Had a phase or two of monk mode in my life.
Right now I’ve just been grinding trying to make sure I finish here w a respectable gpa so I’m set for job hunt and future post grad shit.
What I’ve noticed is that when I’m in fullfledged monk mode i damn near isolate myself from the world. No hoes, no friends, just me and my dog and the grind.
When I emerge from these phases I always notice I’m a bit more awkward/reserved than my normal outgoing self. Esp w girls (albeit ngl during these times i beat my meat HELLA).
It’s like all my normal confidence/shit I’ve learned kinda fades out. Haven’t been spinning plates so not living the abundance of women life.
Only have 2 girls I’ve been chatting up; supposed to meet w both of them tomorrow night at the bars after I finish exams.
Any tips on I guess jump starting the process to get back to normal n shit after coming out of a monk mode?
Physique is damn near the best it’s ever been; being attractive isn’t the issue here. I’ve just noticed less assertiveness and less boldness.
Thanks all
mattyanon Admin 2mo ago
No abundance plus being rusty.
Just get on with getting on. It'll come back, but you need practice and abundance again, which you get by doing it.
Musicgoon78 2 2mo ago
Social skills are like muscles. If you don't use them, they will atrophy. Not socializing will make you mentally sick.
There is no magic trick. Get out there and start chatting people up. Don't be a fucking hermited weirdo.
financehardo420 2mo ago
You’re not wrong man; this type of shit happens every time and the longer the period of grindmode, the harder it is to get back to normal. Living by myself makes it a bit worse haha idk I’ve just been waking up at 5 studying nonstop till bedtime. Finally done for a couple weeks today.
Self thought: fuck banking is going to suck whole career is gonna basically be this type of life
Musicgoon78 2 2mo ago
Bro, moderation is key. You gotta make some time for yourself. All work and no play isn't sustainable.
financehardo420 2mo ago
I’m binging on playtime today don’t worry
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 2mo ago
I'll second what the Thug of Tunes said. Any skill will be rusty when it hasn't been used in a while.
Some food for thought: a lot of MRPers over the years will run their MAPs, and still end up either divorced or cheating. They almost all experience that bagging chicks is actually easier than they remember from before they got married.
If your shit is as together as you say, your rust should come off pretty easily. Just get started.
financehardo420 2mo ago
Midterms are done; alcohol and drugs have entered the chat.
I damn near don’t even care if I get laid tonight I just wanna get reprehensibly drunk n have fun w my friends who i haven’t seen in weeks. But im like 99.99% sure im in the bag; one of these girls every time she snaps me literally pulls her top down excessively to show off the tits just gotta not fuck it up via brain freeze
Intrepid_Place53900 1 2mo ago
( I damn near don't even care if I get laid tonight)
This!
Having a chill, laid back, lets have fun attitude, with a DNGAF about results, many times gives you good results.
Some of the best times I've ever had, was going out with that type of attitude . Strangely, I got laid almost every time.
When I didn't get laid, I got a number or just had a good time.
So, relax and have fun. Don't try so hard and DNGAF
financehardo420 2mo ago
I’m gonna be obliterated
whytehorse2021 2mo ago
Just tell her you've been isolated to study and you're still getting up to speed socially. That should smooth over any bumps in the road until you get back in the swing of things. 2 weeks is nothing. Try 4 years in Thailand...
EurasianChad 1 2mo ago
Same dude, happens to me as well. Happened to everyone during the plandemic.
The good news is that you'll get back into it pretty quickly. Just talk to people again
financehardo420 2mo ago
Tbh mad overthinking shawty been replying asap rocky all nite n switched bars to find me bag is secured boys. My boys girl is gonna wing me tn and bring her back to afters just hoping I don’t too much bag