I struggle to address my needs when I’m stressed, I was actually neglected as a kid, parents were drug addicts who are now dead and it’s caused me some big problems in life
Anyway, years of self improvement I’m doing great financially but I’m killing myself, drinking everyday, not training, not eating etc
Whenever I feel high stress I isolate myself, at this point even coffee makes me neglect myself it turns me into some kind of fucking buffoon with all the typical addictions
The question is
Do I try and fix whatever this stress response is, which isn’t working btw my life’s a mess, I’m overwhelmed I don’t plate girls anymore
Or do I just go full t total and accept I’m a broker man but have my mind with limitations that I can’t have stimulants
I’ve convinced myself I can’t quit these things and also can’t keep doing them and be healthy
I need help
Intrepid_Place53900 1 1mo ago
Good for you for getting where you are with parents like that.
Now, Fuck the past.
Get in the gym, work out hard and consistently. It's good for your mental health also, do some form of cardio with the weights.
Clean your diet up and stop drinking.
Find some hobbies that interest you, that you enjoy.
Life is short, you can focus on the bad or the good.
If you are healthy and have some money/job status, you are doing good. It could be a lot worse.
See that positivity in there? Be positive
financehardo420 1mo ago
Stop being a pussy and go to the fucking gym
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 1mo ago
Firstly, stop the negative self-talk.
Yes.
Secondly, and I recommend these books to every man no matter what his situation is, read "No More Mr. NiceGuy" by Dr. Robert Glover and "When I Say No I Feel Guilty" by Dr. Manuel Smith.
Both books help with assertiveness and understanding that you are worth your own efforts.
Thirdly, and all of these are concurrent, you may need to cut back on some of your hours at work, and build healthier habits. Start slowly, and don't try to change too much too fast.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2mo ago
I hope you get some good answers but please use a title in the future so people know what your problem and question is going into the post
MrSupreme 2mo ago
I believe writing stuff out helps finding the solution to your problems,you just gave yourself the answers you seek: eat healthy, start working out,stop drinking everyday, sober the fuck up. A great part of addiction has to do with being uncomfortable with your own sober self. Check out your self esteem too.if you want to obsess over something then make it a healthy habit instead of a destructive one.Theres many things to obsess over that can help you get all that addict energy out,many can turn out to be satisfying hobbies like fixing cars or something.
Try out some fasting, keeping off food for a meal or two gives some clarity, discipline and character.By fasting I mean only water,coffee,tea or maybe even some zero-calorie soda. No alcohol,no food,after a while you'll learn to appreciate the fasting high.
Cynicalvx 1mo ago
I know this sounds crazy but one thing that drives me around the bend the most right now is this
So I work 9-5 right
Have to walk my dog before, during and after work
Do I go gym before or after?
I used to be into bodybuilding before my entrepreneurship and daily commitments
Now I just haven’t got the energy, I’ve just deleted twitter and social media to try conserve some but man my head is really fucked right now
I need some sober time and to get my reward system back going because I’ve forgotten what a state of sober even feels like