For context, I am an Asian American male living in the United States and I have had my fair share of bad experiences with women in the past, including Asian American women, and they were super unpleasant for me, to say the least. It's just Western women in general, you know? If they don't like you and they nickname you and label you as unattractive and unwanted, and say that they already have a boyfriend, then you should just focus on improving yourself instead of wasting time on these women, right? I always feel super uncomfortable and nervous every time I interact with a woman because I keep overthinking that she might judge me for my clothes, my physical appearance, and the way I carry myself around her, etc. I would fidget my hands and feet to distract myself from the conversation every time I am talking to a woman. I feel like I might or might not have, inadvertently, developed some kind or form of gynophobia or fear of women due to my bad past experiences with the opposite sex/gender? I need some advice on how I can handle this problem. Thank you very much.
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Wintergreen 2mo ago
Women are so dumb that they believe about you what you tell them (without words). You could be ugly as fuck but a girl will believe you’re attractive if you pretend to be.
Often times this is through style, social proof, etc, but women are actually dumb enough to believe that ugly guys are attractive if they act like they are. Hell, they think that viral murderer is attractive even though he’s actually not that good looking (I mean he is attractive but not enough to where they should overlook his swastika tattoo), and his tattoos make him look retarded. You can go anywhere and find a guy of his same SMV, but since he went viral and he’s not ugly people are acting like he’s a gigachad.
Oh, and what about Eliot Rodger? He literally went on a killing rampage because women made fun of him and called him ugly or whatever, and then women were calling him hot online. So it’s like this: if a guy says a girl is hot or ugly, he’s right. If a girl says a guy is hot or ugly… a guy will have to judge because girls aren’t smart enough.
wswZtyqNGQ 2mo ago
This is true and women even admit to it. You'll hear post-wall kaweenz complaining all the time about how stupid they were when they were young and fertile, but now that they're old, ugly and no men want to commit to them they won't fall for old tricks anymore.
Musicgoon78 2 2mo ago
This tracks. I agree.
Wintergreen 2mo ago
Thanks bro I’m glad we’re on the same page
MrSupreme 2mo ago
Immersion.Talk to more women,have simple conversations without thinking about the outcome, if it leads to a number close then that's awesome but just having a pleasant chat is good enough.Get comfortable around them,they won't bite.Keeo the Asian thing off your mind, I'm pretty sure there's plenty of women that don't mind an Asian guy, use it to your advantage like getting closer to your asian roots so you have something interesting to offer (like cooking some Asian food) someday. It's a feature nota glitch
Musicgoon78 2 2mo ago
You can either face your fears head on or go gay.
This is another "should I" post that sucks. You need to be decisive and confident. Or give up and be a fag.
No-Stress-Cat 2mo ago
All women do this. It's part of their biology. Nothing to be nervous about if you dress well, have a good physique, and the confidence to be your own man. Your bad experiences come from either interacting with bad women or pedestalizing good ones.
Your question is, "Why don't women like me?" Your internal response is fear of judgement, and your external response is nervousness and being uncomfortable. It's a form of self-fulfilling prophecy, because you think there's something wrong with you, react as if there's something wrong with you, and end up disappointed again when Goddess Vajajay looks down upon you.
That's not the case at all. Your problem is that you put too much weight on what women think of you. You're the one doing the chasing when it is the women who should be chasing you. You're focused too much on the opposite gender when you should be focusing on yourself.
Look at it from the perspective that you are an Earth, the embodiment of your own world. Women are the moons that revolve around you. How does a moon come to revolve around a planet? A lesser space object drifts near the planet and the gravitational pull sucks it into its orbit. The object then becomes the moon that revolves around the planet. The bigger the planet, the more gravitational pull it has, and the greater chances of it pulling in many moons.
Ask yourself the question: Does a planet give a fuck about how many moons it has rotating about it? No. Because it is a planet and its only concern is about planet stuff, and the moons are secondary. A planet can survive without a moon, but a moon by itself is nothing more than a wandering space object.
You have to build up that gravitational pull. The first step is to stop giving a fuck about what women think. Your world is all about you. Focus on building up yourself, becoming a bigger planet, and the gravitational pull will come naturally.
Here's an example of what gravitational pull looks like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75aX9mlipiY