Hi all
Following on from my previous post. I met this girl for a quick drink on her lunch break and things got weird.
She said she has a husband but it’s ok because he trusts her. I asked her if he knew she was with me and she said he knows about you but doesn’t know I’m here with you right now. I was flirting with her touching her holding her hand I think I played everything quite cool but the husband thing is weird right?
The only “bad” thing I did was let her end the interaction first I was told the guy should always end it first not sure if you would agree with that?
I asked her if she was in an open relationship with her husband she said “what does that mean” so I had to explain it. She then said no it’s not an open relationship.
She then invited me to some Christmas themed event at her Churched. She said she will be there will her kids and if her husband is there she can introduce is. This is weird guys!!!
She sent 3 messages starting at 21.30 today saying “It was nice talking to you today” and inviting me to her Church Carols by Candlelight on 17th December then "I hope I'll see you there"
I wonder if she is hiding her messages from her husband as she seems to always messages late in the day at the same time.
I need some TRP wisdom my questions are:-
1) What does she want? A secret affair, or just attention / validation / a friend / a backup option?
2) How long should I wait to message her next and what should I say?
3) Should I go to this Christmas Carols event she invited me to or would that be crazy?
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Noonenoname 1y ago
No idea mate just my life.
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
you don't provide any background on how you met this chick. please explain how you ended up going for a drink with a married woman.
Noonenoname 1y ago
I met her cold approach in the supermarket and got her number
dongking 1y ago
Delete her number and forget about her for gods sake.
Focus your attention on women without husbands and kids.
jaytionaryy 1y ago
Go meet her husband and kids bro. If youre lucky theyll let you open presents with them Christmas morning too
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
LOL
EurasianChad 1 1y ago
Yes it comes across as more powerful.
The fact that she's meeting a stranger in a coffee shop and allowing you to hold her hand = husband is doing something wrong here. The moment I heard the husband line I would've immediately said in a lighthearted way "so he must be lacking in some kind of way for you to be here with me right now".
Regardless, you need to get more options. You're going for a girl who has kids & a husband, and is a cheater. Thats low hanging fruit.
Fuck the christmas carol
Noonenoname 1y ago
She did the "we trust each other and I would never cheat on him speech" it was weird cos I was thinking you're kinda emotionally cheating on him already. She let me hold her hand stroke her hair etc.
Yes it does seem to be low hanging fruit. She said she told him about me. That's just odd right?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Dude why the
FUCK
Are you even hamstering about this. Tell me you have no options without telling me you have no options. You BADLY need to fix this on this part of your TRP journey.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
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No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
A married woman will usually tell you that she's married within the first few minutes of talking to her. If she doesn't tell you right away, she's a skank. Either way, it was nice to meet you, and have a nice day. Fucking around with married women (especially in today's society) will end up with some guy showing up on your doorstep and blowing your dick off with a 30-06.
Noonenoname 1y ago
Guns aren't allowed in this country so whilst it is risky I don't have to worry about getting shot.