Critics are like eunuchs: they know how, but they can't do it.
- Paul Bocuse
The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men.
- The Sidebar
As some of you might now, I am foremostly doing my shifts right at the front, playing the mailbox aunt for noobs, answering their questions, which mostly revolve around their unicorns, being too lazy to fucking follow one simple advice (Go lift, asshat!), or dealing with the toughest draw of them all - being Indian and wanting to bang blonde bitches from the USA.
One of the biggest problems I face there is another one though:
Guys who downplay, shame or directly deny the importance of having uncommited sexual relationships with women (e.g. "Spinning Plates") in the process of unplugging.
The recent influx of motherfuckers who act as unicorn hunters, "MGTOW" or MRA support group feel-good pussies (I do not know which is the worse fate to be honest) in the mainsub just underlines the need of somebody outright telling you:
You will never be fully unplugged, if you have not held a soft harem for an extended period of time and experienced true female nature first hand.
Nothing else will give you the same insights.
Not having raged on the toilet over reading about some cunt getting the pussy pass in a courtroom. Not laying in the gras with your girlfriend, argueing about what forms the clouds resemble. Not sitting in your basement, typing flaming hateposts about 3rd wave feminists for your fellow fatties with your cheetoh crusted fingers. And most certainly not coming here, trying to shame Alpha Chads for chadding all they can.
This sub's first and most important purpose has always been to get guys in a physical and mental state to be ready to fully blossom in their masculinity and go out and do what they are meant to do: impregnate as many human females as they possibly can. Well, not literally most certainly.
Everything else is just by-products.
MGTOW, relationships or becoming the saviour of all men are endgoals and not "the way".
Especially the self-proclaimed MGTOW get me on the fence on a regular basis. Just FYI:
You cannot be MGTOW if you do not posses the capabilities and knowledge of a pussy-slayer. Sitting at you computer at 350 lbs, and deciding that you are going your own way from now on, between chugging a gallon of Mountain Dew and shouting at your mom while jacking of to midget trannies pissing at each other, is just the same as dying of thirst in the desert and proclaiming that you'll never drink water again from now on.
When the first MGTOW arose, they rose from the crowd of Chads, not angry Incels, who just came to the conclusion, that pussy is not worth the hassle and following your mission should be your priority. However they knew one thing very well: Being in shape, taking care of your body and your mind, still was the most important thing of them all.
The mere nature of a man going his own way is an instant pussy humidifier. He is taking care of himself, he is confident, he is following his own rules and he's got goals in life and is assertive in reaching them. Probably the exact opposite of what many of the "2nd wave MGTOW" are.
You narcissistic serial monogamists are following closely though. "Muh. I do not date sluts. Muh." How the fuck will you even know what type of bitch you are dealing with after meeting her two times and then throwing your commitment at her?
Founding a dynasty is one of the possible endgames of the unplugged man. However wandering through life with the goal of finding your unicorn will never satisfyingly lead you there.
In order to be able to carefully select a future mate, having dealt with many prospects who do not qualify is essential. Having wife's grope your crotch, whispering in your ears that it's such a pity that their husband does not have such muscles or having somebody's "innocent" girlfriend drive 40 miles at night just to suck your dick, swallow your load and drive back home, to lay at his side in his bed, are pretty eye-opening experiences and just reading about them is not the same as having them do it for you.
Let aside that you will not know what type of woman you are dealing with, until you have fucked her for the very least amount of six to twelve months without offering her exclusivity. Women are wearing different masks for different people and you will not be able to meet the women behind all of those in two weeks of vanilla sexing her and throwing your most precious good - your commitment - at her at the very first moment that represents itself to you.
Thridly we have the type of feel-good activists who come here, desperately trying to force their own moral standards on everybody, while they never truly put them to a test themselves.
Not being anywhere near the state of being able to pull quality pussy or having ever been in the situation where they were Chad, and had a good looking married woman drop on her knees in front of them, desperately trying to get their cock out, yet they absolutely know what "is not true alpha behaviour". What the fuck would you know about that, you bad Paul Elam carbon copy?
All of the above archetypes of commenters share one, maybe the most annoying trait: They cannot withstand their urge to tell people, especially myself and fellow Endorsed Contributors, that we cannot possibly know the right way. Oftentimes followed by some variation of "How could you have become an EC."
I got news for you: Yes. We do indeed know better than you and there is a fucking reason why we got that flair and you have not, and it is not because we meet and suck each others dicks on a regular basis, as you so non-chalantly like to assume.
Lastly, there is the guys I do not despise of, but who need to be told:
Less thinking and more doing motherfuckers.
You will not be able to get good at sexual relationships by avoiding to coming close to having one.
If you have read the sidebar material and maybe one book about game, like i.e. "Models" by Mark Manson, you know enough in order to succeed with women.
You don't need to study the equivalent to the material needed to get a bachelor in evolutionary psychology "to understand the nature of women".
Get in shape, fire up tinder and find out for yourself what kind of shallow, boring, iloyal, impulsive, cheap, cheating, self-entitled, superficial, annoying assholes most of the bitches out there are.
tl;dr: Shut up, bang bitches, be awesome, stop annoying me with your horseshit.
randomassortment_ 7y ago
"i will not date sluts" Most people that say this, ironically, can't pull sluts.
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vandaalen 7y ago
Yeah, we are really tired of becoming happy here. Tips fedora.
[deleted] 7y ago
I was talking about you, actually. Poor guys actually listen to you.
vandaalen 7y ago
Thanks for clarifying. I wouldn't have noticed myself...
_TheRP 7y ago
The whole MGTOW thing never made sense to me.
Getting laid on the regular is not difficult, nor is it a hassle. I spend less time on getting laid than I do looking at funny pictures on Reddit. It's pretty much a hobby.
Now, when I'm on a serious cut or I've got a lot going on professionally, I'll cut the less important parts of my life out (read:women) for a short time. I don't burn bridges, and I don't really change my mindset, I just reprioritize.
What OP is getting at is the only thing that makes sense - the vast majority of the people here are really just trying to delude themselves so they can feel like they are powerful or in control. It's just putting off the problem for the purpose of mental masterbation and ego coddling.
I was in a long range budgeting and planning meeting with the executives of a company I worked at prior to starting my own.
Some of these men were flat out not fit to lead or run a business from the standpoint of business acumen. This happens pretty often in my experience. They wanted to bury their head in the sand and assume that revenue shortfalls would 'just take care of themselves like they have the last two years'. While it was true that they had, it was only true because of luck and some heroic efforts by the business development group.
The CFO said something that's stuck with me - we can kid the customers, we can kid the competition, we can kid everyone - but if we starting kidding ourselves we're fucked.
He was absolutely right.
DysfunctionalBrother 7y ago
Question: Why are there MGTOW flairs if this sub is only for sexual strategy?
vandaalen 7y ago
This is the problem with you fatties. The high blood sugar and blood pressure put you on insta-tilt once you read somebody calling out your bullshit, which prevents you from even being able to read properly.
Where the fuck did I write that this sub is only for sexual strategy, you degenerated retard?
DysfunctionalBrother 7y ago
The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men.
As far as i can see MGTOW has nothing to do with sexual strategy.
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jamesbwbevis 7y ago
Anyone can be mgtow. It's a mindset, about not letting the desire for women control any aspect of your life.
vandaalen 7y ago
That is not the definition of it at all.
jamesbwbevis 7y ago
Go your own way.......means your own way. Means not allowing women (or anything) determine what you do for yourself
Fuck_A_Baby 7y ago
I like to read the posts on here but I'm confused by the flair "slayers" have. How do you even get it, submit videos of all the arc you're having or do you just have to submit lots of aggressive sounding posts. I joke but in all seriousness explain it to me.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
Go and do, come back and post high quality content, consistently. do this with Rule 0 as the focus.
It's not a club, it's a filtering tool, so readers get a general idea who knows what they are talking about. EC's don't all hang out, and most of us aren't particularly fond of each other.
All you have to do is read and do stuff written on the subject, and swap notes about what worked and what didn't
648262 7y ago
They're the cool gang you remember from high school. You have to talk cool, act cool and be cool. And then tell others if what they're saying is cool or not.
We cool?
TheLegionnaire00 7y ago
Everything is 100% true, although I would advise guys to be careful with Tinder, some dude I know just got a STD from a bitch from tinder. Tinder is full of bitches with STDs who still ride the CC.
vandaalen 7y ago
If you are a professional chef, you will most likely cut your finger at some time.
TheLegionnaire00 7y ago
Also true, I just advised for caution. Guys should never go without rubber to fuck bitches if they don't know them for some time, especially from Tinder.
Omnibrad 7y ago
As a man who has cut his finger working professionally as a chef, it is stupid comparing a cut which heals in a few days to an STD like herpes which is with you for life.
vandaalen 7y ago
Tetanus
Galactic-Unicorn 7y ago
Sorry but no. We give people Tetanus boosters every 10 years or post injury when tetanus status is in question. If you actually look after yourself Tetanus is such a low risk.
STI's on the other hand are a serious risk that requires regular testing. Condom or no condom.
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silentslade 7y ago
Do not fuck around without protection. HIV and herpes are NOT worth a night of pleasure on tinder. Russian roulette with your own life.
i_forget_my_userids 7y ago
Condoms don't effectively protect against most STDs, especially not herpes.
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"Get in shape, fire up tinder and find out for yourself what kind of shallow, boring, iloyal, impulsive, cheap, cheating, self-entitled, superficial, annoying assholes most of the bitches out there are."
Haha. Already did that with the exception of looking at gutter whores on your shitty applications you fucking kids are plugged into.
Haha. Ban me fuckers. I'll spend my time on T_D and MGTOW.
And for all the fucking 2 dollar horseshit you guys sell in this sub, have fun with your legal issues.
There's a reason I don't read this garbage here, and 90% of you are a hop, skip and a jump from a expensive lawyer and a sexual assault charge.
