My relationship is crap, but right now I can't afford to leave it financially. I feel zero loyalty toward that bitch. She's unkind, bossy, withholds sex, manipulates, and the list goes on.
To keep things somewhat balanced, I've been working on a financial contingency plan, but that's not enough for me. I deserve better—I deserve sex. So here's my question: is there a good way to cheat?
Are there any cheating apps you'd recommend? I notice that I'm doing reasonably well with women at work (I'm a talker and can hold their attention), but I complain too much about my relationship, and I think that might be pretty off-putting.
I work out a lot, but I still look pretty average and can't really compete with other guys in that regard. I'm more of the smart guy who can talk women into bed. Anyone got advice on where and how? Is it worth the risk to get back on the dating apps?
I'm worried that I'll only run into crazy sluts who’ll screw you over as soon as you try to get out. I'm sure there are plenty of guys here with experience. Let's hear it.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
Focus on getting out of your relationshit
Pussy is the least of your concerns
Kloi 5mo ago
Who the fuck puts themselves in this position to begin with?
I've lived with multiple plates and a few girlfriends in my life because I'd rather a woman I'm fucking than friends or randos.
House was never in my name, why? So I can eject at a moments notice without getting penalized. Flip side of that is she can kick you out at almost any time but if shits that bad, you should have ejected way before hand.
Just poor financial planning. Do you not have any friends or family that'll let you crash out for a month to get back on your feet?
Vermy is correct. Pussy should be last thing on your mind.
If you're real sleazy though. You start fucking another woman that'll out you up. Solves two problems that are likely going to repeat.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
Men with no options/self respect/mission
FDraper 5mo ago
Take care of your finances and leave. If you are working but cannot afford to live on your own you are doing something wrong. Get that fixed first.
If she is really such a bitch, why is she even with you? Financial reasons, too?
crasshomeplate 5mo ago
Her reasons are simple and sometimes even explicitly stated: to drain me financially and have as many of her needs met as possible. She's a narcissistic bitch.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
Wait, she is one of THEE reasons you are financially fucked??? Why the fuck are you still with her then. Here I'm thinking she's just breadwinner or some shit but she's draining your money too? Fucking leave man
FDraper 5mo ago
And you comply to that? If she would tell me that I'd immediately cut her off the money.
Durek_The_Bald 5mo ago
You think?? Anyways, don't shit where you eat.
Go out and pick up. Good reason as any to get out of the house more. Use dating apps for backup.
Go for the married ones. They have stuff to lose by acting up.
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 5mo ago
As MRPer theultmatecad used to say: if you have to ask, you aren't ready.
Duh.
Edit:
Why not?
If you two are married, you're usually better off ending it at a financial low point that has been ongoing for several months; you're less likely to owe any kind of support that way.
Lone_Ranger 2 5mo ago
just get out of that relationship already.
What do you mean you can't afford to leave it? tell us why not.
First-light 5mo ago
It really is best to get out sooner rather than later, as it gives you longer to rebuild.
Cheating is best left to "if it happens" If you are actively putting in that much energy into seeking a cheating mate, think what you could be doing with that energy instead. Its a hole in your life having a side chick. There is so little time for anything else. If it happens and feels right then OK but don't invite that kind of drain of mental energy into your life if your life is already unhappy. If you were a happily married guy wanting a bit more that would be one thing but you are already carrying a heap of misery. I would not seek to add in the stress of cheating to that.
I would instead put that energy into hiding resources and planning a get away from that woman. It may hurt but really it will be better long term.
There is no better time for a man to get divorced than when you are in a financial hole. What can she take? You will suffer but it won't be for long because the biggest drain on your finances and energy has just gone.
adam-l Moderator 5mo ago
Use only the ugly ones for venting. Don't do it on women you want to fuck.