I recently moved into a residential compound. I started noticing 2 weeks ago this particular window across me (25 meters away) where a lady with a kid would be watching me while I am inside my apartment. They can basically see my entire place. Living room, kitchen, storage room and bedroom. I caught her doing this everyday, mostly during the day. I sleep early, so I wouldn't know about it past 10PM, where I have the living room and bedroom curtains closed anyway. Kitchen only has a soft curtain. But the kitchen is where I noticed that woman watching the most. It is glass from the floor to the ceiling, with a window in the middle.
Her kid would watch and admire as well, but I noticed him only a couple of times. The lady is shameless, however. I was once sat in my balcony outside my living room, saw her staring a couple times, then her husband appeared, waving at me(debatable whether at me or at neighbors above or below me). He didn't say anything, so I wouldn't know.
Even once noticed their curtains closed, but someone peeking from the side. When I stood still and looked towards them, took them I couple seconds to realize then quickly closed the curtains.
I decided I will tell someone, like my building manager, so I needed proof. So I saw her creeping once again, then started recording from my kitchen, in my home. She waved at me and had her kid do the same. Then later that same day, I saw her peeking her hand out of the window, recording me, while hiding behind the curtains. Recorded her doing that.
Today, I come back from a morning workout, I go to sit in my living room, she is doing the same thing(recording me with only half her arm showing). I call someone who I let know of the situation(they had told me to stop recording them for my safety) and they didn't answer. I go to the window, open the curtains, and this bitch comes to the window and keeps recording me while looking at me. I call my person again, they don't answer. I keep nodding and give her a thumbs up. Person calls back, I start talking on speaker, she is still recording. After a few seconds of talking on the phone, bitch goes inside and closes her translucent curtains.
People are racist/very nationalists here and I am not a local. Take into account, I have no witnesses as I live by myself. I don't know any neighbors from my building. Bitch might flip it on me if I talk to the manager or police.
What would you do?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2mo ago
Buy one-way privacy film for windows
There. Problem solved. Now you can one-way creep on that lady all day for under $20 and she won't be able to see you back
mattyanon Admin 2mo ago
The weird thing here is that you are complaining that you're being recorded WHILE RECORDING THEM. This puts you in a weird position where you can't complain they're recording you...... "Your honour, here is a video of us recording each other".
Install curtains. Ignore her.
First-light 2mo ago
Close the curtains, mate, and ignore.
If you make trouble, the best you can hope is a nosey curtain twitcher backs off but it could be worse if it all kicked off wrong. Keep a log when you notice it. Try not to even look. Start nothing. With the log you have something to back yourself with if it kicks off. You never know how it could kick off if you keep staring back.
I recall once doing a job that required me to look up in a certain direction. I noticed a lady watching me out of the window once when I did this and waved at her. She was there a few more times after that. Later I found she had reported me to my employer for perving at her in her bathroom. How was I to know it was her bathroom when I wasn't looking at the window till I noticed her looking at me? Happily the employer took my side but it freaked me out enormously in this climate of man blaming.
No harm is being done she is just a nosy woman. Its a fairly common trait. Try to let it be.
Hamza99 2mo ago
Ignore her stares is sound advice. What about her video tapping me on her phone, while I am inside my home?
Musicgoon78 1 2mo ago
Stop joining her in this retardation. She's probably just a lonely creep. And now you're creeping on her in return. She wants attention and you're giving it to her and even bringing that shit here.
You have two choices:
This passive aggressive shit is absolutely ridiculous! Go find chicks to bang and stop wasting your time on this garbage.
No-Stress-Cat 2mo ago
Hamza99 2mo ago
She's watching me while I am (inside) my home. That's fucking creepy and a breach of my privacy. Everyone I talked to agreed on that. But I have no witnesses and I am a guy living on his own, so my case is weak if I make a complaint.
How did you go from "She's probably just a lonely creep" to "Go say hello and talk to her"
She lives in another partition of the residential complex. Neither of us has access to each other's partition.
Musicgoon78 1 2mo ago
You're working yourself into a frenzy over this dumb shit. You either confront it or ignore it.
Hamza99 2mo ago
What about her video tapping me on her phone, while I am inside my home?
Musicgoon78 1 2mo ago
My friend..... You are doing the exact same shit to her.
If you call the police. guess who's getting in trouble for being a creep now? I'll give you a hint: which person has the vagina?
I've lived by myself for many years. You don't fight creeps by becoming one.
What you're doing is passive aggressive and weird.
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 2mo ago
They sound friendly and curious.
Go say hi.[Edit - just reread your post. They sounded friendly until you started recording. They probably view you as the creep at this point. ]Or close your curtains if you want privacy.
Just don't stew on a bunch of imagined slights.
Hamza99 2mo ago
You’re dumb as fuck
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 2mo ago
...says the tard with a history of tarding up the forum with his retardation, and whose current retarded whinging about a non-problem is currently sitting at 4 downvotes. [Update: 5 downvotes]
LMAOOOO!
Yeah, you'll do well in life.
Lone_Ranger 2 2mo ago
So much Aspergers in one post.
What is it with the manosphere and spergs? Can't you go and do something else? baking, sketching, running....anything.... but just go and do it somewhere else.
TheRedPike Senior Endorsed 2mo ago
Because a lot of people think they can fix other people or themselves if they just find the right step-by-step procedure.
MrSupreme 2mo ago
Speak to a direct neiborgh and ask if they have had the same problem,it can help your case in the future. What I would do is just go over there and talk face to face, tell them to stop being creepy or you're gonna have to let someone else get involved.,terrible for their reputation and for their kid to witness that isnt it DO NOT show them any emotion,don't tell them you're freaked out, that kind of people won't get it and they kinda get off on freaking people out like that.
They're that kind of people though. You may have to invest on some privacy tinted glass or curtains of whatever.