Just reflecting on life over Christmas break...
When I was 27, times were tough and I decided to ask an 'average, religious & traditional' 25 y.o. woman out for a date in a public location (e.g. restaurant), while I was back home for the holidays. Lets call her [A]. My family is part of a pretty religious community and we both know the other family's 3 generations (my generation, parents, grandparents). [A] agreed to go out with me, but she insisted that I get a female acquaintance to chaperone us for the date. The issue was, this acquaintance used to have a crush on me, but was soon getting married to another guy. The acquaintance shared that she was not comfortable chaperoning us, so in the end the date with [A] did not go ahead.
Was this a shit test? It was one of the weirdest experiences of my life. This woman was 'religious & traditional' in the sense that she can't do much housework (she ironed her father's handkerchief as his birthday present), worked an average job, went to clubs and parties etc. Really regular lifestyle besides going for religious events every week.
Fast forward, 5 years later after I graduated and found a decent job... this same woman [A] was still single and invited me to a lunch gathering with about 50-100 young men and women. I went as I had received another invitation from a 25 y.o.woman [B]. [A] played it cool when I arrived and we made about 1 minute of small talk, sitting about 7 feet apart with her cousin sitting between us. I got bored and stopped talking as it was too much effort to keep the conversation going. Then [B] arrived to the gathering and sat next to me and we chatted casually. A couple of other 20 - 25 y.o. women heard about what I was doing for my career and suddenly I was mobbed with a small crowd of younger ladies. I noticed [A] sitting silently on the couch, glancing at me occasionally.
[A] remarked as I was leaving with [B] and some other girls, "Hey, we did not have much chance to catch up today." I nodded and smiled in reply, "Yeah, it was a busy gathering, see you around."
What is your takeaway from this experience?
MrSupreme 2y ago
That happened to me once,I helped this chick with a phone call in a park, had the best intro ever things were flowing smoothly,but when it was time a few weeks later to meet up she wanted her sister to chaperone.I had to cancel cause I wasn't having it, she came back bout a month later but I was too busy with work to date or anything so I had to pass.She didn't strike me as the religious type but definitely a bit conservative.
AsianDude 2y ago
I mean, chaperones basically doubles the cost of 'dating'. Plus I didn't think the woman was all that conservative in other areas of her life. Not sure who would take up those selective conditions nowadays.
Lone_Ranger 2 2y ago
My takeaway is that it sounds like you are living in an Amish village in around 1784.
wtf?
AsianDude 2y ago
yeah, this was one of the weirdest experience I had in asking someone for a date
Bulba 2y ago
This kind of thing happens to every man. After you hit your thirties, if you played your cards right, women from your twenties will start chasing you. However now they're older and their notch count is much higher.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
What the fuck? She doesn't trust you enough to meet in public without a chaperone? FUCK THAT SHIT.
There is nothing to takeaway from this experience.
You got a lot of social credit, girls are interested, [A] invited you because she wants to hook a provider, you ignored her, she wants a slice of your social status.
There's nothing else to read into this.
AsianDude 2y ago
Yeah, that chaperone request definitely counts as one of the weirdest incidents in my life. It's not like she didn't already know how I was like for basically 15 years of our lives.
OPPTRP 2y ago
The end was an invitation to date but from what I’ve heard I can’t blame you for not pursuing it.