I have booked myself to go on a speed dating event. I have never been on them.
This event you get around 4-5 mins per female.
The way I see it, you are in direct competition with other guys. I think the top 2-3 guys will get all the matches.
So how do I stand out? The best strategy will be make her qualify herself to me. I need to act like the prize? How do I do this when I’ve only got 4 mins per date?
Any other tips will be appreciated
mattyanon Admin 3mo ago
by being the most attractive
unlikely in 4-5 mins
by being the prize. it's hard to fake it.
First of all, don't ask any fucking questions. Questions makes you look weak.
Talk about yourself, then tell her to do the same. Lead it all.
whytehorse2021 3mo ago
Are they still doing this? I heard they stopped because no guys would show up after they learned they wouldn't get dates and all the women chose the 1 hot guy and nobody else. I guess if you're the one hot guy you can get a bunch of phone numbers and make a harem in under an hour.
Wartortle This Guy Follows Advice 3mo ago
They appear to be very popular. In my current location there are four events for 25-30 this month.
You maybe correct that all the ladies will pick one guy. Very similar to dating apps. It does simply come down to attraction.
It also depends the type of males that turn up. I saw on another forum female were posting that the men who turned up with low quality. Guys who looked like they don’t have basic hygiene. Divorce dads with children.
I have seen guys post that speed dating is no different from dating apps.
whytehorse2021 3mo ago
Well let us know. I know dating app site stocks are down 60%. They had their hay day during the pandemic and then people quit so maybe there's a revival for speed dating.
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No-Stress-Cat 3mo ago
You're asking the question, "How do I make myself good enough for a woman to want me?"
You should be asking the question, "What are the questions I need to be asking to ensure that a woman meets my standards?"
You're trying to compete with other guys (fighting over pussy) when it's the women who should be competing with each other for your attention.
My advice is to first get into the right mindset. You don't "act" like you are the prize when you ARE the prize. If you think you're not the prize, then you need to be working on becoming the prize and not speed dating.
You need to filter out what doesn't meet your standards. For example, if one of your standards is that she needs to know how to cook, ask her, "So tell me, what is your signature dish?" If one of your standards is that she comes from a stable family background, ask her, "What's one thing you did as teenager that was so boneheaded that your father had to scold you for it?"
You only have 5 minutes. You need to make a list of your standards, questions that will weed out those who do not meet those standards, and get in as many of those questions as possible.
benzino 3mo ago
As long as you look good, you don't have to do anything.
If you don't look good, it doesn't matter what you do because it's only 4 minutes.
Don't waste your time if you aren't confident in your looks is what I would do. What's your body fat percentage and how is your physique?
Wartortle This Guy Follows Advice 3mo ago
I am confident in what I look life. I go to the gym and also play team sports.
My only area of concern is talking to new people. Sometimes I shut off in around new people
benzino 3mo ago
Sounds like its not a good fit for you but go and try regardless. I never tried speed dating because I dont like time pressure and I like to take my time in conversations. There's no formula as far as I'm aware of. The only thing is present yourself as best as possible, to be confident and take the lead.
Wartortle This Guy Follows Advice 3mo ago
Thanks. For now it’s more of a way to increase my confidence. Getting out there, talking to as many people. Getting out of comfort zone will make be a better person