Followed through with the girl I talked about in my last thread after building more rapport. I just asked her what time she gets off after a bit of small talk and since they lined up i said that we should go for milkshakes at the diner near the mall. She said her feet hurt and its been a long shift so i just took it as a soft rejection and said sure maybe some other time, smiled and left. I don't intend on going back there, but she knows where I work so i'll let her make the move if she's interested.
Forgot to record the audio since i just kinda went for it and I hadn't seen her in a while so thought I would just ask.
benzino 2mo ago
No need to record anything. That's creepy and possibly illegal.
Just keep doing what you're doing. Think that you're selling a product - yourself. Keep improving the product and expand your leads.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2mo ago
Dude. You don't need to record the audio for a FR or even your own notes. That's overthink
Also, you went for the insta date instead of trying for an actual date or getting her contact info. Of course insta dates are hit or miss. Yes she probably would have said yes for Chad but you can't base your experience on insta date offers. It's high risk high reward.
Newbies should only go for insta dates if they care zero about rejection and just want fast yes or no opportunities. If you want XP though, as a newbie, you're going to have more hits by trying to plan something.
Also, i take it she stands for work. No girl is dying to walk around after being on her feet all day and working a full shift. Even with Chad she'd want to sit down sooner than later you need to read the room dude and try not to throw in offers with high valid rejection rates.
joyboy 2mo ago
I mean the diner was really close by so not really that far of a walk. Maybe like a 3-4 min walk so I thought it was fine. Yeah with the next girl I’ll try and get her # if she rejects the insta date and be like no worries let me get your # so we can plan something later
MrSupreme 2mo ago
I'd try again some other time,if she didn't try to set up a date some other time then you .should have done so. I think it's pretty valid to say you're too tired after work and just wanna get home. Approach again, chat her up, make her laugh a bit and try getting her number, use it only for logistics,ask a few questions and set another date on a weekend or her day off.