MGTOW IS THE ONLY WAY TO GO. BUT KEEP MAINTAINING FRAME!!!
Ban me too if you jokers want. I haven't read this sub, and removed my subscription years ago.
Keep putting that pussy on that pedestal. It's actually the only thing you dudes are good at.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
obliged...
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Can't have it both ways fella, claiming pride in the sub growing on one hand and complaining about the quality of new people on the other - not that I think you do that, I've never seen it or have reason to suspect - just a general truism.
This was my initial impression of it. The term and it's use have been subverted lately.
I disagree, this is my go-to tactic and it serves me damn well.
Perfect, too perfect. It's like being born without legs and then proclaiming you're ideologically opposed to walking.
vandaalen 7y ago
It's happening in waves. I'd say it's like in january you got all the fatties flooding the gym, who will then go on raging in feburary about how hanging out in the gym and drinking whey shakes by the gallon does not do anything for them and that all other people must inevitably be on steroids, but latest by march, they are gone and are back to binge watching netflix and everybody has their peace.
I do not write stuff like this for the people I mention in there, well except the guys who need a kick in the ass in order to advance, but for the other fatties that came to the gym and are serious about making a change for their life, but are in danger of getting caught by the crab-bucket mentality of the loosers.
I am still around and putting up with this kind of shit, because I genuinly hope that I can help people make a change for the better in their life. I come from the bottom and I know how it feels to be hopeless and to regard yourself to be broken beyond repair, but I also know that there is a way out. It's a small, steep and winding trail through the mountains and not a broad main street, but there is one.
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Arguably, it is only those who've been through the latter that know the potential of the former.
I get you weren't addressing the general masses here, but there are cases where someone long-standing on here brags about the size of the sub in one day whilst bemoaning the quality in the other.
Sarcasm aside, I thought you did very well Analogising the MGTOW bro's - not that they're all bad or closet Incel's of course.
vandaalen 7y ago
Of course they aren't. The ones who feel the need to come here and to asktrp in order to try and push their own agenda are though.
NihilistMonkey 7y ago
I hope "second wave MGTOW" gains traction as a phrase because it is such an apt parallel. Where the initial waves of feminism and MGTOW were both solving real problems on each end of the spectrum respectively, new wave feminism and MGTOW have very little to offer. They instead play the victim card while simultaneously trying to reframe reality in a way that soothes their ego without having to take an introspective look. If they did that, they might realize that they are in fact the arbiter of their successes and failures, and then they might actually have to either make real change in their life or come to terms with their own fragility. Sounds scary, much easier to engage in self delusion.
Scandinavianredpill 7y ago
Alot of swearing, alot of shaming. I am MGTOW spinning 3 plates - you sound like an angry teenager. This used to be a place with quality posts. But now it's guys like you that want to have this talk, instead of talking about principles. The fact that you are so OBSESSED with women, tells me you aren't getting enough. You know guys can move past your way of thinking and into improvement for themselves while knowing about female nature. No one has time to spin 3+ plates all year round. You will eventually have to find replacements (as I have done once in a month) as they figure out what you are doing. Spinning plates is something you should do while you take some time for it, its not a permanent thing (no one can do that shit permanently without having their life suffer)..
I got a shocking Idea for a guy like you. focus less about what the hell others are doing and just focus solely on what is holding you back. TRP used to be a good place to get insights into self improvement, now it's becoming a pussy worshipping palace..
Auvergnat 7y ago
Shall I suggest you join one or several of these subs:
Where you can discuss masculinity and self improvement with fellow men, without having to sit through the pesky focus on sexual strategy that makes up theredpill.
prodigy2throw 7y ago
Not quite sure what your beef is with this post...
IVIaskerade 7y ago
Yeah no shit. Some people need to be shamed.
jouzaa 7y ago
Please be irony.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
you're new, you will learn
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NO_LAH_WHERE_GOT 7y ago
I warned about this over a year ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3rogkh/mod_if_you_bitch_and_moan_im_a_throw_you_out/cwqca4t/
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
have another point.
Staunch_Moderate 7y ago
I've been lurking here for maybe 2 years. I don't comment much, let alone post, because as far as I'm concerned I don't know shit. How do the newer people help the community? I feel like I should just stay silent while I consume as much information as possible and work on developing myself.
JackGetsIt 7y ago
Sounds like you're doing that. By not adding anything that you don't think brings value you've kept the quality high. There's a difference between noise and music and lots of subs are all noise. As you continue to read you can upvote quality, downvote bullshit and somewhere down the line you might have something unique to contribute. By continuing to develop yourself I'm sure that will be sooner then later!
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Just read that post - it was really good.
Gels with a lot of MSM politics as well I think, competent people don't want to run for a seat because they know they'll just get harangued by wankers...so there's only wankers left to run for seats.
NO_LAH_WHERE_GOT 7y ago
Plato called it thousands of years ago:
[deleted] 7y ago
No surprise there.
People were then as people are now, we've just got more fancy circuitry stuffed in our pockets and wear things that are stitched together more tightly.
[deleted] 7y ago
I'm glad I'm not the only one who noticed the irony in this post.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
nopfap Tourist
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Bear-With-Bit 7y ago
Jesus Lonzo Christ, you don't know what locker room talk is. You've never played sports? Holy fuck no wonder we have so many retards here.
IVIaskerade 7y ago
Of course they don't. They're a MGTOW, and "their own way" is "away from all semblance of masculine camaraderie".
vandaalen 7y ago
Also as far away as possible from locker rooms...
Bear-With-Bit 7y ago
Unlike most subs, TRP has right and wrong, there is a clear and absolute line. Respect it or get the fuck out. This includes everyone who is upvoting this comment.
Scandinavianredpill 7y ago
I understand it's about sexual strategy. The best sexual strategy is knowing the nature of women and putting yourself first and being that high value man she is wired to be attracted to. It's not about making a post to shame sub groups. I wholeheartedly think that being a man that takes responsibility, understands female nature and is not afraid to lead is gonna produce better results than focusing intensely on what any given woman is doing. Putting yourself first and focusing on yourself is something women can feel when interacting with you. I am never afraid to talk to a beautiful woman and represent my opinions on subjects. If she dislikes them I know there are tons of women like her in a mile radius. I have dated alot on tinder actually and I have not once tried to meet up with a woman (beautiful women), that would not like to meet me again. However I don't try to pull a 8-10 into bed with the first message, I meet first a public place and then shortly after we are going home (most of the time).
You see talking about principles, female nature, lifting or any other self improvement is gonna push us further. Trying to be the best keyboard warrior won't.
Bear-With-Bit 7y ago
This is why enlisted men hate their officers in the military so often. 'Paper pushers' who don't know shit and shit but often spewing horseshit about 'strategy.'
Be a man, have some dignity, walk away from here and start your own sub.
edit:
Hamster translation: "Mine is better than yours. But let me smear it here for all you idiots to learn."
Eat a dick.
RedPillAccount69 7y ago
How the fuck can you claim to have any knowledge of TRP while whining about shaming?
This is a sub about sexual strategy. People come here to learn. The mods have decided that they don't want men looking for help to be infected by MGTOW pussies.
You know when you were a kid and you are running a race with your friends and once you start to lose you yell "I'm not racing".
That's what MGTOW as practiced here does.
As noted, there are a very small number of MGTOW who could have all the pussy they want but choose not to.
I guarantee you that anyone who whined about "shaming" is not one of them.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
OP is getting one, the MGTOW attitude doesn't jive with sexual strategy. He does contribute often, and isn't a retard, so a week.
I would suggest he works on frame, takes the bait too easily, please don't shit up modmail.
jumpinglane 7y ago
feels good to be the king of the hill, yeah? i am reading and posting on TRP under different names since two years. and since a month or so mods and endorsed are getting furious about discussuions. what is so wrong about an opinion that wants to be discussed? "one week ban" - mister almighty, i bend the knee. for what?
do it.
IVIaskerade 7y ago
Yeah well I'm an EC on TRP under 8 different accounts and I've been posting since before reddit was founded.
Perhaps you resort to such petty claims because you have nothing worthwhile to post, and are trying to deflect from that.
jumpinglane 7y ago
no, i am just so far away from karma whoring, you wouldnt believe it.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
No, it's a giant pain in the ass. I'd rather be writing and reading good content.
Instead I have to weed gardens all day.
Next part is where 80% of these guys spam my PMs and modmail with death threats, call everyone an angry cuck, and threaten to doxx everyone, I then move a few tempbans to permanent.
Basically, if it wasn't as bad as it is, I wouldn't be here. I look forward to that day
[deleted] 7y ago
Has RPS died then? Haven't seen him in ages.
I think of the Mods and I picture you like one of the damned in Dante's Divine Comedy, pushing huge boulders up a steep hill, alone.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
It's just more men, not archetypes.
Bound to happen eventually. I can see the draw of guys to come here, the issue is it has to be exclusive, if it's to maintain any quality
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PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
My job is to get doctors to talk about medicine, and not arguing about the parking lot
PantsonFire1234 7y ago
Well multiple account name lurker is partially right in his concern. I get that mods are trying to prevent deviation from the subject but as proven by the comments in this very thread. Not every 'red pilled' guy has the same goal and all these goals can be pursued from a red pilled point of view.
To watch these groups discuss and argue their goals vs the other party is a way for people to learn. Men (usually) don't argue for the sake of arguing like women. It's done so out of a inner need to find the truth. I'm sure you could see the benefit in that.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
Yes, rule 0 overrides what some incel uses to bullshit himself though.
vandaalen 7y ago
And balancing a hell of a lot more on your dirty sideboard and everywhere else in your messy basement I suspect.
Good to see the idiots this is aimed at are actually reading it.
Scandinavianredpill 7y ago
See, more shaming. I am not living in a basement, I am doing just fine. you cannot even control your own emotion, how do you expect women will find you attractive? no one will follow a man that has this little self control.
