Rejection (not getting the girl) hurts but do try not to take it to heart and let it colour things in your dealings with her. Remember, if she rejects you by playing up to the other guy and giving him positive attention, it does not mean you have done anything bad in her mind. Its not necessarily even a soft rejection that one.

In most cases a rejected man is not deficient, he is just not the one she at the time thinks is the best value in that interaction. Note: women are not known for keeping the same opinion for long. This is certainly true when it comes to men. Each wonderful new boyfriend turns into an ex who was deficient in one way or another. So don't assume the status quo regarding her opinion of him will last.

If she is taking his dick after you asked her out straight up, then yeah you need to get some distance from that but if its still all to play for, you don't have to give up just because she is playing submissive to him and laughing at his jokes, letting him push her about and asking his opinion. This is not rejecting you. I would have seen it that way when I was a young man but when you understand women its often a bit different.

Until I raised girls, I didn't know that most of their interactions with the opposite sex have no real sexual overtones (from the female point of view). I now look back on my first marriage to a teenage girl and think how much I misunderstood. If a guy comes in playing the big dog and he is high value and popular, a woman is going to want to have his attention. Since he is high value she might or might not bang him if events slide that way on the right night when she feels available but probably she will not. Imagine if women did put out for every high value guy who played up to them. Society would crumble! Women are competitive with other women (much more so than men are with their peers) -women are just like hens with their pecking orders. Many of their interactions with men are not about the men at all but about other women. If you are going to be a high pecking order hen, you want to show the other ladies that you can hold cockerel attention. Even if there are no other women to compete with many women still go for the big dog's attention and play up to him but they might never actually want to jump his bones, its often just a security and self perceived value thing.

There is no reason to feel rejected until she is on his knob after you have made a straight play for her. It might not go that way at all but if she is available and open to a relationship, if you back off like a low ranking dog when big dog is around, it just shows she is right that big dog was the best dog on offer. If on the other hand you pretty much ignore what he is doing and ask her out, you have just shown you are high enough value not to care about him.

If you ask couples "who asked whom out?" Its nearly always the guy. Did the girl know she liked the guy before he asked -yeah of course "Why else would I say yes?, so you ask why didn't she ask him out? "How would I know if he really liked me then?" is an answer you hear far more often than you might expect. You have to spell it out to them. Women get so much male attention when young that its just the wallpaper of their lives. Flirting with high value guys is normal if you are not in a relationship. It doesn't always mean to her that that guy is a potential mate. He might be, but so might you. If you don't ask, you will never know if you were a potential mate.