I’ve been talking to and seeing this girl for more than a month now. She was crazy about me at first, good morning/night texts, blowing up my phone everyday, very sexual, fantasizing with me, you get the idea. I must’ve gotten too comfortable because she started pulling away about two weeks ago. It made me panic and start shooting myself in the foot even more which caused me to lose my frame and masculinity. I’ve since then I’ve given myself a hard slap in the face and nipped the behaviors that weren’t helping my case (i.e. neediness, anxiety, check in texts, nice guy shit, trying to get clarity, double texting, etc.) and acted like it never happened.

The problem is, how do I regain a girl’s interest when she barely engages? I still have access to her, but our communication has dropped to texting only. She still texts once or twice a day, but doesn’t really engage in anything and only really does so to respond to whatever I said yesterday or tell me about something mundane. I’ve been saying some fun or creative stuff to whatever she sends me or sending emotional trigger texts, but all she does is say a couple of sentences and then goes on about her day. I think her finding another option is possible, but I don’t think that’s the issue. Her life is also good and she seems to be in a good place mentally. I think it’s just her lack of interest in me that’s the problem.

I’m aware that it’s probably better for me in the long run to drop her now and focus on other options, but I still like her and would like to turn it around if possible. Is this possible for me to turn around, and if so, what else can I do?