Start going to boxing training, even just boxfit if you don't want to hit ; you'll learn some basic combos, punches, you'll end up in great shape too from it and the more you practice, the easier and more natural it gets. This will bring increased confidence too when you know you could throw a punch or two if something needed to be done.

Most of these passive aggressive betas won't do SHIT. Don't go crazy though and be aware of your surroundings, and try to de-esclate any potential violence but listening to why they are mad (if it does start to escalate). MOST people don't want to fight, and even if 1 out of every 200 does, with some basic training there is a good chance you will be able to defend yourself before getting the hell out of dodge. You don't want jail time, a record, or having hoodlums bringing shit in to your life for the sake of saving face.

Most men are weak though. I've had a few stares, odd confrontation in the past year. Luckily the few occasions anything has happened, they look away/down ; back track or say something then walk away. If do though, keep calm, have a relaxed manner, try to de-escalate of course but know you are ready to stand up for yourself. Both occasions, it was jealous men - one I kept making his wife laugh and the other was a guy who was incredibly drunk.

Its important to start learning basic self defence or take up a martial art. There's something useful in all the martial arts. You will find detractors so its important to be healthy and ready if they do come your way. Most are just gobshites who like to run their mouth and would be too scared or not know how to throw a punch in the first place ; but you do need to be careful especially if there is a big group of brutes, too.

hmm, I'm old, but in my day for sure we had your betas/ white nights and the guys that women want.

I am one of the guys women want, not a chad, well, was in college but it really turned me off. I do recommend guys try it, to see for yourself what women say versus what they do.

Ok, back to your "how to deal with betas". I never worried about true beta's, as they are docile. They aren't the type to start something, even with numbers.

It's generally the guys, who think they are a chad/alpha, but obviously, aren't. Like a 5 or 6 guy, who thinks he's an 8 and pissed of why he can't get an 8.

hot take: if a girl is in the company of a guy, ask that guy for permission to speak with the girl. this is how i was raised and this is how you avoid getting your shit pushed in by "betas". you know that the guy is trying to score, and even though he has shit game and probably won't score, you still shouldn't fuck with his chances - that's considered disrespectful.

in my culture, if you're doing things that will likely get you beaten up, and then proceed to complain about the deserved ass-beating - you're the beta. however, my culture and indians' are basically polar opposites, so take it with a grain of salt.

TL;DR I told him I'm gay and de escalated it all and abandoned the set.

I saw somebody mention Indian. Are you going after Indian women with Indian men? This happens to me with Indian girls and Indian guys here in a large US city a lot. The girls like me very much and the guys come up and make outrageous displays of mate guarding. It's comical but they are 100% serious. I threw a drink out in a trash can at a large outdoor venue and a 5'2" college Indian girl with assets 8/10 was there. I walked away but turned back around and chatted her up. She was loving me, touching me, giving me doe eyes, laughing at everything I said. I was excited but slightly suspicious.

Suddenly a college Indian dude who was 5'4", fat, and balding rolled up to us. He got right in my face (my abdomen) and asked "Hey bro you know that's my girlfriend you're talking to?" I told him we were having a great conversation. He escalated from there to "Well it's over. Now get moving before I beat your fukn ass!" I could just laugh!!! I smiled and laughed! It made him more furious and he asked me if I think I could take him just because I'm tall. He'll knock me out. I promise you I kind of respected the dude and there's no chance I am hitting anybody. Anyway the girl started to flip out which was getting him more riled up. So, I said to her, "Tell him the truth, that I'm gay!" And then I patted the guy's back and said "I am gay bro!" and he calmed down and I walked away.

She was really hot, I am not sure how he is with her. I have two more situations like this just from Summer 2023. Indian college girls who are hot with nerdy pitbull boyfriends/brothers/simps or something.

Doesn't matter where you move to, because these little cock blockers exist in every arena.

My advice is to not even fight their pathetic little interruptions. Just casually walk off, and talk to some other people. If the girl you were gaming was interested, she'll find you.

There's a section in the Book of Pook pdf where he describes scenarios similar to this, and he basically says that you should allow the little betas to bark and simp so that they filter themselves out. This will do all the work for you. But he was describing the scenario within the context of being at a bar or somewhere similar. Of course every venue and scenario varies, but the general theme should be that you pay them no mind.

