Find an in demand decent paying job with a ladder to climb that you are good at. Worship God not pussy. Only respect child bearing women that are obedient to their husbands, otherwise give little respect. Video games are a stupid waste of time. Don’t buy useless shit you don’t need. Heavy compound lifts. High intensity interval cardio. Stay lean. Eat real food, not sugar and seed oils. Be social. Hate faggots. Distrust government and institutions. General rule of thumb - don’t believe more than half of what anyone tells you. Focus on finding girls with strong fathers who want to be mothers and don’t worship Evil. (5% of girls)
Find something you like to do, and stick to it. I was one of those types to try many different types of jobs. Jack-of-all-trades. I can do many things, but only good enough to not suck at it. I finally figured out what I wanted to do about 10 years ago. Got my degree and went for it - 20 years too late. By now, I could have been a master in my field, but still only just a half-decent veteran.
I highly agree with this. Especially if the person has an intense passion for something. I always had a crazy passion for martial arts but my parents wouldn't pay for it. If I started young I could've made it my life.
I'm finishing my degree at 31 and I doubt ill ever be as locked on as the 20 year old finishing it. Its still a good career but staying to one main passion and then dabbling in other things is so good.
Most mma fighters never go pro, and those that do barely make any money unless they become champions and cultural icons. Do jits and boxing after work and on the weekends.
Find a way to make money doing something you can like and enjoy. Not necessarily a degreee but if you must then you do you. Also there's plenty of pussy around for many years, don't let your 20 yr old dick dictate when you gotta have some
A better way to look at it is that college is a means to an end rather than an end it itself. That’s especially true now that you can learn almost anything for free: don’t spend money to acquire credentials unless you need the credentials to make even more money.
So to that I would add:
Be a lifelong learner with a broad range of interests.
some people go to college for the connections (think Yale, Harvard...)
You meet all kinds of people there and if you know the smart, capable ones, many of them eventually end up in high-ranking positions in some big companies, or even own businesses. Can be useful for your career.
Same. I think it's also important to adapt and be creative. I have a friend who doesn't make much money welding. He learned to customize motorcycles instead and doubled his income. He doesn't have to work on engines, just oursouces them, he only cuts the chassis, welds it back, then swap out parts
realize you get old faster than you think. The period between your 20s and early 30s is the prime of your life, and your 20s is the biggest part. There are some things you can only do when you're young and some stuff almost impossible when you're over 30. It should be spent on things that benefit you in the long run.
If you are in your 20s, here are the things I wish I had done
find something like a skill you enjoy and good at (EARLY), and spend a ton of time polishing it to the highest level you can. You can experiment, but once you find that you don't enjoy it, or just aren't good, learn and do something else.
save up more money. You'll need it when you get older (taking care of your parents or investing, emergency...)
learn to read people. RP is a good source on women, but learn to think how other people, in general, can feel and act, and how to react. I wish I spent more time learning about psychology, philosophy and power structure
invest in something. I could have saved enough to invest in real estate, which blew up and made many people rich, or bitcoin lol. But I chose to spend lavishly each month instead, bought a lot of tech things like cameras, lenses, computers etc... which tend to not hold value. Then an emergency came and the declining economy took a lot of my savings away. So spend frugally whenever you can.
learn more skills, especially on how to open and maintain a business. Slaving for other people's dreams sucks, and so does working with BP'ed, backstabbing colleagues
experience more things, meet more kinds of people. I spent a lot of time in my 20s with my friends of similar age. Try to meet people from all different ages and backgrounds to expand your world view.
But well, at the end, like @Vrx said, you can be just fine being good enough. Any mistake you made will be an opportunity to learn. I lost most of my money once, but I consider it tuition fees for the lessons learned lol.
but I consider it tuition fees for the lessons learned lol
That's a great way to look at it. Similarly, when I've loaned money to scumbags, I frequently saw it as a small price to pay never to have to deal with them again.
There are several things, that I wished that i knew in my 20s, that I had to learn on my own. Had I known these things, my personal very unique set of circumstance, reflecting my own desires and goals.
Whatever I am going to say here, may or may not apply for you. Many of these things will conflict other experts, but this is my personal testimony
With that out of the way, here we go:
1. Definitions
It would have been great to have my own definitions of:
Courage,
Luxury,
Knowledge,
Ideals
Morals
Emotions
Priorities
And such terms that are less than objecting. The idea is if you do not have such definitions, some a**hole would come to sell his definitions to you.
