Once women get into a pattern of behavior, whatever it is, I am unsure how to change it. I think this is inevitable because no woman is perfect, so no matter who she is, if you have a relationship that goes on for more than a trivial amount of time, there will be things you want her to change about herself.
For example, let's say she has a career which she enjoys and "cannot imagine doing anything else" and you want her to be a stay at home mother. How do you go about changing her mentality about something like that?
mattyanon Admin 4mo ago
Don't try and change the world.
Learn how to get the best out of things as they are.
You'll be much, much happier
MyBoyJob 4mo ago
You fuck the shit out of her until she worships you. Mention how much you want to settle down and have kids, and how her career is preventing that. If she goes on about her career, pull away slightly (as is natural, your future with her is in doubt). Depending on how bad she wants it, she may fall into your frame. Or not
Musicgoon78 1 4mo ago
You aren't going to change a woman that doesn't desire to be changed. You can only change yourself and hopefully she will follow your lead.
Now if you're looking for certain qualities in a woman, you have to vet them well and keep a high standard. That means don't settle. If you don't know exactly what you want, spin plates and get firsthand experience with female nature. You will quickly lean what is and what isn't tolerable for you.
MrSupreme 4mo ago
First of all stop trying to change people,.unless they're on serious harmful behavior like drug addiction and you really love em.Second,stop trying to change women particularly, try changing your expectations instead. If it is a long term relationship then you should periodically do a quick review of why you're going out with said person and let her know you don't like X and Y. Changing your expectations is better and easier than ending up frustrated because someone ain't the way you want em to be
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 4mo ago
You can't change another person. You can only provide incentives for the behaviors you want. Who they fundamentally are will never change without great desire and effort from them.
Lone_Ranger 2 4mo ago
I can think of someone that needs to change their ways....
DragonNuts 4mo ago
A girl will only become moldable to you when she's enthralled and deep in desire to have you.
This is where it gets sticky. You have to set boundaries, standards, and acceptable behaviors rather covertly. You could be overt but you run the risk of moving too fast into instability.
If you tell her your expectations, and she agrees to that, and then you dive into LTR just because she agreed then she will likely NOT live up to your expectations.
If you say "God that girl over there is dressed like a slut, how does her man not hate that?" She'll get a general sense of what you don't like. If you see a couple arguing and the girl calls the man a bitch and you tell her "See that disrespect would've had me walking away for good" then she'll be careful with her words in anger.
The hard part is making sure you uphold your expectations, above all else. You can't tell her that you don't like xyz at all and then fold when she does xyz and give her no punishment.
If she can go months on her best behavior, it may become her new nature. That's when you can consider if she's going to be your real deal.
benzino 4mo ago
trust me, in this day and age where they are pumped full of feminist propaganda and slut glorifying culture, she's going to hamster it into you being insecure and too controlling.
best solution is to walk away and let somebody else deal with the mess
Whatsnext 4mo ago
I tried to do this with my last girl. I thought I could lead her past her red flags basically. It does not work. They will break you once they live with you because they drain your energy over time (read "betatization by 1000 concessions" its what happened to me.) Now I know when I vet a girl a red flag means it's over and a green flag means nothing.
Whatsnext 4mo ago
Also, girls will act like they WANT to be what you want. Its an act to lure you in. You have to be very carefull
NeoSpartan 4mo ago
Terrible way to look at it. Much easier to find a new girl who does fit your preferences.
Problematic_Browser 1 4mo ago
You don't
Women will act in the way that serves them best, within the limits of what the general male population allows.
You can only control yourself and who you let in your life. You can't change them and you definitely can't change the blue-pilled society these women have created.
ExConvictNowMillionaire 4mo ago
The only time they might change is when they are the ones fighting for your commitment. But then still - the change is probably not permanent. Finding a woman that's naturally an SAHM & submissive will be a lot less headache.
Also - trying to change someone screams low standards/lack of options imo. Ever seen a woman try turning a jobless Reddit moderator into a serial entrepreneur? Nop.. Just next them like a woman would in this situation..