Has anyone else noticed you will find 2 different results between the two?
Every time I left a girl after chatting and seeing each other for some time, I had always felt more in power and in control, and respected by her much more. Giving a much wider chance of me turning to her and her letting me right in, if I ever decide to (very unlikely I recycle girls)
On the other hand, If a girl leaves you, It seems like you lose almost all respect from her and attractiveness.
This is just my personal observation, I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this and its actually true
whytehorse2021 3mo ago
Yeah the difference is you're a man and she's a woman. Women define themselves by the men they can attract and keep. If Kanye West puts a ring on her finger she gets high status but if he dumps her she goes back to zero.
Men are defined by how other men view them. If you marry a prostitute you lose status.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3mo ago
not really for me.
I've had girls leave me because she wanted to give her ex another chance.
I've had girls leave because they wanted more from me and I wasn't giving it. Even with comments like, you don't seem that into me.
I could see it if, you were invested in her and she's not so with you. Sure, that can hurt.
There's lots of reasons people move on, sometimes nothing to do with you. A girl moving on from you, she typically focuses on all the "bad" things, creates things with her hamster to rationalize moving on from you,etc. No big deal, realize women have their own reality.
I agree if a girl moves on, she rarely would want you back, especially if you weren't in a real LTR.
I had plates where, I had fun and wished it could continue, but typically the girls wanted "more". But I had put them in the "recreational" category, so that wasn't going to happen. So they moved on, I missed having fun with them, but I wasn't going to change my mind.
I had them come back and try to "restart" the plate situation 100% on my terms, anything I wanted. But, to me that was just playing with fire , so I never let that happen.
Kloi 3mo ago
Your mindset is what provides power.
I should really start clipping Patrice O'Neal quotes but he has a solid one about never leaving a bitch, they just hang on as long as they can before they get sick of my shit and up and leave.
I've always had the power even when a LTP leaves me because I cut contact, she because irrelevant to my life and all but one has come back in 6-18 months just checking in.
I always use a good plate leaving as a kick in the ass to do/be better.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3mo ago
Did you not read the sidebar. This is basic well established knowledge on here
Musicgoon78 1 3mo ago
When someone leaves a relationship, it's over. Who gives a fuck about power? A relationship isn't a power struggle.
There's no reason for anyone to stay if they're not wanted. If you leave her it was a bad fit. If she leaves you, it was a bad fit. Time to find something new and better.