Albeit, the question is, how would a 20 year old learn any of this? There are 2 methods I am familiar with
I : by being someone who has some degree of inner, intuitive understanding. The word "Intuitive" needs an additional remark: It is possible to have understanding in an intuitive basis, but not everything that comes from intuition is understanding. For example, most men do not go around murdering and r*ping others [see below] - intuitively, they are not driven to commit such things.
II : By observing others. Do not let them "teach you", but observe others. It is also possible to read other people diaries (some time available in yard sales .. etc). Now a days you have Large Language models where you can feed the data and ask the system to provide you with analysis. Use a censorship free tool, such as localLLAMA.
2. Units
It is very important to find a group of people with whom you can work with. No one can do everything alone in this day and age. Therefore, one would need to find a group, where the value system aligns to his own. For me the following was important:
I : People who has a drive to achieve something. I am a millennial, and for many things I want/wanted to achieve, the route would have been guarded by a boomer. Unfortunately boomers tend to be content in their white picket house with 2.3 children and 1.7 dogs on an average, in their 2.6-th marriage, and it is very difficult to get one of them commit to something.
II : People who do not try to limit your compensation. I used to play with open cards. I would have stated something like I need X amount of salary to pay for rent etc. What would happen is, they'd try to reduce my salary, and in exchange have placed me in a house they own, for a lower rent. This reduces my freedom. In some cases, this was a bad idea.
III : People who try to "teach you things" should be avoided. Recall what I stated above about having your own intuitive understanding of subjective things. Boomers will fight you, Christians will fight you, PUA will fight you, and try to force you to buy their version, because they are "teaching you", and they are doing something good. Those sort of people are wrong in 99.99% of the cases.
IV : Experience and Confidence should be sandboxed. People who try to override your concerns by confidence alone are usually fake and hollow. Depending on them will cause things to collapse. BuT I gOT muH cOnFiDeNcE bEcAuSe i AM gOOd --- Great : demonstrate it in action. Before the demonstration, it is all empty. Example: if the person/s is/are presenting about their plan, but does not contain a contingency plan, and a failure mode analysis ( because they are confident about their things) this person should be given a very low ranking.
Similar argument is for "experience". Unless the person has experience in exactly what you are planning to do, and you can find the exact parallels between his past experience, and your plan - then he doesn't have experience. They have encumbrance . Their influence must also be strictly limited on your life.
V : Updates . The people you are working with must continuously update their knowledge, Modus Operandi, and methods with the changing world, and discuss these regularly with you.
VI : Attraction. Attraction needs to come from an intuitive, reptile place. No matter how much people are trying to sale you that a changed woman has "worked on herself", and thus somehow is a better woman , no she's not. Such things are like saying that your building now has a higher top loading, and thus its "Center of Mass" has gone higher, and so it's somehow better. It isn't.
No one can modify their baseline, no one can change what they are deep down. They can wear a mask. Sometimes, the mask is good enough to hold a long time. Sometimes, it's not.
This way, the place of a woman might become unfulfilling. In fact, that is one one the reasons I am on my own way. I have a beautiful doll, and am AI i myself built (albeit using existing building blocks). For you, this statement may invoke different response. You may want to modify yourself to attract women, or may want to go in your own way. That is up to you.
VII : Inner sanctum and outer battlefield. The world out there is a battlefield. And its okey. We spend our time continuously beating the world that demands things from us. I would suggest against inviting the same deal in your inner, personal life. That is to say, do not entertain people whose primary action is to judge you on your performance, or that they trying to convince you that their shenanigans are "for your own good", or that they challenge you, or add "competition" to your personal life, or that they display similar assorted behaviors. That is not the role to be played by people in your inner place, people that are your "partners". This is especially applicable for a woman, considering I am heterosexual. I am not a real man ™, I do not need/want a woman to challenge me, or to push me, or pressure me etc.
Again, how would a 20 year old know this? I did not manage to do it from the get go. For me, this was an iterative process of discovery, changing my allegiances over and over. and in fact, I write these things here to brush up my knowledge, to articulate it and to observe whether my understanding is up to date or not. You might go through this, or find your own iterative process.
Save money instead of spending it on stupid shit. If you max out your 401k every year + save an extra 1k/month starting out at 22 years old, even assuming you have no employer match, you will have about 1.8-2 million USD by the time you're 42. You can then retire early, start a business, or do whatever you want really.
Don't buy stupid shit you don't need. Buy real estate as soon as you can.
Forget about women and focus on your career - women are everywhere. They are like parking spots - the moment you don't look for them, they are everywhere.