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vandaalen 7y ago
And rightfully so.
Yeah. Right.
Nothing shows more that you got no idea about what women find attractive or even give a shit about.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pz5AkS0sibM
[deleted] 7y ago
The fact that your post is getting so many downvotes proves that your post was necessary. Have an up vote, for what its worth.
MGTOW is such a cancer at this point. Fresh redpilled individuals who still can't get over their approach anxiety so they go their own way.
The sexual energy you command amongst women may be the only true barometer men have to gauge their progress on the ladder. It may seem like validation fishing, but oh well!
[deleted] 7y ago
I've been here since January fella and, your username being as is, I remember a lot of your posts.
I've never once seen you being an idiot, I've never once seen you going off-topic spewing nonsense and I've never once seen you arguing the toss over nothing. I know for a fact too that you put a lot of work into yourself - well done - it's dudes like yourself this place was made for I believe.
It's a way for the terminally shy/the mortally lazy to pretend like they have power over both society, women and their insecurities.
I like how OP says you've got to have an alternative option to GYOW before you can legitimately claim that's actually what your doing
vandaalen 7y ago
The butthurt is strong with the Eunuchs.
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PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
tourist
vandaalen 7y ago
Yeah. Same to you, buddy.
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vandaalen 7y ago
Double of 20 plus one.
Docbear64 7y ago
Let aside that you will not know what type of woman you are dealing with, until you have fucked her for the very least amount of six to twelve months without offering her exclusivity.
I'm happy to see you think this too, guys are killing me right now with this " My LTR of six weeks ...." talk ..what LTR? What real relationship do you have after such a short time ? Sure you can have a ton of fun , have really strong new relationship feelings. However It used to be common knowledge that the first 3 months were a clean presentation of a new partner you didn't begin to see the real them until that 3 month period passed which means another 3 months AT LEAST before you might have an idea of who you're having a relationship with . Why anyone would rush to assume the perfect character of someone they are hanging with and try to commit as early as possible is beyond me.
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Better be doing more than just fucking for six weeks. Defile. Break her down. See if the ground is worth tilling and if it's fertile. Fuck her body and mind. Test her limits. Sexually, emotionally, and mentally break her. Rim, piss, swirlies, propose three ways and gangbangs. Only then will you know.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
edit: wrong user
jackandjill22 7y ago
???? I'm dead.
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IVIaskerade 7y ago
I don't.
These 'tards confuse "date" with "any kind of relationship". Yeah, I spend time in her company and enjoy it. That's because sex is enjoyable.
DarwinianKEKistani 7y ago
How long did it take to write that wall of text above? Silly. Go lift and bang. Stop bitching about what others do or don't do. Beta!
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
MGTOW, gone
PantsonFire1234 7y ago
I'm struggling to understand some guys on here who just parrot about fucking hoes. Implying they are somehow fucking a fuckton of pussy whilst everyone else circle jerks on the internet. There is no discussion here, just a different mindset. I'm all aboard the fucking multiple girls train. I agree wholeheartedly that female nature is universal but resides on a scale. Going from least to most extreme, just like men go from Super Alpha ZGF Chad to Beta Dadbod Cuck Billy.
For example this line
Even you admit OP, that there are some who are less so and some who are more so. I would argue that women are bad quality due to the current times, just like men are low quality. I'm curious if you truly would disagree on me with that.
Allot of guys might swallow half a red pill while maintaining illusions of unicorns and happily ever after girlfriends. I know these people, I understand their optimism and I know the fault that lies within it. But I can also relate to the idea that after meeting allot of boring worthless disposable cunts I might run into a brand new car with zero millage and good insurance. I know god damn well that this is only temporarily, giving the the ride a maximum of 4 years if not less. But the idea still appeals to me.
I'm really curious though since you definitely fall in the batch of guys who simply advocate hardcore red pill truths and a lifestyle of plating relentless and nothing else. Are there no other aspirations in your life, is having sex the main end goal? Also would you say you'd be open to romantically dating a girl who is a slut?
Simply stating that you don't romantically date because it's not the red pill way would be avoiding the question, rationalizing away the dissonance that builds up in witnessing the current state most women are in. It might be the current best solution to our problem, but it is not how things are supposed to be.
vandaalen 7y ago
I don't advocate for or against LTRs at all. In fact I explicitly state that this is the way to aquire an LTR, and none else.
Sex is like money. Just important if it's a scarcity and it cannot serve as the meaning of your actions, although it might serve as a motivation.
Nothing being dependent on other people should be your endgoal. Not sex, not a relationship. They should be a byproduct of the life you are living. Your life.
In what way? In a commited and exclusive relationship? Why would I? Do you pay the price of a three michelin star dinner for a five guys burger and some fries? Everybody got everything with minimal investment from the slut and I should pay for it? You cannot be serious.
PantsonFire1234 7y ago
Then this clears things up for me. I'm not disagreeing with you, one of the best things to happen to me was experiencing my ex-gf's disloyalty and behavior up close. I wouldn't trade those experiences for the world. No matter the bitterness of the pill.
The problem is that (and I'm sure you've experienced this yourself) is that women take their sexual currency and push for commitment most of the time. You always end up giving some, even if it's 2 hours a week on sunday. If women truly were having sex for the sakes of sex it would be easy. But they always over complicate, AWALT behavior aside. This is where most inexperienced guys stumble.
I asked because allot of people that have argued your position leave that part open. But it's clearly obvious no man would. So let me change my question. Would you say you'd be open to romantically dating a girl after plating wears off and you find she's not a slut (yet)?
vandaalen 7y ago
Never say never, but I don't really see this happening in my future. I am 41 years old, have already procreated and am planing on living the life of a globetrotter half of the year.
PantsonFire1234 7y ago
Would you say that your age plays a big role in how younger girls define who you are? Allot of girls are walking around with daddy issues nowadays. That's a hole in the market ready to be filled.
vandaalen 7y ago
I don't know and do not really care. I also do not really resemble what you would expect a 41 year old to be and I also look about ten years younger than I am.
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PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
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PantsonFire1234 7y ago
The problem is that there has formed a division of 2-3 groups that follow different goals. Those who want to bang hoes are right to want to do so. But this can be done out of a red pill or blue pill mindset. There are those, insecure types who never got much poon to begin with but felt ego invested to have success in this area. To them TRP means a way to be validated in their pursuit to finally complete their ego paradox. Other men have no internal negative reasons to want to spin plates but simply enjoy it for what it is. To them monogamy isn't appealing in casual sex is just one way to enhance their otherwise busy lives. Perfectly reasonable.
Meanwhile the same happens with the committal man. You have the serial monogamist who can't be alone and feels a void when he is. Having a girl on solid tap is a way for him to avoid competition and the rough realities and pains of masculine life. To such a man TRP is a way to self actualize his internal fear of being alone and without external love. This is just as toxic as the ego invested wannabe pussy-slayer. But there are also those who already have a family, children. Or those who have experienced the 'harem' and found that it lost meaning. The idea of finding a suitable partner, as impossible as this might be in our modern society, is a worthwhile and red pilled goal.
The problem is that these groups see themselves for being the red pilled for why they do it, while assuming the other group is following their goal for blue pill reasons. Ie: those guys just want to fuck because they worship pussy and these guys are serial monogamist unicorn hunters.
Not trying to understand each other and even learn from the other groups goals would be a disservice to ones red pilled journey and could cause greater rifts.
Not everyone enjoys being monogamous and not everyone wants to hop from meaningless fuckbuddy to meaningless fucktoy all their lives. Just like some people love cars and other people love motorbikes. Arguing which one is actually better is pointless.
JackGetsIt 7y ago
I propose all new users submit to an eunuch test
throwaway19651964 7y ago
A-fuckin-amen. Your post is pure gold and all truth.
Red_Faust 7y ago
It is inefficient to use red pill knowledge to try and achieve blue pill goals.
(paraphrasing Rollo Tomassi)
As of lately, there's a horde of these around here.
I was pondering about sharing my experience, after a decade and a half of non-monogamy in MLTRs I've set up a swinger lifestyle with a bisexual girl as a long-time partner and tandem hunting every weekend. But seeing the kind of posts and comments that show up around here lately, I don't know if it makes any sense. People here have a reality distortion field on what everyone's endgame should be.
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Trying to One-Up people on their "Red Pill Dosage" level seems to be the immediate task, long-term approach and end-game for most people on here.
PantsonFire1234 7y ago
The problem is that the very idea some guys have (not me momentarily) to have children and start a nuclear family is the most red pilled way of all. It's solid K-type behavior. To breed recklessly and not bother with the quality of the woman and your offspring is blue as fuck. It's r-type, comparable to mice and bunnies. Rodent behavior.
The problem is that in our society, with the current tools and freedoms women have at their disposal. It is increasingly difficult to pursue such a goal. But to call timely monogamy a blue pill goal is ludicrous. The Spartans followed a strict nuclear family structure that has been reused for most of western civilization. You're implying that they were BP. I can't for the life of me understand why you arrive to such a conclusion.
The situation right now best suits disloyalty, low-trust interactions with women. That's very true. But that isn't the point some people are trying to make. And yes I say some, others are downright anger phase and blue in the face still. But this distinction is much harder to make than people would want it to be.
Red_Faust 7y ago
I have no clue why you are putting words in my mouth that I have not said. I have no interest in quarreling over straw men.
(makes me wonder why people around here are so confrontational nowadays)
Agreed. It's a fine line to tread. My best wishes to those who want to build their lives over a nuclear family structure while being fully, completely, absolutely, 100% aware of the nature of women and the risk and implications of their choices in the current climate.
PantsonFire1234 7y ago
Then I was wrong, I took it from your post that you stated that having nuclear family aspirations (wife and kids) is a blue pill thing. I stand corrected.
