Went on beach date with Japanese girl (she’s very new to my country) Date went well lasted a couple of hours, kino, hold hands. When date ended I walked her to my car and said I would drop her off to the station. In car I went for k close and got rejected with “sorry I can’t”. I replied take it as a compliment, message me when you get home. I honestly thought she wouldn’t message me when she gets home, but then she sends me a message about thank you for today I had so much fun Yada yada yada etc. I reply no problem we should go x place next time. And she replies with okay.
Now a few questions going forward:
- what happened, do you think she just wants to slow it down ? Why reject k close if you’re still keen for another date.
- do you guys think it’s because she’s Japanese (cultural differences). I’ve heard they do some formal love confession type thing after a few dates, so maybe I need to slow it down ?
- How should I go into the next date, should I give her some space ? It’s kinda thrown me off escalating other than kino for the next date. Should I slow down next date and then try to close her the date after ? I get this vibe that if I’m too forward next date I might scare her away.
redhawkes 2 4mo ago
That's what you get when you give off bf vibes bro. You guys never learn. You still live in some disney fantasy. Keep it short, tease, kino, isolate and close. The earlier you escalate, the further you'll get, or not, but you'll get your answer regardless.
She's probably grooming you for an orbiter and the message means jack shit. Always pay attention to what she does. Another mistake is trying to setup another date right away.
What happened is that you didn't generate tingles and acted like a bf material, so she triggered ASD. Playing it slow is only going to make your dick dryer. You need to polarize and she can play the innocent snowflake card with some other beta chump.
That's the point of polarization, to separate the wheat from the chaff. Timewasters are the worst. Your problem is the scarcity mindset, that's why you walk on eggshells around her.
Next time, set the sexual frame early and if she still acts frigid, off you fuck. She just wants attention and orbiters. Don't be surprised if she ghosts you, you should be gaming other hoes anyways.
Felix04490 4mo ago
I’m seeing 2 other girls, I was genuinely confused for this one. It was actually the opposite, the reason why I went for the k close is because I felt I had nothing to lose. You might think I’m capping but I’m being genuine. In normal circumstances if I had escalated that much I don’t receive a rejection to the k close. I set the sexual frame early, but think there’s some cultural considerations in this scenario - they tend to be more reserved than your western sluts. I’ll try polarize more next date and see what happens.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4mo ago
Is this what we're calling bad inner and external game now?
Felix04490 4mo ago
Reflecting on this, thank you for the advice. I was probably too beta on the date.
redhawkes 2 4mo ago
It's nothing critical, just don't pedestalize some hoe because she's foreigner. It's AWALT for a reason.
https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2oddjx/acting_like_boyfriend_material_before_you_have/
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4mo ago
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Geh
This made me barf a little in my mouth, do you think she slows it down for Chad?
Bruh
Bruh, stahp
Felix04490 4mo ago
Lol agree
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4mo ago
See edits, i added to comment in possible time you read it
whytehorse2021 4mo ago
I know very little about Japanese culture but I know it's very different. My experience with Asian women from Asia, is that they prioritize the beta side of hypergamy. Like "is he going to be a good husband and father?". Which is completely opposite of Western women. Anyway, here's what AI says about japanese dating culture:
Japanese Dating Culture: Key Points
Pacing and Patience:
Respect and Politeness:
Physical Affection:
Communication Styles:
Group Dating:
Tips for Your Next Date
Be Patient:
Plan Thoughtful Activities:
Communicate Gently:
Observe and Adapt:
By understanding and respecting these cultural nuances, you can create a more comfortable and positive dating experience for both of you. If you have any specific concerns or situations you’d like advice on, feel free to ask!
financehardo420 4mo ago
ChatGBT has negative rizz it’s internally full of feminist and libtarded agenda
whytehorse2021 4mo ago
Yeah I've been moving over to a locally run AI which has all the woke crap removed. Mixtral Dolphin 8x7B running in LM Studio. But 99% of what I do is basically a web search so chatGPT is slightly better and faster. You have GOT to see unstable diffusion. It can produce porn to your exact specs. https://www.unstability.ai/
financehardo420 4mo ago
Hahahha Jesus that’s wild
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 4mo ago
Upvote for that part.
Actual photo of people who say "rizz".
financehardo420 4mo ago
False; I say rizz both ironically and unironically and I look way better than that those bundled up sticks
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 4mo ago
You are the bundle of sticks.
financehardo420 4mo ago
Sticks n stones may break my bones but whips n chains excite me
financehardo420 4mo ago
I fucked 2 asian birds from like Korea or china or Mongolia or some shit. Both lays were the night I met them.
Imo foreign Asians are the most subpar sex I’ve ever experienced. One of the Asians went to the bathroom; I remember getting dressed to vanish in the night and she saw me n started cryin literal tears bruh. The other one was also similarly just weird as fuck.
Both women made the most ANNOYING moans I’ve ever heard. you really can’t unhear that shit. Americanized Asians (if you’re trying to satisfy a craving for some Asian sensation) = wayyy better sex and way more normal; I’d just fuck other women on this one.
Why waste your time on a girl that doesn’t want to put out lol