If you find a girl attractive do you just walk up, try to escalate and if she doesn't reciprocate back it's up to you to decide whether you try again or you just move on. Is there a point in which you could tell this is a lost cause? (I always hear you need to be sexual or at least give that perception of it or else you'd be treated like one of her girl friends.)
(Is it weird that I could do it outside but when near the campus or inside the campus, I just can't. I'd like to think it's because I'm worried what other might think of me in campus or near the vicinity which stops me or maybe that's what I tell myself as an excuse. I was wondering if anyone here had some sort of the same experience in their college life, any advice?)
financehardo420 2mo ago
If you’re 21/a senior save it for the bars.
Under 21 save it for the frat parties/house parties.
Time and place for everything and buttfuck middle of the day inbetween classes is not the time. It’s the path of least resistance; way better to get some practice and confidence and momentum going before attempting to do cold approach inbetween classes
No-Stress-Cat 2mo ago
There are two types of men in this world:
Either way around, you walk up.
Problematic_Browser 1 2mo ago
Stop fearing failure.
If it doesn't work, so the fuck what? Learn, develop, try again.
DragonNuts 2mo ago
You can.
Approaching like this worked for me.
Walk up, "Hey". Short conversation topic about what they're doing etc ensues.
"Cool well I thought you were cute and I'd like to get in touch. You have snap/#?" Then "great it was nice meeting you blah blah".
Simple as that worked for me several times.
I find gaming in the date to be harder than getting a number.
Musicgoon78 1 2mo ago
All you're doing is having a conversation. That's it. I do this hundreds of times a day. It's not uncommon. It's not weird. It's not anything that anyone would look down on. In fact it's one of the most common things in the world.
When spergs call it cold approach, the meaning changes and the stakes in it become life and death or some shit.
Most people (except Seattle Washington) like to have conversations. Just talk to people. It's really easy.
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 2mo ago
Hahaha
MrSupreme 2mo ago
It's called (cold) approaching, pretty basic red pill stuff, read the sidebar
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 2mo ago
Others have already given you good advice on this. Here's what worked for me back when I was available:
Did she show me some IOIs?
Such as eye contact + smiling, preening when she realized I was looking at her? If yes, approach. If no, then don't waste the time and energy.
at any point in the conversation, does she start showing indicators of disinterest?
Such as looking away a bunch, looking bored, looking like she wants to leave? If so, just end the conversation already and move on to someone more interested.
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Typo-MAGAshiv 2 2mo ago
I do. I've been told many times that I look scary until people get to know me and what a goofball I am.
You learn to be aware of it and try to look more pleasant and open. New habits replace old.
Shit like adjusting her hair, checking her makeup in a compact mirror, etc.
I learned this shit through blog posts before YouTube existed, so I don't know of any offhand.
I strongly recommend any archived Roissy/Heartiste posts you can find, and not just for pickup and IOIs.
Edit:
Archive of various posts, sorted by category
16 Commandments of Poon
Be A Skittles Man
https://heartiste.org
https://theredarchive.com/blog/Heartiste
mattyanon Admin 2mo ago
Look, cold approach is a journey. I mean yes this is what you do, but getting good at this is a long hard journey.
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Personally I wouldn't mix my career with cold approach. Don't shit where you eat. Your job is college, I wouldn't mix cold approach/dating/fucking with that.