss you more aggressively.
I feel the neck is a good test point, because you can move to putting your fingers in their mouth more aggressively or testing other boundaries, but that's just me. The reason I like going to their mouth is to see if they like spit play, which is what I"m into. Not me spitting on them, but them spitting on me. Takes quite awhile to get them comfortable to do it. But some just let go and really enjoy it.
Damnit, I knew I'd feel the need to jerk off after talking about this.
PantsonFire1234 9y ago
Yeah his, I was confused at first because all I could think about was my enjoyment of fucking her. After a while it gets to you though.
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sirpsycho3 9y ago
Just adding a note to this when you squeeze her neck focus more on cutting the blood flow on the sides of her neck. This is how you give them that lightheaded feel, try it on your self you'll see
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It's important for keeping a girl's attraction going that awesome sex is just something you DO. It's one of the many things on your agenda each day. She needs to see you as someone who can fuck the dogshit out of her and then go write a novel or build a ship (for some fucking reason. Women just don't and will never get how much men like sex. I could write a whole article just on that.)
For you, your entire end-goal in many of these relationships is only sex; you for damn sure don't keep plates around for their intriguing conversation and winsome personalities. But she needs to believe she's getting just a small portion of the awesomeness that is you. If she senses otherwise, that that will be the ONLY piece of you she ever gets...the results aren't always bad. But they can be unpredictable.
Practically, women are not sympathetic but they are empathetic. That piece of BP trivia is accurate. Women will often show genuine interest in subjects that men they like are into even if they have no clue what they're talking about. Girls are capable of morphing into totally different people under the right circumstances. Your primary goal in sex is to make yourself pleased first. If you're satisfied, usually she will be too. Women like giving pleasure.
So if you want to suck some pussy, then do it--but only if it's what you want. You're better off never putting your labia near her labia if you don't like cunnilingus than going down on her once just because she might like it. You think sucking dick is fun? She does it because you like it. Everything she does should be in part because you like it. That's how you dominate.
msp53126 9y ago
Ummm apparently none of you realized this, but "Taking her head, and placing it on your dick" is rape. She has to verbally consent before you do that. You can't just take her head and shove it on your penis, she has to consent. AND thats sexual assault if you've ever done that to a girl before.
HardDeterminist 9y ago
Your last post was in a thread titled "Are you a gay man in college? Could use your help", and you said "I'll participate". You don't know women like alpha guys do. Get off this sub.
msp53126 9y ago
Actually I do, and if you don't realize that it's legally considered sexual assault, and have done that to somebody in the past, that means you have just sexually assaulted somebody. It doesn't matter if I'm gay or not, somebody could do this to a guy and it would still be sexual assault. None of you would ever want to be sexually assaulted, so what makes it okay to do it somebody else?
But hey, don't listen to me, right? I know nothing because I'm gay. And also, being a straight guy is not a prerequisite for this sub.
HardDeterminist 9y ago
No actually you do not. You don't understand the context whatsoever. It's obviously spoken about beforehand and, during the act, you gauge their reaction. You don't fucking ask for consent during sex you moron, it ruins their fantasy. I'm not even a rough guy, I don't get off on choking, slapping, hair pulling, spanking, telling them degrading shit. But they love it so I do it. I wouldn't ever slap a girl in the face if I didn't talk to her about it beforehand. No girl I've been with would ever say I sexually assaulted them, and I've got a fair sample size. Also, I have absolutely nothing against gay people. I'm just saying its obviously clear this sub is geared towards heterosexual men. Your input is not needed.
msp53126 9y ago
Well if consent was brought up beforehand and during, and it's something that she wanted to do, then yeah that's fine. But doing it out of nowhere, giving her no warning, and it's something she didn't/never said she wanted to do, is rape. That is what I took issue with, I did not realize that we were assuming consent had already been given. You don't need to be a straight male to understand that. And it wouldn't matter if this sub is geared toward heterosexual men, it's applicable to all relationships. Either way, you assume I know absolutely nothing about women just based on the fact that i'm gay (which doesn't even make sense, for a multitude of reasons.) And nowhere in this subreddit does it say that I have to be straight, nor that it's "geared towards heterosexual men" only.
HardDeterminist 9y ago
I will concede that yeah, I don't know what kind of weirdos are lurking or posting on this sub and would take this advice literally and just dominate a girl out of nowhere. Charm, a balance of comforting, and mastery of game are always required. So yeah, maybe this information is dangerous to those that are too far gone to help. Also, yes this page is geared towards heterosexual men. It might not strictly say that, but it is implicit and if you can't see that you are just looking to argue. Please also notice that I didn't say you know nothing about women. I said that you don't know women "like alpha guys do". That addition was completely intentional and was included precisely so you wouldn't say that I think you know nothing at all about them.
Edit: Also, consent is not brought up during. I don't know where you got that as I said the exact opposite. It's delicate and takes experience to know when shes comfortable but never would I ask "Can I pull your head by your hair to my dick". I have no issues with you. I took issue with you calling us rapists. I despise rapists and they are the ultimate betas and I would love to fuck one up if I came across one. That's why I got a little pissed.