Why are you pursuing a girl with a bf if you are "good-looking so people assume I pull a lot (girl today told me "men with rizz like you could probably find at least one girl in this building to fuck them right here now")."

Seems very dumb, I find it hard to believe.

Also "I still didnt feel any real urge to kiss her" So you aren't even attracted to her.

I think you need to start approaching rather than let yourself be approached. 90% at least of girls never approach, ever. Those that do are usually weird or they are much less attractive than you and happened to figure out the Boomhaur/Quagmire method.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7FVmeJXwCY -The method. Works 5% of the time, sometimes.

I advocate in this case to "leap before you look". You're obviously nervous and stuck in your head. If you overthink it, there's a high probability that you will pussy out.

When I started dating I would just go for a kiss instead of waiting for the right moment. I had too many moments of regret where I didn't do anything. Leap before you look works.

Now, you need a bit of help. Don't worry about positioning your body, position hers. You are the man, you take the lead and put her where it's easier for you to kiss. That simple.

I'm going to guess that as a kissless guy, you aren't going to have to worry about being turned on after a kiss. My first kiss as a teenager was electric! I'm in my 40's my friend. I still love those first kisses. When my LTR and I had our first kiss I got wooded.

And my new plate that I'm fucking gave me a 3/4 chub after our first kiss. I made sure that she felt it. It's a compliment to women.

Your body will know what to do.

If you bust a nut too quick, don't worry. Rest about 10min and go for a second round. Take her to pound town playa!

A lot depends on how nervous you both actually get. Hopefully it just flow but it may be that you feel like a learner driver struggling with the clutch -"have I got her revved up enough to engage" versus "oh gosh that was a bit much too soon, I am going to stall her"

You lose nothing by going slowly, so long as you keep going. If you find yourself stalling, then its time to add more revs.

Just start slowly and let it build. Touch her on the arms and shoulders, hold hands, enjoy brushing over her curves. Hug her, then kiss her lightly to start and soon you will both get drawn into deeper kissing. If you take it this way, its less of a hill start where you have to engage the right amount of revs at the right time and more of a downhill start where momentum just builds.

Just enjoy touching her and holding her. Don't dive in on the erogenous zones. Going fast to erogenous zones is the most common mistake inexperienced young men make. We all watched the porn movies, we all want to get to the erogenous zones and we worry we won't handle them right, so our minds get all focused on them. Focus on the whole girl to start and her erogenous zones get ready for you themselves and any touch experienced or not will soon be welcome then. Focus on enjoying holding and touching her and you will feel when her body relaxes and she is ready for closer contact like kissing, then touching the erogenous zones. So long as you don't grab and squeeze like you are testing fruit in a supermarket but think how you like to be touched it can't really be wrong. Run your hands over your own body and you will see what feels good. She wants you to touch her. She ill enjoy it too. If she doesn't enjoy your touch, you are not doing these things wrong, she is just the wrong girl.

Even if you don't manage to do it all right, at least kiss her anyway by the end of the evening. My first kiss was a whole load of waiting for the right moment, too scared to touch much first. In the end I just told myself I had to do it and I did it badly and it was still fantastic. My lips tingled for hours, from one bad kiss. A job worth doing is best done properly but it is much, much better done badly than not at all.

Make her horny by touching her, then go for the kiss and then smash. Create sexual tension with eye contact and do a lot push pull, do just go all in. She'll be wet in no time. It's hard to miss fuck me eyes. Don't wait for a special moment to kiss her, it's all disney bullshit. Just don't rush in like a sperg. Read DiCarlo Escalation ladder if you're new. This hoe wants dick badly.

The earlier you start, the further you'll go. Don't be one of the blooptards who wait for the end of the date to kiss and go from 0 to 100 in a minute, just to get ghosted after. Escalate and make it your fault so she doesn't feel like a slut.

And the most important, create sexual frame from the start. Lead and don't ask her for permission. It's the fastest way to make her drier than Sahara. Whatever you do, don't give a fuck and don't overthink. It'll show in your behavior. Act like you've done it 100 times.

Oh I love kissing, but society and mostly women make a big fuss about it. They'd let you fuck em in the ass,they let you cum in her throat and inside her pussy, they let you fuck in every position but when it comes to kissing,they need comfort and they need to get to know you better. So yeah I suggest you don't make a big deal out of getting your kissing experience, save it for a girlfriend,not a plate, and preferably after a few months of relationship.