I’ve been talking to and seeing this girl for more than a month now. She was crazy about me at first, good morning/night texts, blowing up my phone everyday, very sexual, fantasizing with me, you get the idea. I must’ve gotten too comfortable because she started pulling away about two weeks ago. It made me panic and start shooting myself in the foot even more which caused me to lose my frame and masculinity. I’ve since then I’ve given myself a hard slap in the face and nipped the behaviors that weren’t helping my case (i.e. neediness, anxiety, check in texts, nice guy shit, trying to get clarity, double texting, etc.) and acted like it never happened.
The problem is, how do I regain a girl’s interest when she barely engages? I still have access to her, but our communication has dropped to texting only. She still texts once or twice a day, but doesn’t really engage in anything and only really does so to respond to whatever I said yesterday or tell me about something mundane. I’ve been saying some fun or creative stuff to whatever she sends me or sending emotional trigger texts, but all she does is say a couple of sentences and then goes on about her day. I think her finding another option is possible, but I don’t think that’s the issue. Her life is also good and she seems to be in a good place mentally. I think it’s just her lack of interest in me that’s the problem.
I’m aware that it’s probably better for me in the long run to drop her now and focus on other options, but I still like her and would like to turn it around if possible. Is this possible for me to turn around, and if so, what else can I do?
redhawkes 2 3mo ago
Do that. Every time a hoe pulls back, you double down on it you desperate fag. Bonus points if she sees you with another hoe, then you might reset her tingles, but you'll probably fuck that up too, so drop her. You obviously haven't smashed.
This is noob level shit. Bitches pull this stuff after a week or two into texting. Always be the first one to withdraw and strike while the iron is hot.
Theolympicnomad 3mo ago
Lol LOVE THIS
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3mo ago
NEXT
I only text hoes who put out.
Even then it's only in proportion to how easy they are making my life.
Fucking me once a week? I'll answer her "how is your day? What are you up to?" texts but half will be sarcastic or have unpredictable content that is at least humorous. Every few hours maybe. Occasional immediate reply for the hell of it and for that variable reward schedule factor that keeps them unsure but thirsty for my acknowledgement.
Fucking me multiple days a week? I'll respond to more shit than usual over text. A lot of my texts will still be purely for my own entertainment, teasing at their expense etc. no simping. Maybe some empathy if they're having a shit day.
This girl is barely responding to you though. Wtf are you doing???
Next. Next next next next next.
There is nothing you can do to get her attention back but next and fuck better women. Why do you have such little self respect
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 3mo ago
You don't. You forget her and move on.
next!
MrSupreme 3mo ago
Don't confuse lack of interest with just her waiting for you to take the initiative.Some girls are quite silly when it comes to letting the man lead and taking the initiative. They literally stay put like a sex doll waiting to be used,it can be cute if you see it that way.
Text less, initiate more, actually see her in real life and forget about her being the one to start stuff, she wants you in charge of everything, every detail. In exchange she may prove to be submissive,feminine and fun to abuse. It is good practice anyways, to learn how to be in charge of everything and not expecting her to cheer you up and tell you you're doing good.
mattyanon Admin 3mo ago
So you're her texting buddy?
Why didn't you fuck her?
What the fuck.
She's not going to chase forever, and you got dependent on the validation.
Then she got bored.
No, this is wrong.
You want a great sex life.
THIS GIRL DOES NOT MATTER.
This is ONE GIRL.
Sure, try with her, but the big picture here is one of dependence on THIS ONE GIRL.
Find more options.
What do you want from this girl?
Ok, I'll tell you.
But first you have to promise that you will GET OTHER OPTIONS.
As regards this ONE GIRL: you need to shake her out of her boredom and make her realise you are fucking serious.
Invite her some place, have fun together, then physically escalate. Forget texting, she's bored of that already.
mattyanon Admin 3mo ago
PS fucking call her. On the phone. With your VOICE.
Musicgoon78 2 3mo ago
You got this flipped my brother. She should be trying to keep your interest, not the other way around. You two should be fucking every day for the amount of time you're putting in.
Pro tip. Girls like guys that want to have all kinds of sex with them and go after it.
First-light 3mo ago
It usually doesn't work. If she is not that into you, its hard to change her preference by framing the product differently.
All you can hope is that she has not seen the real you and try to change things up a bit -how you interact and what you suggest to her till she see's the real you by your actions not your words. But honestly, usually they know what they want. Its the same as us. We know who we fancy and sometimes you start thinking you might like a girl but find you are not that into her.
As they all have said, best advice is lose no sleep over her and look elsewhere, if not then change things up. Not all at once because then you start trying to be someone you are not but just try to interact as the best version of you. If you have talked a lot, talk less and ask her directly.
Silly_birb_returns 3mo ago
Many guys make the mistake of becoming pen pals with women.
Do more stuff and talk less, women like to fantasize on men so if you spoil everything by telling about yourself she lose interest in the game.
The classic comparison is playing with a cat using a string, if you make it catch it too often it gets bored, never letting it catch it and it gets frustrated. So you need to dose the attentions you give through messages, even go silent for a whole day (2 is not believable), fake that you have other things to do in your life.
masterblaster 3mo ago
How do I make a post? There is no link on the browser I’m using. Can somebody reply with a direct link for post creation to ask RP? @vermiliionRx
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3mo ago
It didn't tag me because my username is spelled incorrectly
askTRP
I assume you're looking for AskTRP? On browser or mobile you have to click the white and black box near the top of the screen which opens the sidebar menu
I know it's confusing @redpillschool if we could make it easier to find "make post" or something of the sort
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 3mo ago
lol ur still ghey
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3mo ago
Feg
"Comment must be at least 10 characters"
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 3mo ago
u = ghey