I’ve noticed girls holding eye contact more often and I’ve been smiling and nodding kinda quick like and I feel like a fuckin sperg. I’ll smile and they don’t smile back.
What do you guys usually do when you notice this?
Also: joined a few clubs at my school trying to make more friends and it seems like people don’t want to talk. I want to go up and meet people, and have been doing so, but a few people have given me fuck off signals, but also a few have vibed really well. Is this shit normal?
One more question: I have a date this Saturday, hung out with her already. Dating is just getting to know someone right? It felt like a platonic type conversation but then she asked me what I was doing later. Only time there was some sort of a vibe was when I accused her of being a serial killer. during the date I was thinking “damn this shit isn’t going too well” and then she hits me with that so now I’m overthinking like a motherfucker. Like “damn maybe I should’ve been more funny or tried to flirt better.”
Your advice has never steered me wrong. What say ye red pill brethren
Ye11ow 1y ago
You need to stop thinking of a script before saying anything. Regular conversation happens naturally without thinking. Just start off with talking about school, the place you're at and she'll respond. Then it just goes from there. When you think of a script, it will never match exactly which will throw you off and create awkward situations like this one.
chadinthemaking69 1y ago
Yeah I think I’m spergging. Everytime a woman asks me a question in my head I’m like “don’t answer this seriously, come up with something interesting to say!” and then I’ll sit there for 2 minutes and say some dumb shit and become what I’m trying to avoid.
Kevin-Logan 1y ago
Sorry, I also need people to help me with my autism
User4566 1y ago
Ok, here’s my 2 cents:
It could be because they’re nervous. Girls have self-esteem issues too. Go up and say hi and see how they react. Have open body language and smile. Think of something funny as fuck, the last thing you laughed your ass off at.
Yes. I was losing my mind about getting people in frats to like me when I took a step back and realized that I DON’T even like them! Have you SEEN the kind of people we have today? A bunch of braindead, tik tok-watching weirdos. Go out and be your own best friend. You already are doing cool stuff so I’m sure you’ll meet people naturally who like you for you and it’s not something you have to force. The semester just started, so I’d say give it a some time but try to engage with people and be inviting. Not everyone likes me, either. That’s normal. I especially don’t like everyone so I understand that I’m a little more selective of who I like to be around. Some people aren’t like that, that’s perfectly fine too. There were people here who wouldn’t give me a chance because of how I looked/dressed/smelled/wtf ever. I’m guilty of the same thing. Lucky for you, there’s 8 billion people on this planet so you’re bound to fine some people who will accept and love the unfiltered YOU. Same goes for everyone on here, I even have to remind myself a LOT. But staying inside and playing video games and beating off isn’t going to help that. So when people give you “fuck off” signals (it’s a gift that you can identify them), then move onto someone else because you deserve to be in the presence of people who like you. To be honest, the sad truth is that men are also just as hypergamous as women but in this case it’s with friends. Guys would LOVE to be your friend as soon as they see you going to parties, talking to hot chicks, being a top player on the sports team, etc.
Do something FUN. I remember a chick and I went to an old-school arcade that had all these machines from the 80s and a bunch of old consoles and music. We played games, talked, laughed at stuff and all. She loved it and was willing to suck my dick towards the end (I didn’t go through with it because I was feeling sick from the food we ate but I fucked her and got head the next date). Of course, that’s not always going to happen but I’m sure there’s stuff to do with this chick. Maybe invite her to one of your club meetings if she’s interested. Since you’re in school, I recommend looking at all the events they’re hosting. I don’t like dinner dates because they feel like an interview and that makes me uncomfortable because I’m not always great at conversations unless we know a lot about each other. Less platonic conversations, more FUN.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
You're just noticing what has always been there. Neurotypicals watch your face and eyes. Women especially. It may not be eye contact but rather a quick glance to see your facial expression.