It's called misandry. Find a new instructor. I pulled my kids out of kick-boxing when it became a girls' aerobics class. I quit horse-back riding lessons when my instructor didn't understand that men have a higher center of gravity than women. It's just not worth wasting your time and money.

What is your question?

This is my alley but i don't even know what you're asking

WHAT THE FUCK is this whore talking about?

This is the only question i see in your post. This isn't normal behavior, get a class that doesn't have a bitch instructor.

Also your dance instructor is a retard, follows can't teach leads. They can help correct leads if they are spatially aware and have a move down really well but this is extremely rare. Your dance instructor sucks ass

can you find another studio? at 6 months in, I think you're ready to learn from other dancers/YouTube: all you really need is a social dance venue, and maybe a permanent dance partner to deconstruct moves with - you can make such arrangements with one of the girls at the social dance venue.

And yes, this is EU. EU is way, way fucking worse at feminism and woke shit than US, in everyday life.

I will vehemently disagree with you there.

Switch instructors or shut the fuck up about it. Your butthurt isn't going to make changes.

Don't ever challenge the instructor or talk shit. You are there to have fun, they are there to make money and can barely pay their bills. If you are deemed a threat to business they will do everything in their power to fuck up your dancing game. Many instructors don't like advanced leads around because they tend to bring the hot newbies out to the club and teach them how to dance eliminating any need for private lessons. Never, ever get caught teaching a follow anything during class unless the leaders have requested it.

I spent years listening to our not-so-great Salsa/Bachata teacher go through way too much talking. It irritated the snot out me. You know what I did? I sat there, tuned it out and smiled. That man put forth a lot of effort to build a viable dance scene in a small city and I appreciate that. He might not be the world's best instructor, but when no one else was available to teach, he stepped up and did his best. Where I am now, there's an instructor that I can't stand either. She teaches absolutely zip zero in actual following skills to the followers and expects the leads to push them through the moves. That works up until intermediate but for advanced dancers I was trained to give them a much softer lead and more room to interpret, respond and style. If she wants to plod through a turn to emphasize a point about me not shoving her old ass through the turn during a social dance, I just won't dance with her. Meanwhile her follows barely know what to do if you let go of their hands. I'm not going to sit there and argue, she can sit on her years of experience but I'm just sitting there knowing that none of the professionals I was dancing with the other week had any issue at all following my lead. Just let them do it their way. When in class, do it their way. After all - she did put in the years and built the community and that means I get to dance.

So let your instructor give her spiel about teaching leads how to lead lmao. Maybe she means that they can provide feedback which actually is helpful in reasonable doses. Teaching follows to follow is actually fairly difficult, may more difficult than having them run through a pattern. A follow's reaction to being led teaches you volumes about how they are in a relationship. Obviously your instructor is unable to reconcile the idea of gender roles in dance with her own personal views. Just let her talk.

Keep in mind you are still a beginner. I'd just give it time. You'll still get shit on by instructors even if you are an advanced lead, trust me. Start going to workshops, salsa/bachata congresses and keep doing the social dance scene.