You don't have to fight these dudes. Never stoop to their level, even if they're aggressive. Self-defense only if it ever comes down to that. Other than that, just treat them like the petulant little turds that they are, with amused mastery, and let it slide. Your perceived value will automatically rise way above theirs.

A few points. First, abundance mentality means that if gaming a specific chick gets too hard for whatever reason, move on. No woman is worth getting your ass beat for so if you think that's a real possibility, move on to some other woman.

Second though, is these guys are pretty easy to deal with. As @MidgetSpinner mentions, these guys may be huffing and puffing but all they're doing is filtering themselves out. Don't take the bait and get into a fight or argument. Smile, let them say their thing, tell the girl "nice to meet you, I'll see you around" and walk away. If the girl is really into you, she'll find a way to come back to you after ditching the other guys.

This happens for 2 reasons. Firstly, no woman wants a guy to decide who she's going to fuck. Not even her boyfriend / husband. Yes, if she decides she doesn't want to fuck you, and you're still persisting, she might ask a guy friend to get rid of you for her. But if she's enjoying your company and considering your offer and some other dude comes up and basically tries to make the decision for her by cockblocking her, she's not going to like it or like the dude who's doing it. IOW cockblockers are annoying to a woman whether they're other woman or other guys. So when one of her guy "friends" starts barking at you, all she sees is that a) he's trying to control her and b) he's threatened by you. If anything that raises your value in her eyes, and she'll seek you out even after you walk away.

Regarding reason #2 he's threatened by you. Again, not a good look for the guy. If you ever date 9/10s you'll realize they get hit on all the time. So much so that it actually gets annoying to take them out anywhere public. But if you want to date them, you have to have an anti-jealous personality. That is, if some guy walks up to "your" girl and chats her up, your attitude needs to be: "Feel free to talk to him because I know I'm better than him and you'll still be leaving with me. And if for some reason you think the other guy is better than me, go ahead and leave with him. No big loss as I have 5 other girls I can call up tonight." Acting jealous is a huge turnoff to women because it implies you're feeling threatened. In this case, the guys doing the mate guarding are acting jealous (would they be trying to pick a fight with you if you didn't represent a real threat / competition for their woman?) don't join them by arguing over the woman, implying that you perceive them as real competition too.

One time, I was at a bar and a bunch of guys and girls that I knew happened to be there. Two of the girls were hot and I figured this was my chance to chat them up. Each time I started talking to them, their "guy friends" would come up and start mate guarding. They were friendly (we all knew each other), weren't threatening violence or anything, but cockblocking nonetheless. Each time they came up and tried to interject in the conversation, I'd talk to them for a minute, then move to another part of the bar to talk to someone else. Inevitably, the two girls would find a way to ditch their guy friends and find me and wrap their arms around me and kiss me on the cheek as their guy friends would watch from a distance. And then they'd come over after a few minutes and try to break things up. This repeated several times during the night, and I played along because, honestly, it was fun and it was the girls who didn't want to break it off. I'd move away and go talk to some other girl or guy, and they would inevitably come over.

Finally, towards the end of the night, I offered to walk one of the girls home. She was down with it, but then her guy friends descended and were all like "hey bro, that's okay, she came with us, we'll make sure she gets home safe". I said "It's no problem, I live close by" but besides that didn't protest much, and just shrugged my shoulders and said bye to the girl. About a half hour later, she calls me. I ask her if she got home safe, she says yes, and that she really would have enjoyed walking home with me and sorry that she couldn't. And I just said "well, I'm leaving the bar now, I can stop by your place if you'd like". She jumped at the chance. I said a friendly goodbye to some of the cockblocking betas that were still at the bar, and went to her place and spent the night. Her guy friends were none the wiser.

Bottomline is, having guy friends cockblock you can actually be a good thing: it raises your value in the girl's eyes as long as you don't take the bait and get equally huffy and puffy and mate guarding. Make it clear you don't even think it's a possibility that she'll ever choose them over you, and that if she was dumb enough to do so, you've got plenty of other options. Do that, and she'll find a way to ditch the guys and seek you out.