Dude, she's leading you and having a great time watching you (consciously or subconsciously) struggle. Women who are interested make themselves available. Here she's grooming you as an orbiter. In any male/female interaction you need to reverse these roles so she's chasing you.
I recently began testing this idea. For every girl I number closed or gamed online or met and banged at least once...
If I texted to ping text her "Hey trouble maker what's up?" or set up something "Drinks, Thursday?"
IF she didn't respond within 2 hours she ALWAYS had another guy or 'option'.
Girls who are truly interested and if you've built attraction properly are ALWAYS keen to meet up.
Let's say i don't text her again / don't go out of my way to speak to her. How long would it take for them to break and contact you? ... If they are interested?
Girls who are attracted will ALWAYS find a way to make time...ALWAYS.
If they can't they'll ramble on and on about how they do have a bunch of things on the go. It's up to you to smell whether that litany of excuses is real or just a polite brush off.
But generally within a few hours.
What I normally do now is if I've gamed the girl properly and number closed and she seems keen to actually meet up and doesn't respond---I give it a few days.
Then I ping text as though it's the first time. If I don't get a response immediately, drop it.
I just had a situation where I gamed an HB8, number closed, ping texted---text book. Then she comes out to a party i'm hosting, I dance, drink, another girl comes by and pulls me away----DHV, pre-selection, leader of men"---all the triggers.
I text her one more time: "Djing, join me". She responds I'm joining my friends there cu.
She comes---with a dude. Yah, disappointing but when I reviewed my texts, there were only 3, all were light, all were around 5 words each and all were basic commands.
Not every interaction is going to pan out. That's the idea of approaching lots of women and then trying to qualify them before asking them out.
Most times she'll come out. Some times it's like the situation above. Don't get obsessed with any ONE GIRL.
Do you really want to be with a girl that fucks with your brain like that? You might not have many options right now, but so what? Let her be someone else's garbage, it is not worth it on your mental health to deal with some girl that waits exactly 15 minutes to text you back, doesn't give you normal affection, flakes out on you. It will never end dude. Soft next - and next time she texts you just wait a few hours and respond with "come over let's do something" all her excuses to not come over just meet that with zero response and any time she pings you the answer should always be "let's hangout, come over".
Stop being an idiot and over complicating things... GEEZ! This is a human person who's different from others.
I don't like texting but I like people who text me, even if I don't reply. Doesn't mean I hate your, just means I don't like texting. See my point?
This girl likes you and if you wanna go out with her, ASK HER OUT. Cause honestly bro your wasting her time thinking. Give it a few weeks/months and keep making things complicated. Watch, she'll get bored and leave.
Please MAN up and go for it.
If it's rejection your worried about, don't sweat it man, a scratch from a baby hurts waay more. But in this you won't get rejected because you have it in the bag
The thing is, she may come to you, but even if she does she will attempt to toy with you and see if she can have her way with you. Unfortunately the only way you can win is by shutting her down over and over. Eventually you could fuck her. More games will come. The best you could ever do might work. But she will always try to break you.
For example, in American football a combination of running and passing is an ideal threat for an offense. You run a little and pass a little keeping the defense on their toes. If a team gets too far behind they can no longer afford to run the ball, thereby eliminating the multi-level offense and becoming increasingly less effective.
When a team has a significant lead, they can run the ball more, burning the clock and increasing the effectiveness of a pass play. Playing from behind changes the dynamic. Playing with the lead means holding the power to control the dynamic. As a man you have to be in the lead, hold the power, and control the relationship dynamic. Once you fall behind you are no longer effective.
Females attempt to power grab all the time. That is the essence of betaization. If you let them take the power and take the lead, you lose the game. It is difficult to regain control of the dynamic once someone has already submitted and given you control and then taken it back.
No just do yourself a favor, grow some balls and next her. It's over. Don't play from behind and try to get her to chase you. You will just get played.
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walawalawa 7y ago
She's gaming you.
Stop being so available. Women DON'T send mixed signals they know exactly what they're doing.
if she doesn't show up, then don't meet up with her again. Period.
