Hi everyone,
Trying to get back in the game after 2 relationships and a few months of monk mode here. 26, currently fit and getting fitter, stable but very demanding job with good income.
I have a high body count and lots of experience with TRP. The problem is lack of social life and thus the inability meet new girls. Surely i'm not the only one who has been through this after uni. I do not drink. I go out for coffee with friends once or twice a week. What do I need to change? How do I get back in there?
Please don't say tinder. Thanks in advance.
mattyanon Admin 7mo ago
Your options are:
night game
day game
online (you don't want to do this)
work (terrible idea)
social game
being famous (you're not, so this is not an option).
PIck 1. Do 2.
Lone_Ranger 3 8mo ago
Women have fucking wrecked gender relations - but men have also played a small part in this.
The part I mean is where men have written off more and more avenues for meeting women. Work used to be the most common place to meet a partner (after Uni if you went there). Now apparently, work is 'off limits' because DSWYE. (the most retarded thing I have ever heard btw).
And now gym is apparently 'off limits' because it will 'create a bad vibe' (more retarded talk).
The UK government recently paid Ogilvy to create a big national advertising campaign aimed at reducing the freqency of men hitting on women. The campaign was notionally about 'sexual harassment' but basically really it was about educating men not to approach women.
Whats next? Bars? clubs?
We are slowly killing off any last chance boy meets girl.
mattyanon Admin 7mo ago
Obviously they are not banning women from fucking the top 0.1% on Tinder
Lone_Ranger 3 7mo ago
Plot spoiler: the top 0.1% of men are not on tinder. I would estimate that the top 20% of men are not on OLD.
I had this convo a few times recently, since I am getting divorced. Am unexpectedly single again, and so many of my women friends ask me 'when are you going to go on OLD? Why don't you go on OLD?' my answer is never. Because I don't need to. OLD is demeaning for men. Its humiliating. It's also where you are going to meet trash women, pay for their meals, listen to their deranged nonsense, and then not get to smash them, because they are now somehow 'dating with a purpose', having ridden the CC for years, handing out that poon to all and sundry, like a relief worker in gaza handing out rations.
No thanks.
Yojimbo1786 8mo ago
The elites essentially want to limit actual sex and make it hard for men to obtain it and make money off pornography.
That's why pornography and Onlyfans are encouraged in the US and prostitution is outlawed.
Lone_Ranger 3 7mo ago
I've always thought it weird that its illegal to pay a woman to have sex with you.....unless you film it.
Lone_Ranger 3 7mo ago
I don't think the elites have some kind of plan to limit sex amongst the proles - the world doesn't work like that - its not all some conspiracy.
the elites are far too busy draining the economy, interfering with children and playing in their own poop to give a shit about whether the normies are having sex or not.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 8mo ago
Do you ever leave your domicile?
Are there women at any of these places you go (besides work)?
Fucking talk to some of them.
Grocery stores. Walmart. Sidewalk. Fucking anywhere women are present, and you catch one looking your way and smiling or giving other IOIs.
randombjkdude 8mo ago
Made the mistake of approaching at the gym. I now know why it’s a bad idea. Work is off limits as you said and frankly I don’t know how one talks to someone at a coffee shop.
Lone_Ranger 3 7mo ago
my advise is to simply give up.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 8mo ago
Here's where I think a lot of younger dudes go wrong, because this isn't talked about enough:
Try to gauge how open a woman is to being approached before approaching her.
A lot of guys will just cold-open on any woman they find attractive and do so without any regard to what she's doing. Then they wonder why they're getting rejected so much.
Caveat: almost no matter what, you are going to get rejected frequently. It's just part of being a man.
Look for IOIs, or Indicators Of Interest. Did she make eye contact and smile? Did she start preening when she caught you looking at her? If she does one or more of the many IOIs, she usually wants you to go talk to her.
Conversely, if she catches you looking, does she roll her eyes or worse, look disgusted? Does she immediately turn her back to you? Yeah, she's not interested. Don't waste your time or effort; you will be rejected.
In the middle of those two: has she not noticed you, but you want to talk to her anyway because she's pretty? Maybe she's in the middle of her set at the gym, or immersed in a book at the bus stop, or otherwise actively engaged so that she doesn't even notice you? YMMV, but I found it best not to bother with these either, as it's a total crapshoot. Frequently, they won't appreciate being interrupted.
Hope this helps. There are tons of other writings out there dating as far back as the late 1990s about how to gauge a strange woman's interest. Search around and read up on it, and start looking for them.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 8mo ago
I think making female friends at the gym is fine. I knew s guy that was a master of gym approaches. he'd often be friend them and get recommended to "5 of their friends"
Musicgoon78 2 8mo ago
The whole world is filled with women. More women than men. I can't understand how someone would want a specific place to meet women when you can simply turn your head in any public spot and see women everywhere.
I keep telling guys, just start talking to people. That's it.
Lone_Ranger 3 7mo ago
Word.
I would add - try talking to people that you are NOT trying to pull. Anyone. Master the art of conversation.
EmpireCrimson 8mo ago
Tinder! Sorry, that was too easy.
Go out more. You need move outside of your comfort zone and put yourself in places where you can meet women. Bookstores, cafes, Yoga class, it doesn't really matter.
Speaking of which, one of my go-to spots when I was a teen and in my early 20s was the "record store". I met and dated all sorts of interesting women. The internet killed that as nearly everyone uses some shitty service to download music. I collect records and occasionally when there are fairs where people sell vinyl I will still meet and interact with interesting people. My life has changed so there's no need for closing with an ask for a date or a phone number, but it still keeps my skills sharp.