Personally I don't harbor it much hope but it also saddens me somewhat that the current situation has left women so horribly enabled. Also they might be unshackled, ready to give no shits about fucking men over. But I would strongly recommend cheating on a woman once who has cheated on you in an open way so she catches you in the act. Watch her explode.
Also the reason we are where we are at is because we are faced with the nature of women + tinder + fem-centric society + birth control + no fault divorce + finger print locked smart phones etc. We shouldn't fool ourselves into believing women acted like this back in the day where they had a clear dominance ladder to climb in a community of 100 men max. It's the result of over population and the interconnection of that population.
sadomasochrist 7y ago
Rollo didn't say that. What he said is that purple pill men, were just blue pill men who were trying to dress themselves up as red, and look to other red pillers for their "stripe" in affirmation.
For instance... your setup is considered blue pill because you are playing within female primary frame. You can't possibly outpull her. She is exercising her peak reproductive strategy, with your permission. You are for all intents and purposes an LT emotional tampon and orbiter.
Hey it works for you, fine. No one cares, really. The only thing around here that EC and VGs get concerned about, is don't come on here calling yourself red pill.
You are a red pill aware, blue pill. That's fine.
It's not really an insult, and people should be a little less hostile here. You have to call a spade a spade without it being an issue of hostility.
If however, she wasn't allowed to be with other men, and women only with your permission, your setup is perfect execution of male strategy.
They really don't. You just have to be in the game long enough to truly understand what they're saying. Most often, I'd say, over 80\90% of the time, it's way too late before it clicks. You have a marriage and kids.
Red_Faust 7y ago
Well, more or less he says it in several places. Like here:
"Blue Pill Conditioning and Equalism" - http://archive.is/jvMrK
"Once again, you will never achieve Blue Pill idealistic goals with Red Pill awareness. Most men are taught that those Blue Pill goals are worthwhile, but they are carrots proffered by the same builders of the cart who hope to get the mule to pull it."
Another example, from the article "A New Hope" - http://archive.is/ZAp4p
"For many newly unplugged, red pill aware, men the temptation is to think they can use this new understanding to achieve the goal-states of their preconditioned blue pill ideals."
This post is also a good summary: http://archive.is/LQJ3j
"red pill awareness in blue pill context: "I'm going to use my new RP knowledge to find the one". Doesn't work."
Note that your paragraph is perfectly valid, and I agree with it as well.
I know, sadomasochrist. I never intended to outpull her. We are in a liberal relationship, but I never said it was an open relationship (it isn't). We pick up girls together so her outpulling me works in my benefit.
;)
648262 7y ago
Then they should stop talking until they are able to form coherent sentences that new guys are able to understand. If only advanced guys are able to understand each other because they've come to the same conclusion themselves then even communicating any of it is a waste of time for everyone.
TRP does not become advanced until you go out there and apply it. Everything we discuss here is primary school level.
sadomasochrist 7y ago
I worded that poorly. What I should have said was "Most men don't believe the concepts we're telling them."
Maybe they understand the concepts but "it doesn't apply to my specific circumstance." Which is roughly what the guy above my comment is saying.
And it never does, until it does.
This forum is basically a landing ground for guys who have cPTSD after their worldview is blown part. Normally it goes something like this.
At step #5, you have to actually make that choice.
Here's a demonstration.
"The most valuable asset to a man's life, is freedom. And that asset is more important than children."
You can't possibly digest why this is true until you have kids. Until you have a family. Unless you've executed the endgame and realize that hey, the red pill was right. I gave up the most important thing in my life, EVEN IF, I'm getting everything I thought would make my life perfect, e.g. being the "family patriarch."
I've written essays about this stuff, no one cares. Because it's easier to just ignore the harsh reality. It's easier to come up with all these comforting alternative scenarios and wrap yourself in the blanket.
But the truth will help you understand why men abandon their families. And that is almost impossible to logically demonstrate to someone. They have to feel it. They have to experience the cognitive dissonance.
Just in the same way when someone said "hey all women are like this" you probably, just like me, and everyone else said, "no they're not."
The content wasn't wrong, you just weren't ready.
And the final point of understanding is when you understand why decent men would leave families with good kids. When begin to understand how disproportionately inequitable relationships are that doesn't involve her being plated.
So at that point, you either accept yourself as disposable, and roll the dice, fulfill your purpose to her, or treat women and your resulting children as disposable.
So your assertion that TRP does not become advanced until you apply it is false. There are concepts that are so steeped in dogma that most men simply can not digest it. This has nothing to do with TRP or application of it's knowledge. This is really, cognitive dissonance. This is self deception. This is confronting black truths.
Can you understand, really, why a man would walk away from a perfectly good family, even if he was treated as the leader of his family?
Likely not truly. And 80% of guys on here wouldn't even want to try to understand. Because it would shatter their purple pill dreams. It would bust the foundation that holds it up, that being a "patriarch" is some male end game. That you would be some anti-cultural "misogynist."
Absolutely false. There are no misogynists taking their daughter to cupcake day. That is just the illusion of male victory within female primary frame.
Red_Faust 7y ago
This is it. This is the switch that clicked somewhere down the line for me.
At some point you take all the relevant pieces of the puzzle like:
... and every other sociosexual piece of the puzzle (not trying to sum up everything here), lay it out and ask yourself:
"with these premises, and knowing what I value in life, what is my desired result and how can I achieve it in the most efficient way possible?"
Obviously not everyone will reach them perfectly, but most can have a shoot at their goals working within the premises.
But when you ignore the premises, like, dunno, playing the provider, getting married, having kids when you are aware that you value freedom above everything else... then you are shooting yourself in the foot.
sadomasochrist 7y ago
Well again, you have to get someone to understand that the idea of being "the leader of their family" is really bullshit. I mean, that's just assumed.
But it's so indoctrinated into us at this point that it becomes an end goal. "I'm going to be this." You think you're fighting against a sea of mediocrity and going against the grain.
Really, you're just fighting your way to normal. You're still FIRMLY in the female primary end game. So again, at best you share in the benefits of her winning.
While basically getting only a portion of your end game.
So then the argument becomes, what is better than passing on your legacy?
Well you learn "freedom" which is really "to live without leverage." And there are ways to do that, primarily getting into a purple pill relationship (hedging) and getting your kids out of the way.
Do I consider children a critical part of male development? Yes.
Do I consider tradcon a way to achieve a male end goal? No.
But again, you have to get guys to understand what it means to be a "patriarch."
I mean good fucking luck pulling that off in a true sense. This is basically synonymous with "bad father." If you were filthy rich, I guess that might work. But if you have to work and also want to be interdependent, no way.
It is basically required that you participate in your child's life extensively.
Which is why I love my line of "there are no misogynists taking your daughter to cupcake day."
To be a true patriarch you'd have to have your own life, that doesn't involve you spending most of your time with your kids. Otherwise, again, you're just operating within her winning strategy.
And that means even if your sex life is perfect, she treats you well etc etc. Basically everything can be perfect. It doesn't matter. You're still going to the zoo on Saturday.
And if that's what you want, that's fine. Just don't posit that because you have traditional gender roles, your wife is sexually active and she respects you as a man that suddenly you're in some male dominant position. You're not. It's power neutral (if you don't have a financial leverage issue, eg. you make lots more than her), but in her frame.
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Confirmed in director's commentary of special edition DVD.
Don't just stare at it, they look and say "It's wrong and I'm not letting it play with my ball anymore."
Pornhub was never a market-force until the MGTOW movement...just saying...
Stay away from my anime pillow.
[deleted] 7y ago
C'mon, you can't really believe that MGTOW has played a noteworthy role in the rise of big porn sites.
Thotwrecker 7y ago
If you extend MGTOW to mean the general worldwide wave of men choosing to give up on attracting women, then yeah, sure, it really does. For example in Japan entire porn sectors have boomed in sync with the growth of the "herbivore men" epidemic which is essentially the original MGTOW. Pornhub becoming like an alexa top 10 site is definitely related to the spread of MGTOW-LIKE ideas taking root in many different societies. Yes, it's a stretch to lump all of these in with MGTOW, but it is really the same fucking thing isn't it, men who've decided that putting effort into attracting women isn't worth it for them.
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[deleted] 7y ago
No of course not! I was just joking.
The MGTOW contingent is not a significant enough number to make even a small difference to their viewership numbers.
[deleted] 7y ago
Ok then, just another case of Poe's law (look it up)
[deleted] 7y ago
Thought you meant Godwin's Law for a minute but then I remembered what Poe's Law is...
[deleted] 7y ago
I had never heard of that one before, gave me a good laugh.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
By popular demand, I will be pointing out who, and why they are getting banned.
Sticks on pikes.
lopsidedlucky 7y ago
Let the purge begin!!! Way to many white knights, beta's and blue pillers in trp clothing around here lately.
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sadomasochrist 7y ago
My dick can not possibly get any harder.
vandaalen 7y ago
brb. dusting off my trident.
Bear-With-Bit 7y ago
Stop. I'm getting a boner at the office.
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ATPsynthase12 7y ago
I love it that you guys are cracking down on these half measure pseudo-red pillers. Ruthless.
[deleted] 7y ago
it sounds like you guys all jerk each other off
widec 7y ago
Hush and I'll give you a reach around
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
Taking no pleasure in it
Tacticalogistics 7y ago
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
bye
ATPsynthase12 7y ago
I'll jerk you off
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
bye
Sworbo 7y ago
I can appreciate comment. Now if you can appreciate this: I'm married, have kids, and a pretty OK life. I've unplugged ... some ... and would like to unplug some more. But there is harsh and heavy reaility to the commitments I have already made in life (mostly: I will raise these kids in a stable and healthy home, as long as my spouse improves the overall health and stability she's welcome to stay.)
Building a soft harem is not an option for me, for at least 10-15 more years. And most likely never will be a place my life goes.
