If you are still a student or doing a job with a lot of female co-workers, it's usually super easy to get laid, even if you lack in looks, status or money
While mens who are out of school, or doing a boring office job with no cute girls, usually struggle hard in the dating market
Online dating isn't the reason why so many mens are alone ?
If you are out of school, and doing a boring office job like everyone do nowadays, you have no way to meet womens organically
even if you go out a lot, use tinder, cold approach, you are still a stranger to the girl you approach, girls prioritize mens they are familiar with
which come back to my initial question, does exposure between people for a certain period of time, create attraction, feelings etc ..?
Lionsmane8 1mo ago
I disagree with your first part.
Women tend to mate with males preferably from outside their regular group and/or of higher status than them (perceived status as well).
First-light 1mo ago
To answer the question -yes it does. Familiarity is one of the things that does make relationships more likely. Familiarity and proximity are big helpers in making relationships possible and this has been long recognised by psychologists. .
Pre approval can be useful here- if you know a girl and she thinks you are a sound guy, it will be easier to get with her friend than with a stranger, even if you have only just met the friend and so the friend is basically a stranger. For this reason having a circle of female acquaintances who think you are a sound guy is very useful for a man looking for women.
SwarmShawarma 1mo ago
Gives you a chance to game in a slow burner mode. The game creates attraction. It is on slow burner so you don't overcook it nor boil it nor burn it.
The slow burner mode allows you to calibrate better to an environment, like other people that might also be interested in dating her or WHITENIGHTING HER.
Keep at an arm distance, give tasks to do.
I give a new girl in my place, that follows me from time to time, and pokes at stuff around me [fortunately she knows not to be stupid about it in front of everyone], such tasks: bring me apple from home, bring me chocolate, make family special sauce for me, escalating slowly and making sure she treat it as a secret, "not to get good boys to judge her".
Making fun of her, covertly ofc.
She get loads of attention from other dudes and she enjoys it, but, they chase her, while I may not speak to her for a whole day if she won't approach.
The game is the word, not a bird.
Musicgoon78 1 1mo ago
This is dumb. I get laid a lot. All of that is women that started off strangers. OLD, Cold approach, social circle game I do all of it. It's not at all difficult and I've been able to turn a date into a lay in a matter of a few hours.
Familiar and comfortable is not better than exciting. If you aren't boring, you won't have any problems turning a strange girl into a sex partner. Calibrated guys do it all the time.
Most men that are alone are so because of one reason: cowardice.
And most men will look for excuses and find something to be a victim of.
You have a choice right now. Do you want to continue for things to be hard so you can fall in love with the victim identity? Or do you want things to be fun and easy with success as a byproduct of that mentality?
It's a choice that really is that simple, but severely uncomfortable. Once you realize how simple, fun and easy dating is, you'll quickly realize how much you got in your own way and the effort we each put into our own self sabotage and misery.
And more exposure doesn't create attraction. The guy that spends a lot of time doing things platonically with a woman will become her girlfriend or her emotional tampon.
A guy like me will come along, treat her like my own personal toy, I'll fuck with her, make her blush, make her smile and even slightly offend her. I'll push her comfort zones and amuse myself with her reactions. I'll say things bold to shock her. It's not comfortable. And it's not the cookie cutter typical behavior she gets from thirsty simps.
Your hesitation is a weakness and unattractive.
Lone_Ranger 2 1mo ago
would give coins for this comment if I could.
It should be stickied. If there is a moderator reading this, can this comment be stickied?
It contains all the elements of how to get yourself out of the victim mindset.
All I would add to this is this;
You can 100% turn a day game interaction into a same day lay - you can be rawdogging within 2 to 3 hours. Have done it many times. It depends on you.
This is what women want: they want to go on an adventure. They want to do things that they will later regret. They want to be 'swept away' on a tide of feelz and emotions. They want to be saying 'I never usually do anything like this' or 'this is the first time I've actually done this'.
They want to make 'mistakes'.
The question is this: are you going to be her adventure? are you going to be her 'mistake'?
Or are you going to be a boring normie thirsty simpy number hunter? That bores her to tears with weeks of texting and orbiting drying her panties up like the Sahara?
Its up to you. Be a victime or be a playa.
Just don't come on this forum bitching and crying like a little girl.
ballubhai 1mo ago
I had to make an account to comment under your post. Need to ome back and read this every week.
ballubhai 1mo ago
Had to make an account to comment under your comment. Need to come back to read this every week at the very least.
MrSupreme 1mo ago
It depends on wether you don't mind mixing sex with work.Its different in school, but many guys here will tell you to not shit where you eat,meaning don't have sex with coworkers.Should things go wrong, it can become an uncomfortable scenario for you,not her, and the level of maturity some women display can make you lose your job, get a lawsuit or whatever. You'd be better off advancing your social life and friends group to include coworkers, work on your reputation,meet and fuck their friends. There's many stories of guys messing up their jobs because they just HAD to fuck a coworker.You do you
Lone_Ranger 2 1mo ago
the don't shit where you eat mantra is all that is wrong with society today.
It's weak and pathetic. Its an excuse for beta behaviour.
You cannot 'get a lawsuit' for sleeping with a coworker. Consensual relations between adults are protected in law. It doesn't matter what 'policies' your employer has in place. These are not the law.
I went through about a decade when I ONLY shat were I ate.
Work was a great place for me to meet women. I've had sex at work a couple of times.
Don't listen to the 'dont shit where you eat' brigade. Its just excuses for not getting laid.
SwarmShawarma 1mo ago
I'll add my story. I fucked women in my work, on a lunch break and got in trouble when got accused of harassment by a woman that I didn't even notice.
I will never forget when HR called me in and said there was a complain about my something, and then I have asked: "who is it", to stop interacting with the person, because things might got sour and I didn't notice.
When they told me a name, I viscerally responded: WHO IS IT???
MrSupreme 1mo ago
Yeah I was jus repeating the mantra, I'm not completely into it. I've made great friends at work,so not socializing with workmates is silly. About fucking workmates, whatever floats your boat, I think I haven't done it,I haven't tried yet but I could try.No morals about itz,just hasn't happened
Edit:nice to hear from someone that didn't have it backfire
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 1mo ago
Have you read any Red Pill material at all? Any of it?
Comfort is antithetical to seduction. As @Musicgoon78 said, you'll get FriendZoned.
You want to excite her. Push her buttons.
I don't. Ever heard of the skilled trades? There are few women in it, and the few who are are usually extraordinarily slutty, but I'm not at work to get laid (I'm married anyway).
Anywhere there are women, you can meet them.
I frequently catch women making googly eyes at me at grocery stores. I'll sometimes converse with them a bit and do a bit of catch and release. This serves a few purposes, but mainly: 1) helps cultivate and keep an abundance mindset despite being married and monogamous, 2) keeps me sharp in case I ever decide to cheat because the wife stops doing her part.
Virtually everyone in your life besides your immediate family was a stranger to you at some point.
Stop being a pussy and talk to people.
ballubhai 1mo ago
Had to make an account to comment under tis post. The other guy's reply is a gem. Need to come back to read it every week at the very least.