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walawalawa 7y ago
Dude, she's leading you and having a great time watching you (consciously or subconsciously) struggle. Women who are interested make themselves available. Here she's grooming you as an orbiter. In any male/female interaction you need to reverse these roles so she's chasing you.
I recently began testing this idea. For every girl I number closed or gamed online or met and banged at least once...
If I texted to ping text her "Hey trouble maker what's up?" or set up something "Drinks, Thursday?"
IF she didn't respond within 2 hours she ALWAYS had another guy or 'option'.
Girls who are truly interested and if you've built attraction properly are ALWAYS keen to meet up.
Girls who are attracted will ALWAYS find a way to make time...ALWAYS.
If they can't they'll ramble on and on about how they do have a bunch of things on the go. It's up to you to smell whether that litany of excuses is real or just a polite brush off.
But generally within a few hours.
What I normally do now is if I've gamed the girl properly and number closed and she seems keen to actually meet up and doesn't respond---I give it a few days.
Then I ping text as though it's the first time. If I don't get a response immediately, drop it.
I just had a situation where I gamed an HB8, number closed, ping texted---text book. Then she comes out to a party i'm hosting, I dance, drink, another girl comes by and pulls me away----DHV, pre-selection, leader of men"---all the triggers.
I text her one more time: "Djing, join me". She responds I'm joining my friends there cu.
She comes---with a dude. Yah, disappointing but when I reviewed my texts, there were only 3, all were light, all were around 5 words each and all were basic commands.
Not every interaction is going to pan out. That's the idea of approaching lots of women and then trying to qualify them before asking them out.
Most times she'll come out. Some times it's like the situation above. Don't get obsessed with any ONE GIRL.
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bluepillcarl 7y ago
Do you really want to be with a girl that fucks with your brain like that? You might not have many options right now, but so what? Let her be someone else's garbage, it is not worth it on your mental health to deal with some girl that waits exactly 15 minutes to text you back, doesn't give you normal affection, flakes out on you. It will never end dude. Soft next - and next time she texts you just wait a few hours and respond with "come over let's do something" all her excuses to not come over just meet that with zero response and any time she pings you the answer should always be "let's hangout, come over".
walawalawa 7y ago
Don't do that again, learn from it.
No. It's over. Move on. Do better next time.
AbraKadabratttt 7y ago
Stop being an idiot and over complicating things... GEEZ! This is a human person who's different from others. I don't like texting but I like people who text me, even if I don't reply. Doesn't mean I hate your, just means I don't like texting. See my point? This girl likes you and if you wanna go out with her, ASK HER OUT. Cause honestly bro your wasting her time thinking. Give it a few weeks/months and keep making things complicated. Watch, she'll get bored and leave.
Please MAN up and go for it. If it's rejection your worried about, don't sweat it man, a scratch from a baby hurts waay more. But in this you won't get rejected because you have it in the bag
Self-honest 7y ago
She won't be attracted to you until you show her she can't fuck with your head at all. Then you're a challenge.
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Self-honest 7y ago
The thing is, she may come to you, but even if she does she will attempt to toy with you and see if she can have her way with you. Unfortunately the only way you can win is by shutting her down over and over. Eventually you could fuck her. More games will come. The best you could ever do might work. But she will always try to break you.
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Self-honest 7y ago
You're playing from behind.
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Self-honest 7y ago
For example, in American football a combination of running and passing is an ideal threat for an offense. You run a little and pass a little keeping the defense on their toes. If a team gets too far behind they can no longer afford to run the ball, thereby eliminating the multi-level offense and becoming increasingly less effective.
When a team has a significant lead, they can run the ball more, burning the clock and increasing the effectiveness of a pass play. Playing from behind changes the dynamic. Playing with the lead means holding the power to control the dynamic. As a man you have to be in the lead, hold the power, and control the relationship dynamic. Once you fall behind you are no longer effective.
Self-honest 7y ago
Females attempt to power grab all the time. That is the essence of betaization. If you let them take the power and take the lead, you lose the game. It is difficult to regain control of the dynamic once someone has already submitted and given you control and then taken it back.
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Self-honest 7y ago
No just do yourself a favor, grow some balls and next her. It's over. Don't play from behind and try to get her to chase you. You will just get played.