I come here for 2nd hand ... umm ... "experience?" ... However the ratio of helpful posts to whining posts is not moving in heathy direction.
I usually hate self-help bull shit. The reason RedPill and related communities caught my attention were:
The only person who's going to fix and improve your life is you.
You are going to have to change your habits and views on life to fix and improve your life.
No blaming others. They are whatever they are, doing whatever they are doing.
Understand those around you and why they act the way they do. Don't fall victim to outcomes that could be predicted.
I'm currently forcing myself to operate under the assertion that: everything wrong in your life is your own damn fault. If I failed I:
Didn't prepare enough, wasn't ready because of this.
Didn't put enough effort into it, to get what I wanted
Didn't understand the people around me well enough to properly predict their behavior.
We miss a deadline at work because some employee of mine didn't get his work done? I wasn't following his progress well enough, or gave him things he couldn't do, or didn't motivate him well enough or some other reason then just: I have a worthless employee.
And what good does it for me to use an excuse like "I have a worthless employee?" All that does it take all the power to fix the problem away from me (unless I've decided it's time to terminate that employee).
The thing RedPill help me focus on is that by making self-improvement my goal, and accepting responsibility ... that this empowers me to actually make my life better. Blaming others, disempowers me. Expecting them to change, or do shit for me, disempowers me.
max_peenor 7y ago
Same here. And get off my lawn. I look at it not so much how to change my reality, though it has in ways, but rather as an explanation for why my life has been as it has been. The good, the bad and the wtf. All of it. Obviously, we don't have this figured out 100%, but so far it has been the best retrospective source I have encountered.
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Bear-With-Bit 7y ago
Not married, don't have kids, not looking for either, so perhaps I don't have much of a footing here.
Just want to share that "m = trp on hard mode" and giving a pass to married men in regards to running soft harem feels a bit inconsistent.
Unmarried guy? "Soft harem or you're not real rp."
Married guy? "It's up to you. Because m = rp on hard mode."
I admire trp because of its binary principle. All men should lift. All men should hold frame. All men should be leaders. All men should purse an alpha sexual strategy.
But married men can or cannot have a soft harem, it's up to each man. However, all unmarried men should have a soft harem, or they're not true rp.
I get it if you're a MM-- you got responsibilites, just not practical to spin plates, even if your wife was okay with it.
But because I see TRP as a binary principle, I may be in the minority where RP and marriage may have very minimal overlap, if any at all.
Can an EC or mod help me here?
sadomasochrist 7y ago
Well there's a reason behind it.
Running a family as the "badass patriarch" is still executing female endgame strategy. You at best, just share in the benefits.
Once you realize that point, easily 80% of families are bullshit.
Is she treating you like the man that made her dreams come true and thanking you every day for that? Does she act like she won the lottery because you let her?
Again, for 80% of guys in the arrangement, that answer is no.
Once you have kids you realize just how important the concept of freedom is for the red pill.
Once you realize that men raising their children is a historical exception to the rule, you feel far less bad about moving on.
Source, have kids, am treated well after a severe unplugging. But still require the ability to get play on the side.
Until you fully understand and comprehend what I'm saying here, you're still heavily steeped in dogma.
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sadomasochrist 7y ago
Hey a SPT post that I have no disagreement with. You should be endorsed!
Bear-With-Bit 7y ago
Thank you, such a clear definition.
vandaalen 7y ago
My intent is not to shame men who have already founded a family into abandoning them. Everybody must act in between the realm of his possibilities and I actually appreciate men who acknowledge their responsibilities if children are in play.
However folks like you are by far the minority here, let aside that even if you have already committed to a woman, even if children are involved, the best solution can be to walk away.
As a sidenote it is possible to be happily married and spin plates with your partner knowing about it, if you got the right partner and follow some simple rules.
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I think the end goals of redpill can't be clearly defined person to person. Not everyone is gonna have or want an open marriage, be an eternal bachelor, be with children or without.
I agree with Sworbo that self improvement should be the main focus, self mastery which by extension lead to sexual mastery. Sexual strategy is like a boat you buy to get across a river, while self improvement is learning how to fucking swim. Use them both in tangent lets you get across wider rivers, but if you only have the boat well you're gonna need a life jacket.
If everyone is Chad, no one is Chad. Not everyone can be spinning plates in the air cause eventually you won't have any good plates left, more plates spinning means more of them will drop and chip, the population is only 50% female and god forbid you advise cheating and stealing plates. But that is a moral decision between you and those plates.
I understand you may be in that position where you have decided marriage is always the beta bargain and you want men to avoid it at all costs. Hypothetically speaking this wouldn't work out for society following the Mouse Utopia Experiment. Similarly, religions that followed strict celibacy died out because their believers didn't have any children to pass it on to. Unless you're suggesting to have children outside marriage and retain custody so your children become redpill.
I'm slightly worried that your interpretation of redpill philosophy isn't sustainable. I'm not saying it's your moral obligation to have children and make them redpill, just that you shouldn't just avoid the fire because it has burned you or you've seen others burn by it. Others will harness this fire for their political, religious, or cultural agenda.
Sworbo 7y ago
I agree that walking away is, for some, the best option. My life is pretty good, and my relationship with my spouse is above average. Sometimes I wish she'd follow a bit better, but ... I realize here the fault is in me and that I need to be a better leader. We are nowhere near the kind of dysfunctional where me breaking commitments to spin plates on the side is warranted.
When I spend time in RedPill (vs, MRP) I know I'm always trying to adapt advice directed at non-married men to my life. I'm a bit at a loss at the moment to figure out how to adapt "you won't truly be ... until you cheat ..." Still, if I had a time machine for 22 year old me I'd tell him what you are telling me.
I fully agree with the core of your post. The quality of the posts in RedPill and MRP is falling. Too many people who finally get a bit cocky once and have a great one-time-bang thinking they have it all figured out. Too many others who just want to rage about the hard truth of life.
vandaalen 7y ago
Which nowhere has been stated.
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vandaalen 7y ago
Part of my remodelling of myself involved realizing, that I essentially am a selfish prick, as is everybody, and that there is no such thing as an inherently "good man" since we all have our own agenda that we follow and even people acting altruistic at first glance, still have something they get out of it and if it is just the feeling of being superior to all the other "assholes on the planet" or pleasing their religion.
Sworbo 7y ago
Well ... the cheat part defiantly was not.
The expression that I can never be unplugged unless I have developed a soft herm is mostly a quote.
Perhaps then I shall never be your version of truly unplugged. That's ok, I'll be ... something else then. As long as I'm a better me next week then this, and continue that process ad-infinum ...
Please, try not to view my comments as undue criticism. My life is in a different stage then this post was intended for. I know this.
vandaalen 7y ago
All good.
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You can never fully understand "women" as a group without experiencing many women. It's very simple and not a value judgement on you being trapped in a marriage because of kids. Remove ego, insert action.
Sworbo 7y ago
And here I thought I had a fairly ego removed response.
To say that I have goals in my life that preclude some other actions, does not imply a level of trapped that is not innate to the human experience. The aggressive pursuit of any goal will open some doors, and close many others. I have studied various martial arts for nearly five years now. Do you have any idea how many TV show's I've not watched in that time? How many computer games I've not played? The consulting hours I've not worked and billed? The tinkering with my truck I could have done? The delicious carb laden or sugary dishes I've chosen to not eat? I closed many doors I encountered as I choose to work on that goal.
I agree that when I was younger I should have explored more, and would encourage young men to do so.
His proposed action of forming a soft herm are, currently, inconsistent with other goals of mine. The door to building a soft herim is currently closed, by me, in pursuit of other family oriented goals. I still seek some level of "unplugged," but I acknowledge it will not be perhaps as deeply understood as the OPs.
Therefore: this post for me does not contain an actionable task ... for me, and my goals.
This is not true for many many others.
And I still agree with the OPs core concept of: too many of you are posting 100% shit posts for the entire community that contain no actionable advice or share any exceptionally illuminating encounter. If anything, I'm agreeing, heavily, with the OP and trying to say: slay forward into the lands I choose not to tread.
But tell me all about it, because I find your stories humorous and occasionally enlightening.
[deleted] 7y ago
Having read through the exchanges in your thread, I think you and OP are on the same page, just different parts of it.
Van seems to be saying that higher level understanding of RP dynamics requires certain prerequisites. You simply cannot achieve that level of understanding any other way. So, for all those who haven't gone through those required prerequisites, lets be clear where you're coming from...
I don't think it was ever meant to be a criticism for those who haven't gone through those prerequisites but who also aren't posting in RP as though they have the higher order understanding. RP does acknowledge the difference between those, likely such as yourself, who understand this limitation and accept the loss due to other clear priorities and those who deny it so they don't have to confront their terrors of actually going through it.
RP has a lot for people like you. Just understand, your primary female experience comes from a woman ensconced in a secure (beta -like), providing relationship. Encapsulated in that dynamic there are aspects to the female nature you will never truly experience; which grant a whole other level of understanding of the female nature; and which cannot be replicated by an other means than first hand experience.
Sworbo 7y ago
But ... aren't arguments where we agree just more fun?
I will never know women the way the OP does. If my wife stays committed to me and puts out frequently ... hopefully I'll never have to.
It's also why I generally don't give a lot of relationship advice, I know my sample set is small.
But I do generally find it worthwhile learning how to be a better captain of ship.
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As a side note: there are a number of people in TRP who believe that what you have can be preserved, even with your now going out and obtaining a soft harem--if you're where you need to be as a man. Those people will debate with you whether your "moral" choice not to do that is in fact a cop out as to your terror of losing. Some of those will actually tell you that accepting where you are now is a disservice to your wife. Why? Because women would rather share a winner than have a loser to themselves. She would rather be with you when you are at that level, even if that means you're cheating, than be with you as you are now, even though this means you won't cheat.
