Cohabitation situation. Kid on the way. I'm red pill but obviously in an Athol Kay mode to red pill. Learning to balance alpha with beta to promote a healthy LTR. There are some minor points to address but mostly smooth sailing. She's mostly accepted rp naturally but it's been work. Aside from a few feminist blue pill leanings on her part I'm happy with how life is. Trusting, but verifying. Marriage is hinted at but I'm mostly ignoring. Life is good.

i am.....but, there is a reason i am around here in the red pill...

when i got married i found it was easier for me in a lot of ways to be beta, one classic example being that "i do not want to fight, whatever"...

so to make a long story short, one day i notice a simply look on her on the little league baseball field to someone else, and in that moment i realized i had fucked up, because i know my wife in not easy to trust anyone, so to make eye contact with another dude meant to me that i had failed hard, because my beta behavior had created a monster out of control, no my wife did not do more than that, or i would not be here, but what followed was a revelation that weeks later when i found this subreddit was like reading something you know but had not figured out, and you are just amazed how clear everything was

following the red pill has meant to my married life the less fights and the best sex of my 14 years of marriage, also the red pill goes beyond marriage and into bussiness, is really a way of being that is how man should be in all areas of life

by the way there is a classic blue pill book that i highly recommend and that is madame bovary, it is the story of a blue piller that literally dies of sadness, it is a very effective wake up call from the blue pill

Crickets...

<Raises hand>

Married via cohabitation (common-law) at around mid-20s (can't remember exactly when it actually kicked in), will be celebrating 10th wedding anniversary very soon. Met at school.

Our kids aren't all in school yet, so she's a SAHM for now - we live a pretty typical middle-class lifestyle. Life is mostly up, the relationship is harmonious, being parents is very fulfilling for both of us.

The main thing that changes with kids is logistics - there's no more going out for dinner/movie or whatever unless you can get babysitting. You've got to be very conscious of keeping the "spark" going and continue to hold yourselves to high standards wrt the stuff in your life that doesn't involve children (particularly fitness - neither of us have athletic bodies or anything but we do work hard not to turn into total fat-asses, which is one area where I'm sure many couples let each other fall apart). We are also sure to give each other space to pursue interests outside of being parents. This is all to say that kids become the focus of your life, but you've got to be careful that they don't overwhelm your life - I've noticed there is high social pressure in North America for parents to become totally consumed with meeting unattainable standards of perfection (case in point - Attachment Parenting I suspect has created many dead bedrooms).

I won't lie - there was a dead bedroom situation during first pregnancy due to hormones, and before then a bit, due to me being a bit of a beta schlub. Second pregnancy was a little better. Sex-life came back online in a big way last summer, found MMSL, etc. Now that I've come to own my role in the household, the marriage is very grounded & passionate.

That became a bit of rant. TL;DR Marriage & kids has been good for me.