You can’t get time back, staying together is not good. Your kids will adjust better if you leave now. My parents stayed together when their marriage wasn’t good and it just created a fucked up environment. If they had divorced I’d have learned which parent was actually the controlling one and when staying with the other I’d have had more independence, freedom, friends, etc. Don’t stay for the kids.

As for the money, you’ll lose it now or lose it later.

That's a major thing she did,she can blame it on preggo hormones all she wants but it was still a shit move.

Confront her for sure, tell her she has to apologize,give her a good scolding.Next time you fuck her (if it happens) cum in her face, pin her down and dump it on her face

divorce.

get out now before you end up in prison for assault after she hits you again.

sorry, but you have no choice

I would get an exit strategy going and install home cameras for "home security". Make sure she has no access to the cloud it uploads to and save/document all further abused.

I'd start contacting a lawyer dude this isn't going to just stop at spitting in the face (which is assault).

This won't get better. She will move to ruin your life and if you don't start getting ahead of the curve she'll beat you to it

As @mattyanon said, divorce

Domestic abuse is never OK. BUT most the guys here are not married and likely have no experience with abusive wives who are pregnant. Post this in Askmrp as they have more experience in what to do whether you stay or likely go. (My personal opinion is to get out now before you end up in jail as that is where i see this going. The problem is she is going to alienate your kids against you, but that will probably happen regardless.)

i had a long term girlfriend like that, temper issues that knew no bounds and she even one time punched me in the face. Brought out the worst side of me that I have never had with or before her (where i would lose my temper and say and do things that were as malicious as possible). That relationship ended with me calling the cops on her because she was going crazy in my apartment (cops filed a restraining order against her and ordered her to attend mandatory anger management).

This sounds very similar to the beginnings of that relationship, I tried talking it out, compromising.. etc.... and she tried her best to change but behaviors like this are innate and almost impossible to resolve. Get out before it gets really ugly, this will 100% get way worse.

obvious troll post and y'all took the bait

Get out now

This is a perfect example of when it is appropriate to activate a Game of Dread. Time to disappear for a couple of days, no contact.

This smells fake to me. Who the fuck refers to his wife like this:

he started screaming and the mother who was in another room simply kept browsing her phone until he got really loud

Just in case this is real, and your English is just bad, I'm going to go against the grain a bit here.

You really don't want to listen to marriage advice from people who've never been married, no matter how well intended.

I've never dealt with a pregnant wife myself (my wife can't have kids), but I can tell you that if this was an isolated incident, divorce might not be the best move.

If this was not an isolated incident, your problems likely started ages ago. Example:

so I said hit me

That was just stupid. Why would you invite trouble? And just so you know: women will just about always, always, always call your bluff.

You have a lot of work to do, whether you choose to stay with her or not. The work is on yourself, and you'll get to a point where she'll either start falling in line, or you'll wonder "why the fuck should this useless bitch enjoy the fruits of all my work? What value does she even add to my life?!"

1) slow down, and breathe.

2) learn to keep your mouth shut. Remaining silent is better than saying something stupid.

3) Get thee to /r/MarriedRedPill. Read their sidebar, especially "No More Mr. NiceGuy" and "When I Say No I Feel Guilty". I also recommend using Rian Stone's sidebar series at his YouTube channel as a companion to (not a substitute for) all the sidebar readings.

4) if you aren't already, get to lifting. Much has been written elsewhere as to why this is important, and this reply is already long.

5) be patient. This is a marathon, and not a sprint.

Good luck

There is very little you can do in this situation. Any action you take is likely to be considered coercive or abusive by feminists.

It is true that pregnancy can make women behave badly but you are in an asymetric situation where you must be Mr Perfect and she can treat you like dirt in the eyes of the law and it will all be mitigated by pregnancy or you saying "no" and setting an abusive or coercive boundary. Forgiving her is likely to just get you treated worse in future because you can't ever lay down a hard boundary to her behaviour. The limits to what she can do are pretty much what she wants to do.

Those who warn you that you will pay more later for splitting are right. It is aways cheaper for a man to divorce in the building stage of his life not later when he has built and lacks the strength or time to rebuild.

If you do not use this abusive behaviour as your get out permit and run now, the only thing you can do is tell all your friends (to document the behaviour) and then go away for a few weeks to make it clear that you will not tolerate the abusive behaviour.

Beware if you call abuse, she will almost certainly call counter abuse. You will have been verbally and emotionally abusing her and coercing her into a traditionally female role and the physical outburst will be a desperate cry for help.

The problem is women today have so much legal power that you can't take them on legally, verbally or by drawing boundaries, you can only walk away if they overdo it. They are the queens who ruin their own kingdoms.