PantsonFire1234 7y ago
So say i'm dating this girl and i'm viewing things as a mutual beneficial plating. I plate and she gets to be AWALT. Suddenly girl starts to pull weird manipulation tricks to get something out of me. Next she asks to meet up for a booty call and half way through the night she says she has to be somewhere and leaves. My gut tells me she's fucking another guy besides me. She acts like nothing happened the day afterward and wants to schedule another date. Following your line of logic I should go along with this since it's female nature and I'm just enjoying the bang right?
Personally I'd be more inclined to ghost or hard next the girl because it's undermines my position with her and shows no respect.
vandaalen 7y ago
It's none of your business whom your plates fuck besides of you.
Also you don't "spend the night together" with a plate as it triggers pair bonding mechanisms and just means drama on both sides.
PantsonFire1234 7y ago
No I mean half way through the fucking she gets up and leaves because she has to do something. Like I sate in my comment, I would not consider it my business what my plate does besides me. But when I am asked to devote a bit of time to her and hook up and she leaves mid-hook up I would consider that to be over the line. What would you have done?
vandaalen 7y ago
That is a hypothetic situation and nothing even closely to this ever happened to me and I don't think it ever will.
With my plates I set up a date, we meet and we fuck in between the first ten minutes of meeting, mostly right away. IDGAF what they do after I nutted. It is highly unlikely that they will leave in the twenty minutes it takes from undressing to nutting on their face.
Since I usually do not have plans afterwards as well, they can leave and do whatever the fuck they want, regardless of what they asked me beforehand. Although I also do not invite plates to my house, but always visit them at theirs.
PantsonFire1234 7y ago
It's not a hypothetical situation though. This actually happened to me. I deployed full asshole game on a girl and figured she was a lost cause pretty early on. Never gave an inch of affection or attention. She pushed and pushed, always changing the subject in a committal way. Sometimes she would even suggest I was just afraid to fall for her. Again, I never went there but she did. Over and over again. I have a habit of going silent on girls that bore me or mean little to my beyond plate status but this girl always re-initiated contact. And one time out of the blue she pulled that stunt and it completely blindsided me. Never happened to me before and I instantly cut things off. No girl gets to manipulate me by giving my blue balls. She panicked and tried to compliment her way back in my good graces but was firmly shut down when she saw I had a new girl on tap ready to replace her. Thankfully haven't heard from her since. My point being, I think I handled this the correct way.
Since you advocate no-strings-attached plating and having no concern for her other activities I simply wondered what a person like you would have done. And if you would have continued plating her regardless of this manipulative/disrespectful move. Since you say one shouldn't give any fucks.
vandaalen 7y ago
I would have taught her much much earlier by applying soft nexts for creating drama.
PantsonFire1234 7y ago
Also why visit their place and not let them come to yours. Doesn't that create unfavorable conditions and take away your options and time. I prefer to have them come over with food and lingerie.
vandaalen 7y ago
Because I am a lazy fucker who likes to live in his own dirt. Let aside that leaving a place is much easier than having somebody leave place who does not want to. The last 1,5 years no plate has ever known my exact place of living as well. The less they know, the better.
I also like them to wear lingerie and have something cooked.
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If you gonna go MTGOW, have a picture of yourself in good shape, getting your dick sucked. Several of em in fact.
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For most men, 'Going their own way' these days is just another way of saying "I'm lost and don't know what the fuck I'm doing."
OP nails it.
the_number_2 7y ago
"I can't get women anyway, so I'll say it's my 'choice' to not get laid and act all stoic and people will think I'm pensive and then fuck me. Right?... ... ... right?"
prodigy2throw 7y ago
The only TRUE MGTOW I have ever seen is Henry Rollins. Dude never had kids, doesn't fuck with women and just travels the world doing badass shit.
He's not MGTOW because he hates women he's MGTOW because he has a bigger journey and having a woman's bullshit to deal with would only slow him down.
InstantKarma706 7y ago
Or he gay af. I never got mgtow....isnt the point of redpill to go your own way, with baddies tagging along for your ride?
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vandaalen 7y ago
Upvote for mentioning him. Definetly worth checking out for people who do not know him. https://www.youtube.com/user/redonkulaspopp
Absolutely this. That's why I actually laugh at "MGTOW" who regard it to be something different than TRP. MGTOW is a subset of TRP and not another "movement", which bith of them never were by the way.
Steve_Wiener 7y ago
He's MGTOW because women don't want him
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brewmastermonk 7y ago
He's also aspie as fuck
[deleted] 7y ago
Dude. "Sperg" is the preferred nomenclature.
scissor_me_timbers00 7y ago
I think you've just outed yourself as one
scissor_me_timbers00 7y ago
I think you've just outed yourself as one
scissor_me_timbers00 7y ago
I think you've just outed yourself as one
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
tourist.
[deleted] 7y ago
holy shit dude
sorry you have to work so hard. no joke.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
I'll throw up any hate mail. will entertain at least. only called a cuck twice so far
[deleted] 7y ago
meh, I got banned once . but the kids are funny.
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PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
Rule 0 is the guide. Having said that, bait posts have made our job much easier
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IVIaskerade 7y ago
That's the next level of TRP. Multi-dick plating.
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PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
tourist
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newls 7y ago
Amen. The Red Pill never truly clicked for me until I experienced abundance of female attention.
Dread game works like magic. Women's imaginations, the raw dread from their competition anxiety, will passively do more for you than any clever text you can think of, any thoughtful surprise dinner you make her, or any flowers you buy her.
That can only be achieved through having multiple genuine sexual options.
I only understood Frame when I stopped giving a shit about the outcome of any female encounter, resting in my past proven ability to generate sexual options, and saw the effects of judiciously giving my attention to hoes.
imbeciI 7y ago
Good article, thanks for your input.
Now, one thing about the contributions TRP has are that they lengthy and require a good amount of time to read and comprehend. Sometimes, more and one read is necessary to process all the information, thesis and truths laid out. Now, why do they have a TL;DR at the end?. Life doesn't have shortcuts. The road to self-improvement doesn't have shortcuts. Trying to find an easy way to do things it's the most unmanly behavior a male could display, if you could, why don’t you add some recommendations and conclusions at the end of your article? We do have a fresh amount of readers every day, they seek information and help, if they can’t handle a wall of text they do have an even bigger issue in their hands.
hornportal 7y ago
Great post OP. Newcomer here.
I'm only 3 months unplugged, but I've since dropped 25 lbs, I'm going to start lifting soon and I'll keep my mouth shut til I've actually practiced some game.
I'll check out "Models". Currently reading "The Game by Neil Strauss".
proof_of_vlaze 7y ago
Best TRP post since I joined.
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You must have joined pretty recently. (not that the post is bad, it's good)
proof_of_vlaze 7y ago
yeah i thought that was implied (joined about a month ago)
jumpinglane 7y ago
oh man, TRP became so much more than "discussion about sexual strategy".
For many men out there this place is the only place to discuss MASCULINE IDENTITY IN GENERAL.
people flock these subs because they are lost in a female-centric, men-discriminating western society.
TRP IS MUCH MORE THAN SEXUAL STRATEGY, WETHER YOU WANT IT OR NOT.
These boys need fucking guidance.
I remember redpillschool once commenting that you mods know how frustrated young people arrive here and you let them vent just for the sake of it. At which point exactly have you lost this mindset?
Bear-With-Bit 7y ago
Basic training wouldn't be a good place to vent. Neither is this. Those who are genuinely trying will ask good questions on asktrp, in the right way, with respect, just as a trainee would to his drill sergent.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
They can get it, they can't tell people they are avoiding sex and women, thats a crab bucket
RedPillAccount69 7y ago
Which is why they need to be told that MGTOW is a cancer.
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It's one thing to seek guidance and vent your frustration.
It's another matter entirely to change a working system just so they can fit in. They're free to read the content, but this is not a safe space.
vandaalen 7y ago
Which does not mean that they are entitled to it.
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PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
respect the tag
vandaalen 7y ago
Fucking sexists not granting women to have their own agenda and be able to follow it because they are manipulated by evil genuises who are much smarter than them.
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vandaalen 7y ago
True. Took me a little bit longer. I fail to be able to make the connection to my OP though, unless you feel adressed by my post that is.
vandaalen 7y ago
True. Took me a little bit longer. I fail to be able to make the connection to my OP though, unless you feel adressed by my post that is.
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JustDoMeee 7y ago
The upvote to comment ratio on this post is very disappointing. This post should be top of this week or even month.
FormlessAllness 7y ago
You can't choose to go your own way when you literally don't have the option to fuck women. You're choosing nothing and quite frankly I hate you. You being a bitch and are probably a waste of life. Only someone that can slay and fuck different pussy daily and has proved it can go there own way. The op is dead on. You can't love your wife unless you have the ability to replace her in an instant. You can't choose to like water, you need it. These bitches ass men need to man the fuck up.
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[deleted] 7y ago
Sometimes I want Senpai to notice me, but I can't be bothered to leave the house.
Don't judge my LTR pillow man.
GroundhogLiberator 7y ago
It's not like I like you or anything, b-baka!
ADeadDawg 7y ago
fuck is the fascination with blonde white chicks? tight little Asian girls for the win
vandaalen 7y ago
I like them when they got user-friendly sizing.
vengefully_yours 7y ago
For me, it's tight little chicks. What color they are doesn't matter as much as their shape. I like fucking all the colors. I've had a girl of every color and continent. Blondes are ok, Asian girls are ok too, being blue eyed light skin with German ancestry, I happen to like the dark girls best.
ADeadDawg 7y ago
I'm also of German decent.. I tend to gravitate toward the darker more exotic girls as well
Galactic-Unicorn 7y ago
Green eyed redheads are where it's at.
