Cheater here. She stayed. We had an adult conversation and once she realized I was her best hypergamous option and she gets the bag, all was forgiven. Women don't want other women to get your resources. They could care less if you nut in a hoe while they're ragging.

The real problem is solipsism. Women think men cheat for the reasons that WOMEN cheat. Women cheat because they are done and it's over. Men cheat because they're horny. If you can communicate that then you might get her to come back.

As for the family knowing, as adults we all know these things happen. In strong religious circles the woman would fight for her man but in clown world they yeet everything. I don't know the situation of her family but judge accordingly.

ok brother, some good comments here already, so I'll keep this brief.

What is it that you want out of life? Do you want to have kids or not?

That should be the starting point of your thinking. Because if you don't want kids, then stop worrying about women, just smash as many as you can, try not to get STDs and have fun.

If you do want to have kids some day, today is the day you need to fix your shit. Because that is the hardest thing to get right. It's pretty easy to work and become a millionaire, and idiot can do that.

The big challenge for any dude in his 20s in the west is to find a woman that is suitable as a mother and wife. I found it relatively easy to become a millionaire, and absolutely impossible to find a woman that was suitable for wife and mother to my kids duty. And god knows I tried.

Read some MRP (married red pill) on reddit and also check out Rian Stone's blog, he covers LTRs a lot,including marriage. You're not too young to get married but if you think you found the one,Wich I don't think you have, then maybe it's time for that next step. It ain't easy getting girls back after you hurt them hard,and cheating does just that. I know from experience, it totally wrecks them if they've been loyal and are invested into the relationship

She's taking antidepressants,

Red flag.

therapy every week.

Red flag.

She said she wants to forgive but I might go on and cheat on her again.

Why would you cheat on her again?

Hang on, I just realized that due to your bad punctuation and phrasing, that you can mean two entirely different things.

Do you mean:

she said, "I want to forgive you, but you might cheat on me again"

... or did you mean:

she said, "I want to forgive you," but I might cheat on her again

Which is it? This is why being good at writing matters: so your meaning is clear.

When we first started dating, attraction wasnt there from my side

Then why the fuck did you stay with her at all, let alone for so long?

6-7 years in, and I started loving her a lot. Again, I cheated when I travelled internationally

If you loved her, then why did you cheat?

Look, most dudes cheat for one of the following reasons:

1) they are dogs who refuses to keep it in their pants

2) they're not getting enough sex from their current woman for too long of a time or are otherwise dissatisfied with her

If your reason is the first one, don't promise monogamy. A woman has to earn that promise anyway, and it's not in your interest to make that easy for her, but if you can't keep that promise then don't make it in the first place.

If your reason is the second one, then there's no reason in the world to go back to her. None. You'll be miserable.

I do want her back again because I love her. What suggestion do you guys have for me in the case like this ?

Its not scarcity mentality, its the love, man

Bullshit.

You don't love her. Staying loyal and monogamous for someone you actually love is easy, even in the face of temptation. I know because I did it. I could have cheated during all 3 of my tours in Iraq with no one ever knowing, but I didn't.

What makes you think you love her, or even know what love is?

She was rich af and I was blinded by wealth

There it is.

Anyway, here's some more food for thought:

Rooting Through Garbage.

Your truly are just better off learning whatever lessons you can from this (such as don't make promises you can't keep), forgetting her, and moving on.

You should not go back.

Never (almost never) go back.

You've dated too long.

If her family learns of your cheating, they'll not respect you. If her family never learns of your cheating, you're lying to them. And, yes, family is important in terms of marriage.

Look man my body count is probably like somewhere around 150-160ish maybe a bit more. Out of all of those there’s only been 1 that I truly could say I “loved” or whatever the fuck.

moral of the story: it’s rare to happen but is what it is. Just gotta wait till you meet another chick that tickles your heart boner brother. Maybe it’ll happen in another 100 bodies or so; have fun and enjoy the journey lol