I (28M) admitted to my girlfriend (30F) can I search girls up on Instagram. She responded back saying “how would you feel if I searched guys up?”
I told her it’s different between man and woman. I asked her if she does, and she says she doesn’t, but if she’s on Tik Tok and a video of an attractive guy appears, she may click on the profile.
Is this concerning? She admitted she might click on the profile, but won’t go out of her way to search up.
She doesn’t have Instagram, just in Tik Tok.
Other relevant points:
- she doesn’t have male friends
- she has proven she shuts down a guy talking to her the moment she noticed him hitting on her
DragonNuts 2mo ago
Humans are incredibly simple. Her attachment to you is based on whatever value you bring into her life, and vice versa. That's as complex as it gets.
When you go buy your favorite food from wherever you get it from, you're still going to look at something that looks good. You may loyally grip your favorite treat but you know that other shit would taste good.
You're her special food - right now. Don't spoil.
MrSupreme 2mo ago
Why would you ask that,its basically telling her you're very insecure.Thats like asking her if she sees guys bulge on the street
Musicgoon78 1 2mo ago
First off keep your mouth shut bro. Don't start trouble. That's what happened by you bringing this up.
Now you'll probably get at least one idiot telling you to next her, so these are my thoughts.
People are going to window shop. Everyone does this. Ive caught my girls doing this. It's normal. You're not going to avoid it, you can't control it and it's not a big deal. It doesn't mean anything for her to look.
It's not different bro. Both women and men look at other people that aren't their partners. And neither of them are hurting anyone .
You can forbid your girl from looking. She will realize that she's with an insecure beta and leave or you can know that she chooses to be with you despite other guys being around and attractive.
Durek_The_Bald 2mo ago
Why do you do that, and why did you tell her?
Elaborate on this, please.
redhawkes 2 2mo ago
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. If she's in a LTR, she needs to mateguard herself.
Posting here about this shit is beyond retarded. Go back to the sidebar dude.
Lone_Ranger 2 2mo ago
"I (28M) admitted to my girlfriend (30F)"
Found your problem dude.
Lone_Ranger 2 2mo ago
so cute the way you both sit together having your nails done at the spa and scrolling social media together. Later on you both go and try on a few dresses, and then maybe do see a Rom-com (or just watch the Barbie movie again for the 20th time) and sip on some cocktails - divine.
whytehorse2021 2mo ago
I wouldn't have brought it up. That's not how dread works. She has to think you can walk away at any time and get another woman. That you're the prize. I don't let my woman scroll all day. She works and contributes to the family. When she has free time she does what she likes. Things like listening to Kpop, religious crap, etc.
No-Stress-Cat 2mo ago
Just like men like to look at hot women, women like to look at hot men. It's normal.
The problem is, you're the one who set the standard by ASKING HER PERMISSION. Now, she has control of the situation.