Figure out if you want to have kids or not. Having kids means that you have to get a wife. Which is very very risky. Men risk it all to have kids. It's more risky than going to war. Be prepared to lose it all.
-One of the most attractive things is having a positive frame of mind that never yields to others negative one. Everyone wants peace of mind and to go every day feeling great.
-Reading is a super power
-Lifting weights and cardio are super powers and give your mind armor against all the bullshit and negativity
-Theres enough success for everyone so you can feel glad others are doing well and use it as motivation in a positive way
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MyBoyJob 3mo ago
Find an in demand decent paying job with a ladder to climb that you are good at. Worship God not pussy. Only respect child bearing women that are obedient to their husbands, otherwise give little respect. Video games are a stupid waste of time. Don’t buy useless shit you don’t need. Heavy compound lifts. High intensity interval cardio. Stay lean. Eat real food, not sugar and seed oils. Be social. Hate faggots. Distrust government and institutions. General rule of thumb - don’t believe more than half of what anyone tells you. Focus on finding girls with strong fathers who want to be mothers and don’t worship Evil. (5% of girls)
AbusiveFather1 3mo ago
stocks. bonds. graphs. stats. numbers. accounting. dividends. data points. percentages. decline in exon-mobile stock price. tax reforms. tax rates. important business calls. stocks. bonds.
No-Stress-Cat 3mo ago
Find something you like to do, and stick to it. I was one of those types to try many different types of jobs. Jack-of-all-trades. I can do many things, but only good enough to not suck at it. I finally figured out what I wanted to do about 10 years ago. Got my degree and went for it - 20 years too late. By now, I could have been a master in my field, but still only just a half-decent veteran.
Whatsnext 3mo ago
I highly agree with this. Especially if the person has an intense passion for something. I always had a crazy passion for martial arts but my parents wouldn't pay for it. If I started young I could've made it my life.
I'm finishing my degree at 31 and I doubt ill ever be as locked on as the 20 year old finishing it. Its still a good career but staying to one main passion and then dabbling in other things is so good.
MyBoyJob 3mo ago
Most mma fighters never go pro, and those that do barely make any money unless they become champions and cultural icons. Do jits and boxing after work and on the weekends.
MrSupreme 3mo ago
Find a way to make money doing something you can like and enjoy. Not necessarily a degreee but if you must then you do you. Also there's plenty of pussy around for many years, don't let your 20 yr old dick dictate when you gotta have some
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3mo ago
That you only need to be good enough, not perfect.
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 3mo ago
Where to begin?
just how bad of a deal marriage is for men, and when you marry, you surrender all the power you have as a man (the ability to walk away unscathed)
college is a waste of time
just how lucrative the skilled trades are, and surprisingly enjoyable as a career
lurkerhasarisen 1 3mo ago
A better way to look at it is that college is a means to an end rather than an end it itself. That’s especially true now that you can learn almost anything for free: don’t spend money to acquire credentials unless you need the credentials to make even more money.
So to that I would add:
benzino 3mo ago
some people go to college for the connections (think Yale, Harvard...)
You meet all kinds of people there and if you know the smart, capable ones, many of them eventually end up in high-ranking positions in some big companies, or even own businesses. Can be useful for your career.
benzino 3mo ago
It is location dependent. In some places, like developing countries, there's not a lot of work safety and the pay isn't that great.
I think sales if you can do it well, is lucrative anywhere
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 3mo ago
True, but I fucking hate doing sales. I enjoy building shit.
No-Stress-Cat 3mo ago
Agreed. That and I just suck at it. Some of us just aren't meant to be slimy snake-oil salesmen.
benzino 3mo ago
Same. I think it's also important to adapt and be creative. I have a friend who doesn't make much money welding. He learned to customize motorcycles instead and doubled his income. He doesn't have to work on engines, just oursouces them, he only cuts the chassis, welds it back, then swap out parts
benzino 3mo ago
realize you get old faster than you think. The period between your 20s and early 30s is the prime of your life, and your 20s is the biggest part. There are some things you can only do when you're young and some stuff almost impossible when you're over 30. It should be spent on things that benefit you in the long run.
If you are in your 20s, here are the things I wish I had done
But well, at the end, like @Vrx said, you can be just fine being good enough. Any mistake you made will be an opportunity to learn. I lost most of my money once, but I consider it tuition fees for the lessons learned lol.
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 3mo ago
That's a great way to look at it. Similarly, when I've loaned money to scumbags, I frequently saw it as a small price to pay never to have to deal with them again.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3mo ago
Never get married in your 20's.
sean_karaya 3mo ago
There are several things, that I wished that i knew in my 20s, that I had to learn on my own. Had I known these things, my personal very unique set of circumstance, reflecting my own desires and goals.