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I like to taste everything on the menu as well. Went through my Scando phase, Asian girl phase, black girl phase. I just like exotic beuaties.
dr_warlock 7y ago
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So you've fucked a government scientist on Antarctica? Sailed from South America, South Africa, or Australia for some Antarctic pussy?
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[deleted] 7y ago
This is where the red pill has gone wrong. We need posts about how awesome men can be. We fucking built the world. Look at every single building you drive by, men built them, look at the roads - men, space travel-men, electric cars -men, yes some woman were involved but 95% of civilization was built by alpha men leading the way. The men we need to be. Yes, pussy comes from being alpha and learning game, but we've lost the focus on alpha and sum it up as "lift" and only seem to focus on game and even that is 80% "how do I get her back" instead of "how do I become the baddest motherfucker that pussy is going to crave?"
Auvergnat 7y ago
Shall I suggest you join one or several of these subs:
Where you can discuss masculinity and how to achieve male greatness with fellow men, without having to sit through the pesky focus on sexual strategy that makes up theredpill.
Mickusey 7y ago
That shit was actually built by beta men. That's what modern western civilization entails, or entailed. Monogamy; in exchange for working for the collective society, a beta man gets access to his very own pussy which he can have children with and release his sexual energy upon. Natural alphas were the guys who could sit around and get pussy and resources while doing next to nothing because they were alpha men, in contrast betas constantly worked for everyone else in an attempt to gain pussy that way. Guaranteed pussy means he's going to contribute more. Of course, society used to guarantee this with established social structures, but with the modern feminist movement and several other factors the concept of a practically guaranteed partner and monogamy are not really relevant anymore. This is now why you have so many more beta incels, but most of them spend their time whining about how the fantasy promised to them doesn't correlate with reality rather than learning their way around reality itself.
vandaalen 7y ago
This is where you went wrong. This sub has always been foremostly about sexual strategy.
All the shit you describe, what do you think it is that drove men to do it? Exactly. Pussy.
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Well I do own a construction company so....
FormlessAllness 7y ago
So you get betas to do the work for you
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Honest question, not trying to troll here: couldn't women rebutt this by saying that they were not given the chance to express their talent due to being oppressed up until recently?
Auvergnat 7y ago
That's basically the excuse in the current year. Except that apparently they are still being "oppressed". Which conveniently explains why they're still making up only 5% of world leaders, top CEOs, economic nobel prizes, top entrepreneurs, etc.
The reality is that those very top leadership position need an extreme level of intelligence, dedication and specific skills, which not everyone has, including 99.9% of the male population.
The funny thing in all that, is that the day our modern feminist society manages to impose 50% of women in all top positions, 99.9% of women will still not be able to get there. So they'll complain about something else.
Andramoiennepe 7y ago
They could sure. But they'd be wrong. Despite pushing girls into STEM, for example, very few succeed. That sort of thinking is not in accord with most women. Clearly there are exceptions, and that is a benefit of the world we live in. It is more a meritocracy than even before. If you have the talent, more than any other era of human history, you are given the opportunity (with no concern as to gender). The problem is assuming these exceptions are the rule. There was a recent study demonstrating, for example, that the average man could build IKEA furniture without instructions faster than the average woman could with. Building is in our (I.e. Man's nature. Hard wired. All the ideology in the world won't change that biological trait. As long as nature continues to make women the baby carriers (i.e. Forever), they will continue to excel in some areas as compared to men (nurturing, e.g.) but will suffer in others (e.g. Track and field and engineering).
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PLUTOKRAT 7y ago
I'm red pill in the sense that I know the true nature of the intersexual game, because I read evopsych articles, but I'm not red pill in wasting my time going after women.
Having said that, the only bitch here is you, the bitch of gynocentrism. You basically are going after women like dogs go after slut dogs. It's not just about self-control. Is about understanding the evolutionary game, and putting some priorities in your life, self-respect, and self-interest in the first place. Moving as a monkey smelling the behind of females isn't actually beating the evolutionary game. By doing just so you are nothing more than another pawn in it. You are just a hamster; a hamster who thinks that if he spins the wheel fast enough he will beat the evolutionary logic. You won't. You can fuck as much as you want. What matters, in the end, from an evolutionary pov, is how many successful descendants you live. And I bet my balls that despite your constant bragging in forums and Reddit you are just another average guy who will make 1-2 max 3 children if none at all.
Now, I know I will be accused of being an obese incel. So If you wanna play that game I'm ready to post 2 photos of myself, but I expect 2 photos of yourself, and we let others judge who's more probable to be an incel.
[deleted] 7y ago
You're one of those guys "too intelligent to pursue and fuck women".
I'm tipping my fedora at you my guy.
Bear-With-Bit 7y ago
Please include pictures of your penis next to a ruler. A metric ruler, that is. Everyone knows inches are tehgay.
vandaalen 7y ago
Nah thanks. After winning the evolutionary game without actually fucking women you now also win this internet argument. Congratulations.
Zigis2 7y ago
Why not? Show him how macho you are...
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I learn the truth of this everyday and from a million sources.
All_Ads_Deceive 7y ago
Seems like the TRT is kicking in. Enjoy
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dr_warlock 7y ago
This is one of those statements that are plausible, but in practice, always come from guys who get none.
vandaalen 7y ago
There is always a place in the gay community for you.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
tourist.
Rule 0
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CurlsGetsGirls 7y ago
Does anyone know where can I get the PDF of the book mentioned above? (Models by mark Manson)
vandaalen 7y ago
You can get the audio book for 10 bucks at audible.
Zigis2 7y ago
Ah. It all about those "10 bucks"... Lol
murloc10493 7y ago
Manipulative, shallow, and cheater.
You just have a big dick, that's all. That's the true redpill right there.
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BassNet 7y ago
Does anyone else dislike the idea of a girl you're fucking going around and fucking other dudes? I mean yeah she's not mine it's only my turn but I'd like to keep that 'turn' as long as possible. That's actually the only reason I really want to be in an LTR, because there's a certain amount of trust that the only people we're fucking is eachother. I don't entirely understand it myself, maybe it's a fetish or something, but I want to be the only guy she's fucking.
vandaalen 7y ago
Jealousy is a powerful feeling and wanting to have exclusive access to an uterus maybe the foundation of civilization. So no, you are not alone.
It's illusionary though.
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I do agree you need the experience of spinning plates to truly unplug and experience the power of non monogamy is helps when you enter a LTR and know you can easily just fuck other women regularly. That being said some of us enjoy ltr's. I enjoy the company ability to learn about myself and how to keep gaming constantly to keep it going. It's a challenge and I love it. I don't think trp is this cut and dry thing where you need to he 100% non-monogamy. I'm enjoying my freedom atm. But both spectrums offer value if your willing to learn. Great post! Wish you'd post more van.
vandaalen 7y ago
Nothing wrong with enjoying LTRs. They surely got their upsides.
Thanks. Well, I have many drafts, but to be honest the language barrier (I am German) is a bitch sometimes and allows me to excuse the procrastination to myself way too comfortably.
I am also really bad at structuring my thoughts in a comprehensible way sometimes.
I had this post opened in the editor with the first three sentences written down for the last three weeks and then I just wrote the rest in one hour.
I too am guilty of thinking too much and doing too little sometimes...
max_peenor 7y ago
I don't now how "never marry" (in the current socio-political environment) got turned into never have a relationship with so many people. Simplistic thinking, I guess.
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I follow alot of your posts on ask-trp and here when we are lucky enough. The community needs guys with your experience right now more then ever. Your posts have definitely helped me over the years. Nothing wrong with a language barrier it was still an easily digested post,this sub needs some German efficiency anyways.
vandaalen 7y ago
That good to hear and the reason why I keep showing up there.
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How condescendingly helpful: "Hey Van, I fundamentally disagree with the point of your post, but good try, let's see some more hustle..."
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I wasn't disagreeing with all of it. Simply stating non monogamy isnt the only way to learn about trp. All his points are still 100% accurate.
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poisedStygian 7y ago
Rollo Tomassi is married too.
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NeoreactionSafe 7y ago
I remember a couple of years ago when the "MGTOW Cult" started to become a big thing.
It didn't make any sense the way these folks were talking because they were "so excited" to finally give up the quest to fuck women. (many being actual virgins)
At the time I argued we shouldn't even have such a sub cult as MGTOW because it divided one group against another.
As I recall it's "original" meaning was:
How it went from "Think For Yourself" to "Eternal Celebacy" was in itself a strange journey which I'm not sure has ever been documented.
...that question might be lost to history.
Myself being fascinated by crimes and conspiracies I've even wondered if the "MGTOW Cult" was somehow designed as a meme to undermine the Red Pill, but without evidence there are no leads to follow. Evidence of who, what, when and where would help. Sort of a GnosticMedia.com like investigation into how the "MGTOW Cult" was launched would be great.
askmrcia 7y ago
I'm not sure, but I discovered mgtow before the red pill. It was on YouTube after seeing "mgtow" repeatedly on videos, particularly the gold digging prank videos.
This guy named sandman was the guy I noticed at the time (three years ago) who had the most videos and subs on mgtow.
I personally do like the concept of mgtow. Because in a way it goes hand to hand with red pill.
To me mgtow means, just focusing on yourself and not getting tied down with marriage. That's it. Celibacy and all of that stuff doesn't factor in to it.
Red pill means to me is seeing how the world is. That's it. Just being aware.
People can take those and run with it, whether it means living like Dan Brazilian, fuckin multiple plates, or open ltrs. Whatever.
But yea you're right, I don't like how guys are hijacking mgtow and making it seem like it's a movement of fat Virgins becoming herbivore men.
The same way I don't like guys saying they're red pill when all they do is brag about how many women they slept with and while at the same time constantly bitchin women ain't shit.
NeoreactionSafe 7y ago
As I recall the original interpretation and general timeline went like:
Blue Pill beta male discovers the Red Pill sub.
Over time the beta understands he was deceived by the Blue Pill mythology.
