That "all or nothing" attitude of yours is autistic as fuck. Plenty of men raise well adjusted children on a 50/50 custody arrangement. And what's more, it can be a pretty sweet deal so long as the mother isn't crazy. Spending every other week with your kids, and every other week on yourself, what's not to like about it? Get your head out of your ass, and think rationally.

You need to get your shit together, man.

Two accidental kids, ffs?

Caring about the future of the kids is a good sign, but it seems you don't have too much of an idea how to go about it.

As it is now, I'm afraid the way you've found till now is the best you can do.

You'd be better off not marrying her. And wear a condom ffs.

This going to be a messy marriage. Not to moralize but you don't have a relationship. What you described isn't a relationship. You haven't treated it like one whatsoever. Being trapped cohabitating with baby mama isn't a relationship.

You don't have a relationship at all. Sleeping with 40 other women when you have a girlfriend isn't a relationship unless she agreed to that. You don't have a relationship and yet you're talking about marriage.

Don't make this worse than it already is. You stuck your dick in the fire and you need to pull it out before you burn yourself and everyone else even more.

Putting all eggs in one basket? You just put two babies in her!

You're gonna have to take some time to think what you want and to plan ahead.You could stick around for the kids and not be with the mom,you could leave her and the kids and follow your own path (red pill is amoral) or you could try and start a family and give those kids that,a full family that is together, or whichever option comes to mind.

You seem to be in good standing with the woman, she's probably submissive and loving enough, you'd have to hold frame hard,because LTRs and marriage are red pill on hard mode.So think things through very well because this is not a silly subject,it is a lot of time and energy were talking about here.

I'm sorry but this whole post is fucking retarded! You fucked up twice. You didn't learn your lesson the first time.

So now there are two kids out there with a retard dad. This shit is a responsibility that you aren't taking seriously. If you're going to cheat that much, leave the chick. What the fuck?

And seriously, you think an N count of 10 is high? Bruh.... You are going to be a broke ATM instead of a father soon and women will know you have two kids. You're doubtfully going to find any low notch count chicks that want a single dad that won't commit to them.

Here's another dose of honesty: if you're not happy with your relationship now and it's not enough for you, that feeling will only get stronger over time.

Marriage isn't a fix. Marriage isn't a solution. Marriage won't make you want her more. Marriage is a contract that says if you two don't work out you are screwed over almost permanently.

Wait until you get buttfucked by the family courts or have to deal with school and other entitled chicks that want marriage and kids as well.

My suggestion as a divorced guy and a single dad is this: Work on building a strong relationship with your kids. You can do that without marriage. It takes work so don't tell me a bunch of bullshit excuses. If you don't want to be a dad, fucking sack up and just say you're not interested.

Second is to negotiate how you want your kids raised. You can get along with this woman, you can love her, you can fuck her. It doesn't mean you have to marry her or give in to her demands. Don't let her call the shots.

Like it or not your life is going to change vastly. That's just being human. If you embrace being a dad and enforce your boundaries, You'll have and enjoyable life and raise great kids.

Stop making shitty decisions.

Ultimatum? Fuck off, bitch.

Child support is much cheaper than getting divorce raped. You still have to show up for you kids, it's your responsibility. That being said, if you're still intent on getting married to someone, it might as well be your baby momma, because she will cause drama between you and whoever you're dating.

That's not a headache I'd be willing to deal with.

The problem here is you don't respect her. Is it for good reason? Is she really a worthy mother for your children? If not then you will mess up if you invest further in her.

"Man up and face your responsibilities" is maybe good for her and maybe better for the kids but if you ultimately don't respect her it won't end well. You will screw around and she will start to think you are selfish. Her friends then may suggest to her that your selfishness is "abuse" you may then be screwed.

Having more kids with someone you respect is more likely to be a win for you. However you will have a hard choice to make over the kids. You will be billed as a dead beat dad. You will have to more or less just take this. You can and will want to try to have a good relationship with your kids but remember that step mothers are usually evil. Your next woman will really queer the picture in your relationship with your kids and there is no easy answer.

If you want to have a future with your kids or other kids, you will need to have less time for yourself. But putting that time to the best use is now your choice.