Hi all,
So I had tinder date 10 days ago with a girl (F20). Had a cofee, walk into the park and ended at her place. I did not plan on that but you know, who refuses sex.
Anyways, couldn't get fully hard which was embarrasing since she was pretty attractive (had work, gym, solo session and was tired ad). Still fucked her for like 10-15 mins. Cuddled for some time and went to sleep. But I went home after some time.
Texted her 3 days later. Did I broke a rule with that, is the girl supposed to text after sex?
Me "What's up"
Her "O hey" "You showed up"
Me "It was a busy weekend", send a pic of bike i rode
Her "I see"
Me "you didn't respond what are you up"
Her "Im working"
Me "lets meet tommorow"
Her "Im at work til 10:30 PM"
I read that as she not interested
Me "That would be late"
Her "Yes"
5 days has passed since then and nothing from her. Yes, I know - GFTOW. However, any point of checking her out after some time? She did mention ex bf she has recently broke with. Which was paired with emotion. Also the most interesting line was "I'm tired of meeting someone for 1-2 times". So I guess she could be on a rampage.
MyBoyJob 3mo ago
Get some viagra online. There’s reputable companies that do it now, no in person doctor, just a bullshit questionnaire. I always keep it in my back pocket just in case of whiskey dick, sleep dep, or just my 30s. This happened to me when with one of the hottest girls of my life
Wintergreen 3mo ago
Idk where this “rule” of waiting three days to text a bitch who has already given you pussy, and is likely to do so again under conducive circumstances came from. You fucked, then you acted like she was a cheat meal. Meanwhile she has 100 other guys hitting her up on Instagram, why would she go for you when her being flaky would be “revenge” on you after you acted disinterested?
Funny how you’re the one claiming there is no interest from the other.
Musicgoon78 1 3mo ago
This is definitely the sperg post of the day. Slap yourself for even thinking there's a "rule" on when to text back. That's a larpers game for sure.
She was working until 10:30. You went full retard on her and assumed she wasn't interested. Very very dumb!
You don't respond for 3 days after sex means that you weren't interested in her. So you reject her hard and expect her to be excited to see you again?
Now you waited another 5 days. You fucked this up royally. There's no saving it.
Stop making assumptions as your first step. And there are no rules for texting back. A man with balls and success with women will text back whenever the fuck he wants to.
Her "interesting line" was she's tired of morons like you ghosting her.
Lone_Ranger 2 3mo ago
Holy hell man, Musicgoon78 is right - you fucked up.
If a girl texts you that she is working until 10.30pm, she is telling you when she 'gets off work'. That means she is hinting that you can pick her up, drive her back to yours for something to drink - I'm thinking some baby batter from your custard gun.
Theotonic_knight 3mo ago
Got rejected so many times this last year that I felt auto rejected again. Idk what was thinking. Any point of reaching her out?
MyBoyJob 3mo ago
It takes a matter of seconds via texting to try.
whytehorse2021 3mo ago
You could just go bang her after work... Or reschedule...
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3mo ago
Either way you at least fucked up on the two you could control and the third one could have been influenced by you doing 1 and 2 right
Musicgoon78 1 3mo ago
Based as fuck response! Bravo!
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3mo ago
Thank you, i appreciate it!
Theotonic_knight 3mo ago
Appreciate the feedback. Got rejected so many times this last year that I felt auto rejected again. Idk what was thinking. Any point of reaching her out?
Lone_Ranger 2 3mo ago
yes - you have nothing to lose.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3mo ago
No problem
I'm an admin and sometimes i even goof up easy wins. It happens. We get in our heads.
No. Juice not worth squeeze even if she fucks again. Unless of course you open her with something light hearted and then quickly try to move to low effort but fun plans. No more than 3-4 texts. Low effort.
If she declines move on
Theotonic_knight 3mo ago
Texted her right away out of guilt. She almost instantly replied and agreed wow. Thanks again
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3mo ago
No problem. Some times it's that easy
I try to always assume incompetence before malice. Perhaps she was just anxious.
Update as later
Theotonic_knight 3mo ago
Quick update: Took her straight to my place and everything went good. However, she has a high N count and some red flags, so FWB at max.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3mo ago
Probs plate at Max X dude
Otherwise congrats man
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 3mo ago
That "wait three days" rule only applied to calling a chick after you got her number so you don't appear over-eager. Ever seen the movie "Swingers"? There's a moment where the protagonist calls a chick maybe an hour after getting her number, and then he left like 6 retarded messages until she picked up mid-message and told him never to call her again. The three day rule was to prevent shit like that.
You've already fucked? You don't wait.
1) She'll feel used and discarded.
2) texting something like 'I had a great time, can't wait to see you again" and getting a positive reply helps prevent false rape allegations. Mattress Girl was exposed as a fraud due to her texts and emails telling her supposed rapist that she couldn't wait for him to put it in her ass. Without those records, dude may have done prison time because the default is "believe all wahmyns".
I see in your thread with Vermy that you recovered your fumble this time. Good! Learn from it, and don't do something like that again.
As far as texting goes, remember the 2/3 rule, the jumbotron rule, and just don't appear too eager or available. Once you hit your stride, it'll be natural just to go for what you want without being too eager or desperate.
Wintergreen 3mo ago
And them feeling used and discarded makes them not as likely to want to hangout again, right?
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 3mo ago
Depends on many variables, many of which you cannot know.
In the case of OP if you read through his comments, it seems she was glad to hear from him again, and hearing from him made her feel that she wasn't just used.
Had she been in a different headspace when he messaged her, she could have thought to herself "this asshole just thinks I'm his little fuckdoll and only reaches out when he's horny".
The longer you go without talking to her post-sex, the more likely she is to feel used.
Theotonic_knight 3mo ago
Some things might have helped her not feel used. During the date, I didn't sexualize much - just some kino and push/pull. Honestly, I had no intentions of going for sex (was tired AF). She probably sensed the non-neediness. Afterwards, I stayed for some cuddling. And the follow-up text I sent yesterday was exactly what I was supposed to send a week earlier. "I had a great time, not sure if I came across as not interested, wanna hang out?"
Thanks for your tips. Gonna see where this goes tomorrow.
mattyanon Admin 3mo ago
Weak. Don't comment on her lack of response, simply get more distant yourself.
Clear invitation to meet her after work.
Ignore for 2 weeks then send "Hey"...... if no enthusiastic response, delete.