Whatever I am going to say here, may or may not apply for you. Many of these things will conflict other experts, but this is my personal testimony
With that out of the way, here we go:
1. Definitions
It would have been great to have my own definitions of:
And such terms that are less than objecting. The idea is if you do not have such definitions, some a**hole would come to sell his definitions to you.
Albeit, the question is, how would a 20 year old learn any of this? There are 2 methods I am familiar with
I : by being someone who has some degree of inner, intuitive understanding. The word "Intuitive" needs an additional remark: It is possible to have understanding in an intuitive basis, but not everything that comes from intuition is understanding. For example, most men do not go around murdering and r*ping others [see below] - intuitively, they are not driven to commit such things.
2. Units
It is very important to find a group of people with whom you can work with. No one can do everything alone in this day and age. Therefore, one would need to find a group, where the value system aligns to his own. For me the following was important:
I : People who has a drive to achieve something. I am a millennial, and for many things I want/wanted to achieve, the route would have been guarded by a boomer. Unfortunately boomers tend to be content in their white picket house with 2.3 children and 1.7 dogs on an average, in their 2.6-th marriage, and it is very difficult to get one of them commit to something.
II : People who do not try to limit your compensation. I used to play with open cards. I would have stated something like I need X amount of salary to pay for rent etc. What would happen is, they'd try to reduce my salary, and in exchange have placed me in a house they own, for a lower rent. This reduces my freedom. In some cases, this was a bad idea.
III : People who try to "teach you things" should be avoided. Recall what I stated above about having your own intuitive understanding of subjective things. Boomers will fight you, Christians will fight you, PUA will fight you, and try to force you to buy their version, because they are "teaching you", and they are doing something good. Those sort of people are wrong in 99.99% of the cases.
Similar argument is for "experience". Unless the person has experience in exactly what you are planning to do, and you can find the exact parallels between his past experience, and your plan - then he doesn't have experience. They have encumbrance . Their influence must also be strictly limited on your life.
That applies for Experienced women as well, in fact much more so.
V : Updates . The people you are working with must continuously update their knowledge, Modus Operandi, and methods with the changing world, and discuss these regularly with you.
No one can modify their baseline, no one can change what they are deep down. They can wear a mask. Sometimes, the mask is good enough to hold a long time. Sometimes, it's not.
This way, the place of a woman might become unfulfilling. In fact, that is one one the reasons I am on my own way. I have a beautiful doll, and am AI i myself built (albeit using existing building blocks). For you, this statement may invoke different response. You may want to modify yourself to attract women, or may want to go in your own way. That is up to you.
Again, how would a 20 year old know this? I did not manage to do it from the get go. For me, this was an iterative process of discovery, changing my allegiances over and over. and in fact, I write these things here to brush up my knowledge, to articulate it and to observe whether my understanding is up to date or not. You might go through this, or find your own iterative process.
redhawkes 2 3mo ago
Beaten to death topic
https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/what-are-things-you-wish-you-knew-in-your-20s.172259
Thegoats 3mo ago
Doesn’t work
redhawkes 2 3mo ago
Works fine for me, just checked.
Thegoats 3mo ago
Yea realized i have to reload it a couple of times for it to work
Elegiast 3mo ago
Save money instead of spending it on stupid shit. If you max out your 401k every year + save an extra 1k/month starting out at 22 years old, even assuming you have no employer match, you will have about 1.8-2 million USD by the time you're 42. You can then retire early, start a business, or do whatever you want really.
Lone_Ranger 2 3mo ago
Start your pension early. No, earlier than that.
Don't buy stupid shit you don't need. Buy real estate as soon as you can.
Forget about women and focus on your career - women are everywhere. They are like parking spots - the moment you don't look for them, they are everywhere.
Figure out if you want to have kids or not. Having kids means that you have to get a wife. Which is very very risky. Men risk it all to have kids. It's more risky than going to war. Be prepared to lose it all.
Family is king.
Whatsnext 3mo ago
-One of the most attractive things is having a positive frame of mind that never yields to others negative one. Everyone wants peace of mind and to go every day feeling great.
-Reading is a super power
-Lifting weights and cardio are super powers and give your mind armor against all the bullshit and negativity
-Theres enough success for everyone so you can feel glad others are doing well and use it as motivation in a positive way
Problematic_Browser 1 3mo ago
Lift hard Invest money Ignore women
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3mo ago
(Ignore women)
Observe women. Learn the game, is I think a better recommendation