The Anger Phase is the point at which the waking up has begun.
A recognition that "peer pressure" is what got the beta in trouble by believing the Blue Pill in the first place so some new way to gain wisdom is recognized as being needed.
MGTOW is when this "new way" is taken to heart and you begin to "Think For Yourself". I like pointing out that the Trivium Method (first three parts of the Seven Liberal Arts) actually gets you to "Think For Yourself" so there is a long standing tradition that goes along with "Free Thought"
Game is first really introduced as the path to manipulate reality and be able to compete with the default manipulative nature of women and win against it.
I don't think everyone follows this and some might choose other directions for themselves, but that's my overview of it.
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At this point MGTOW (the corruption within, at least) is a cancer among TRP that needs to constantly be kept in check lest it consumes the sub.
NeoreactionSafe 7y ago
Which is what I've been saying for a few years now.
It will be funny if upon investigation we find out there was a CIA classified operation to infiltrate the Red Pill and dilute it by breaking it off into pieces with things like the MGTOW Cult.
People might say "that's a conspiracy theory" but if you actually study some of what went on over the decades these operations were rather routine.
Without evidence we can only speculate however.
Another possible "fake meme" within the Manosphere is this "Virgins with Vasectomies" thing. The idea is to get all these kids to erase their ability to reproduce based on dreams of unprotected sex. I have my doubts about the authentic wisdom in that kind of decision. In my view you don't chop your balls off (symbolically) until after you have passed on your DNA with a few kids.
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Modern day bluepill slave trade.
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I've only had one plate last a year. We got divorced around the same time and started banging. Her life fell apart as she got back on the CC. Sent her kids to the grand parents, gained weight and lost her job. I had to bring out the phone recorder because she said she was going to tell the cops I raped her because I would not give her gas money.
Most plates fall off around 3-4 months as they either get tired of the same ol thing, or think that they are relationship material because they've been putting out for months
Bear-With-Bit 7y ago
There are many places for men to discuss self improvement, but only a few to discuss sexual strategy, this being one of them. If you're compromising the goal of this forum, you are male hamstering. GTFO. Or at least don't comment and simply lurk.
MyBlackGirl 7y ago
Lol I'm totally one of those asshats he's talking about and I'm glad he made this post because he's totally right
rockmasterflex 7y ago
I liked this a lot, thanks.
stampadbag 7y ago
"This sub's first and most important purpose has always been to get guys in a physical and mental state to be ready to fully blossom in their masculinity"
I see a lot of "getting there" references in your post, IE you dont know someone within a time frame, then what is an example time frame? you are citing all variables. Can you swallow the pill WHILE you are getting in the best physical shape and staying in your frame? I think so.
vandaalen 7y ago
I can tell you for me: Five years (of which I spent maybe three here) and still counting. I started literally from the gutter on the verge of wanting to off myself and had to find out about some conditions, which significantly slowed my progress down (namely thyroid and low T) though, so I am maybe not the best example. Took me way longer than I'd suspect that somebody who is healthy and of average built and mental state would need. I'd say one year before you see some real changes and two years until you are really successful is absolutely realistic. Some guys also just need that wakeup call and are good at it right from the start. Hard work beats talent though, when talent doesn't work hard.
It's still a marathon and not a sprint though and the journey also never ends. There is left so much things to do, so many women to fuck, so many things to know, so many good dudes to befriend and so many places to conquer and lastly so many guys to help on their feet, I don't see an end to this. Let aside your goals shift over time, when you realize what you are capable of achieving.
And there is some good news as well: I can assure you that if I can do it, everybody can.
keysomea 7y ago
Dont get me wrong OP that was a very good post. But maybe your getting too much anger and resentment on it. Sure I do believe you when you say that a whole lot of MGTOWers are a bunch of fat guys with non perspective to a life whatsoever. But I do not think that everything in TRP resumes to sex. I believe TRP serves for continuous self-excellence or as the stoics say "living in accordance to Nature". TRP serves as a pathway to a better life more focused on yourself while of course slaying pussy which is not necessary at all but recommended for sure.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
no, he's 100% right.
2, friendly reminder
Snazzy_Serval 7y ago
God I wish that was true.
Some men are just fucked up beyond that.
vandaalen 7y ago
Notice how I wrote "you know enough in order to..." and not "you will..."?
Snazzy_Serval 7y ago
Yes you are correct that you wrote that.
But even then, is it really enough?
Maybe it's due to a lack of comprehension or simply being unable to relate.
I've read Models and listened to the audio book and it didn't mesh with me. I'm currently rereading the sidebar, as I was inspired by your post and read up to Confessions of a Reformed Incel. That was really good for the vast majority of it until he magically fucks a stripper and he lives happily ever after.
I'm on to the next article.
vandaalen 7y ago
Keep reading and internalizing. You will not be able to succeed without just going out in the world and doing though.
You can learn all about fighting there is to know through books. Anatomy, strategy, technique, mindset, etc. pp. You can parctice the stuff you learned over and over again in front of the mirror via shadow boxing or drilling katas, however at some point you will have to go sparring in order to really internalize and learn hot to apply it under pressure. And even then, you might still not be able to recall the shit you spent learning for years in the moment you actually fight, even in the "safe" space of let's say an MMA octagon. You might win, but you might also loose. You'll only know afterwards though and no matter what the outcome, you'll be a better man and fighter afterwards. Even just five minutes under fire are more valuable the months of training really hard.
There is no point where you feel like "Now I know it. I finally got it." That point never comes. Everytime you come close, some other problems, you never would have thought about without the knowledge you possess at that very point, pop up.
Lift to get in a good shape and just start gaming women. The rest will come over time. My coach likes to say: "All that matters is that you fight as violent as possible within the rules. Winning will come later."
Shaman6624 7y ago
If you've read models you know that you have to do theory and practice in tandem. So read some, try it out, back to the drawing board. Repeat.
AnythingForSuccess 7y ago
Edge: the post.
A bit too long of a post from a self-proclaimed "slayer", don't you think?
I would argue that true slayers don't even know what reddit is.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
respect the tag
PLUTOKRAT 7y ago
What is the tag now, a shield for bigmouth snowflakes?
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
yup
vandaalen 7y ago
I would argue that you don't know shit about slayers.
AnythingForSuccess 7y ago
The guys who post these walls of text are far from slayers as we are from Mars. Slayers don't have to attention spam to spout anything like that and devote it to an anonymous online forum. They simply don't care. They don't need to follow TRP, they just are.
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The naturals you speak of fall for the marriage and kids trap all the fucking time. Plenty of former "slayers" driving mini-vans and living lives of quiet desperation. If only they had discovered the red pill...
AnythingForSuccess 7y ago
Yeah, sure, and TRPers die alone and sad. Great
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You would know sweetie pie.
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J2501 7y ago
I went MGTOW just because I know from experience the inevitable consequences of picking from bad options (and most options are bad).
In high school, I was a nerd, wasn't on sports teams, wasn't classically 'cool' (some would argue I was alterna-cool, the type to be in a garage band), did drugs, parents didn't give me a lot of money, a little bit runty. So I'm non-verbally told, by the high school social hierarchy 'These are your options': B-grade chicks. It's either that, or graduate high school a virgin. You can't have the cheerleaders or even the honor roll.
I didn't graduate a virgin. I picked from shitty options. She turned out to have problems typical of insecure, B-grade girls. Broke my heart and fucked up my confidence.
And adulthood hasn't been much different. Some of it is me: I could be wealthier and higher social stature if I spent more time on professional development and working out, and less on pot and video games. But some of it is simply geographical: I live in Texas, and good women don't stay here. It's too hot, oppressive, and poor. The smart ones go east and the pretty ones go west, and we get the ugly nut-job remainders. Clever people stay here to exploit the abundance of stupid people, but the truly wise and benevolent just leave. They want no part in it.
Now I'm 36, and I realize that the only way to truly satisfy myself is to put myself in a higher-class market. That means a slow, steady climb in terms of professional skill, and eventually leaving the state for better climate, legally, culturally, economically, and in terms of actual weather.
Do I want to pick up another orbiting female beta between now and then? No. My friend who banged his own cousin and had an illegitimate, inbred child in High School says I 'overthink women'. I really don't think the opportunities I'm missing are all that great. Seems to me like impulsive people get more, but pay too much for it, just like gum at the grocery store.
Once in a blue moon, I meet a woman who meets my standards, and chances are she's either taken or I'm not her type. But still, I am not single out of desperation. I'm just sick of being pressured to accept unsatisfying compromises, and there are plenty of those available, who I regularly turn down, because I just don't want to get too caught up with them. Compromises are a distraction.
All that being said, there are plenty of pizza-face fat-asses who really are desperate losers with no education or career, still living at home, and they copy my story, feigning elitism because it looks better than desperation, until one day, they get stuck with a fat girl, and then they become white knights. But that's a stereotype. Doesn't apply to everyone. I'm a decent-looking guy, college degree, good career, been living independently for almost 20 years.
I'm just tired of all the cognitive dissonance, telling B-grade women I love them when I don't, suspending judgment of her background, privilege, stupidity, selfishness, etc... I know where all that leads, and I'd honestly rather be alone until I genuinely hit it off with wife material. Which I'm sure will happen soon after I leave Texas with money in the bank and a good job waiting for me in a state where a stupid redneck government doesn't artificially cripple people who like to get high.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
Easiest MGTOW tell, assuming everyone wants his life story
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
with the lash-out.
[deleted] 7y ago
A lot of fucking words posted just to tell us how his life sucks and he can't get laid.
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Raisinbrannan 7y ago
You can get your point across without all the macho filler.
PaperStreetVilla 7y ago
tourist
Shaman6624 7y ago
If you stare into an abyss the abyss stares back at you.
RopeMagic 7y ago
Bravo. It's very easy to spot the types of posters you mention here. Thanks for posting this.