Anyone familiar with dynamics of social dancing through red pill lens?
I am a beginner lead dancer who is trying to learn by going to socials and attending classes.
I started dancing with a LTR together at the same time. Me as a lead and her as a follow. I've learn t my basics and can dance with others to a certain extend as I am limited the moves I know already, maybe 3 minute dance at max per person, but she, as a follow can pretty much dance with every lead regardless of their skill level and length.
Now I am OK to go with socials with her, as long as we go home together and there is no prolonged talks with other people, no contacts exchange. But now she is complaining that she is so advanced with her dance skills because she can follow highly skilled dancers. I don't think there is a skill gap, I think the lead makes the dance easier for any follow, mostly because there are mostly single or poly guys trying to get laid and that is the nature of the dance, everything is much easier for follows. She also wants to stay longer in socials till 2 PM without me, while I am done at midnight.
Am I wrong about dancing? How should I have the same experience in socials as a lead that matches her current experience? Should she stop classes for some time while I keep learning? How can I handle close dancing with other guys that are just trying to get laid? Is picking up a dance even something you should do with LTR?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2mo ago
Answering from your other question on my guide.
You should dump your current girl but if you don't you should be practicing with her in your living room for 2 hours. The fact you are not doing this already is a major fail
lambOfGod 2mo ago
why would you go social dancing with your LTR?
Leads take A LOT more time to get good at leading, while women take MUCH LESS because they're follows and 90% of the job is done by the lead.
Therefore, your LTR will get bored of you because she has been dancing with you this whole time and the learning curve is huge, she can basically dance with world class dancers because all she needs to do is to follow. She WILL COMPARE you to other men better than you, constantly.
I really don't understand why would you go to clubs with your LTR, social dancing. It is full of sexual tension and kino, and setting boundaries like that will not work.
I assume you're clearly new to this red pill stuff and you will also fail every test she will throw at you.
I would never pick up a hobby such as social dancing with my LTR, because guys go dancing to get laid, period. I don't care what you heard. And women enjoy being led and touched, having this sexual tension with men that can prove they are masters of such skill.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2mo ago
His LTR is fucked. You either need to already be the dance Chad or never go out to dance with LTR. And never LTR a woman who dances if you don't or aren't very good at it. I would never take an LTR to a dance hall and if we ever did we are leaving early and luckily I'm better than everyone else anyway. But still. This is a huge no no. Good comment
This. It's already over, OP doesn't even see it.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2mo ago
I just posted my second guide on this several days ago.
The fact you are in a relationship and your girl social dances and is a lot more advanced in you is SERIOUS trouble.
I cannot understate how fucked you are right now.
Did you mean 2 AM???
Dude your relationship is in serious risk right now. I would personally dump this woman. I have seen way too much shit when the women in relationships have more dance skill than their boyfriends.
I've been that dance Chad they dance with when their man sucks at dance. It's fucking bad. I've seen how women act when they stay at the dance hall till 2am because their man won't or doesn't come or stay.
This is such a bad gateway. Social dance with advanced leads is mad tingles. Again I cannot understate the gravity of the situation here.
You either need to immediately dump her or get advanced fast. I always tell men to get their own dance partners to practice with because that is the best and fastest way to get good. And to watch YouTube videos at a gym or something with a practice partner for 2 hours and that will get you good fast.
But the fact that you ALREADY HAVE THAT and still are this unfamiliar with dance is a massive problem. It's basically over dude don't tell me i didn't warn you
lambOfGod 2mo ago
she stays over at the club for 2 hours after you left?
Man you gotta get you some sidebar reading
Durek_The_Bald 2mo ago
Fucking lol. I can see how that would be highly annoying to you.
It's like the guy on the triangle quitting the band, because he's become such an accomplished musician now.