Yesterday after work I took my wife and my 6 months old son to shopping center to eat and purchase a fitness bench. After we got home I spent 30 min setting up the chair while my wife was with the kid, he was being cranky so by the end of setting it up, she was mad. Right after I fed my child and spent few hours taking care of him. Before bedtime I placed the kid on stomach, so I could brush my teeth quickly, after 1 min he started screaming and the mother who was in another room simply kept browsing her phone until he got really loud. I brushed my teeth and went ahead to take over the baby. That's when she slapped my hand hard and I impulse lively pushed her with my hand and told her what is she doing, that she's crazy. She told some things back to me, and there was moment where it looked like she wanted to punch again, so I said hit me, what she did instead she got closer to my face and spat. Obviously ever since we've bought house together and had a kid she is always the victim, she has been increasingly been more abusive, never really initiating compromise, so of course she hasn't apologised now. She is also pregnant with second kid. I never thought she could do something like this. I have no clue how to move forward, punishing her won't work, diplomacy/compromise will only make me look weak and I'm sure this won't be last time she will do it, I only see option to suck it up for few years so the kids are a bit older and we've saved up some money. Selling house now Id lose quite a bit + most money into deposit and renovation was from me, so in divorce she would still get half. I really don't want to have my kids future fucked up, I don't want to give up the house and live in shity apartment also.
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Wintergreen 9h ago
You can’t get time back, staying together is not good. Your kids will adjust better if you leave now. My parents stayed together when their marriage wasn’t good and it just created a fucked up environment. If they had divorced I’d have learned which parent was actually the controlling one and when staying with the other I’d have had more independence, freedom, friends, etc. Don’t stay for the kids.
As for the money, you’ll lose it now or lose it later.
MrSupreme 9h ago
That's a major thing she did,she can blame it on preggo hormones all she wants but it was still a shit move.
Confront her for sure, tell her she has to apologize,give her a good scolding.Next time you fuck her (if it happens) cum in her face, pin her down and dump it on her face
mattyanon Admin 8h ago
divorce.
get out now before you end up in prison for assault after she hits you again.
sorry, but you have no choice
derdeutscher 7h ago
My girls know I have temper issues so none of them would dare to do something like that.
Women often think man will not cross the line and hurt her physically, but sometimes they need to understand you WILL cross the line.
Can you not slam her against the wall, whisper in her ear you will knock her teeth out if she does that again, and proceed to kiss her neck and fuck her violently? Of course face cum is a must. Women speak strange language my friend.
Wintergreen 6h ago
Dude what kind of advice is this? Do you not understand that he’d be MAD when she spits in his face? Normal people don’t transition from being assaulted to wanting to fuck.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 6h ago
I would get an exit strategy going and install home cameras for "home security". Make sure she has no access to the cloud it uploads to and save/document all further abused.
I'd start contacting a lawyer dude this isn't going to just stop at spitting in the face (which is assault).
This won't get better. She will move to ruin your life and if you don't start getting ahead of the curve she'll beat you to it
As @mattyanon said, divorce
Whatsnext 5h ago
Domestic abuse is never OK. BUT most the guys here are not married and likely have no experience with abusive wives who are pregnant. Post this in Askmrp as they have more experience in what to do whether you stay or likely go. (My personal opinion is to get out now before you end up in jail as that is where i see this going. The problem is she is going to alienate your kids against you, but that will probably happen regardless.)
dirtymikeandtheboyz 5h ago
i had a long term girlfriend like that, temper issues that knew no bounds and she even one time punched me in the face. Brought out the worst side of me that I have never had with or before her (where i would lose my temper and say and do things that were as malicious as possible). That relationship ended with me calling the cops on her because she was going crazy in my apartment (cops filed a restraining order against her and ordered her to attend mandatory anger management).
This sounds very similar to the beginnings of that relationship, I tried talking it out, compromising.. etc.... and she tried her best to change but behaviors like this are innate and almost impossible to resolve. Get out before it gets really ugly, this will 100% get way worse.