I (23M) was in a relationship with a good girl (21F) for almost 8 months and we were taking it slow (both virgins). I had recently had a terrible break up with a cheater and she had never had a BF. For months we only engaged in kissing. A couple of days ago, we decided we were ready to lose our virginity. When I dropped my underwear I saw immediate disappointment in her face. She let it slip that she expected it to be bigger, that really crushed me inside. She gave me a HJ but said let's not go the whole way. Yesterday she told me that she loves me but she had imagined losing her virginity differently and wasn't ready for me to be her first.
I was already self conscious about my size but I thought she wouldn't mind. I can't believe she would be like this. My 1st gf and I were going at it slow and she was sleeping with another guy casually when we had just started dating but always told me she wanted to wait before we got physical. I did not expect this from my current gf. Where do I go from here?
aldabruzzo Mod 2y ago
Yeah. I'm sorry, but No Stress Cat is right. It's over. Where you go from here is anywhere she is not. Where you go from here is alone, without her.
I find it odd that she's a "virgin" but believes your penis is below average size. What that means to me is she has some experience with other cocks, either in person or through watching porn.
Sorry. Dump her immediately and move on. You'll get past this.
NotaBene 2y ago
Things don't add up here. On my wedding night we were also both virgins, and my wife was visibly shocked that something that big could even... fit. Not because I'm some kind of Chad Thundercock, but because she had nothing to compare me to. I'm the best lover and biggest man she's ever had in her whole life.
Comparison is the thief of joy. Remember this maxim. It's why you don't wife up anything but a virgin (even then it's dangerous these days). Any woman who has been with other men is just comparing you to them, and will be for the rest of her life. You have no idea how impossible this is to just "get over" in marriage. Your woman will be much harder to please, because in the back of her mind Chad is screwing her, not you.
Clearly your GF had some kind of unrealistic expectations (where she got these, who knows, but I seriously doubt she's a virgin) and was incredibly rude about it. Imagine if the situation was reversed and you said something like, "I'm sorry I was just expecting bigger tits... you know what, this isn't how I imagined losing my virginity would be." You can imagine the rage.
No-Stress-Cat 2y ago
Time to move on. She's made it clear that you're not going to be her first. Which means some other guy is going to be her first. Which means she can't be your girlfriend if she's saving herself for someone else. When that someone else comes along, she's either going to dump you anyway, or cheat on you behind your back.
The moment she says, "I'm all yours! Take me, you big stud!", then you will know she's already done the deed. Hell, she might even have gotten pregnant and is looking at you for a bailout.
At this point, you're just wasting your time. Go find another girl who's willing to value you as much as you value her. There's plenty more girls where she came from.
Invisible22M 2y ago
Yeah it's pretty much over for her. She doesn't want me to be her 1st. So there is no real option for me to stick around. I don't know about plenty of girls. 2 gf in my life and both relationships have ended spectacularly. And I'm still a virgin at 23.